clingy cancer.

Here is my thing. Its hard for me to intimately like someone. Im very hard to get. Im very private and secretive at first until im comfortable. I feel.id i dont like you like that which is rare im not clingy at all. I move my space i wont call or contact you i dont care. But on the other hand if i do like you maybe im clingy or just showing interest. Why do people have an issue if someone buys them flowers, takes them on trips asks about their day, wants to keep in touch, wants to make you feel appreciated and courted, isnt this normal when you 100 into someone? Why would that be clingy? Why do i need to text you 2 timws maybe 3 times a day with no response like you see my messege why not just say hey leave me alone. I think people dont see or understand cancers and clinginess whatever you call it. If someone is into you, you will know it, and if the feelings were mutual you wouldnt mind a little clinginess and affectionate or attention being spoiled.

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Posted by Arielle83
People don't appreciate, appreciation.

It's considered "clingy" etcetera. because they don't feel valued.

We live in a self deprecating society so when someone is genuine and sincere, they are seen as weak.

Yep, and IMO it's pretty fucking strong to be able to put ourselves on the line, to show some vulnerability by caring for others......and it gets labeled "clingy".

Posted by Arielle83

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Posted by Arielle83
People don't appreciate, appreciation.

It's considered "clingy" etcetera. because they don't feel valued.

We live in a self deprecating society so when someone is genuine and sincere, they are seen as weak.

Yep, and IMO it's pretty fucking strong to be able to put ourselves on the line, to show some vulnerability by caring for others......and it gets labeled "clingy".

That's exactly it.

You care, you're a pushover.
You care, you're a doormat.
You care, you have no life.
You care, you're pathetic.
Etc.

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You care and then you get screwed over. This is why people are afraid to be caring. Well, at least I am.

Yes exactly everyone it like i just want to love you why i have to be clingy and weak. Im just trying to be caring.

Posted by lovely77
Yes exactly everyone it like i just want to love you why i have to be clingy and weak. Im just trying to be caring.

My crab was like this for the first few months, shit went down, and ever since then he's not the same. Now i'm the clingy one and I think it scared him off. :/ I've also "broken" up with him like 10 times though, yikes. But what do you make of my situation? (He said I love you, which is a rare occurrence, the last I saw him the day before Christmas)

If he loves you believe him and his actions. Also breaking uo with a cancer 10 times the emotional roller coaster gets draining try. Ot to do the breaking up stuff. Also cancer men is quite different from the women : ( @jkats

Maybe because I'm a water sign too but I feel the same... it takes me a bit to open up to someone fully but if I do it's because they put the work in to get to know me and then when we're together I happily get to "spoil" them... how is that clingy??

To me clingy is someone literally not wanting you to do anything with anyone else, demanding more attention than you have time to give them, and that's just not healthy.

I expect multiple-times a day contact when I'm in a relationship. Phone call and texting here and there. I love buying things for my sweetie because, um, gifts are awesome, and I'm thoughtful.

I don't understand why anyone would consider normal healthy relationship behavior 'clingy.'

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
Maybe because I'm a water sign too but I feel the same... it takes me a bit to open up to someone fully but if I do it's because they put the work in to get to know me and then when we're together I happily get to "spoil" them... how is that clingy??

To me clingy is someone literally not wanting you to do anything with anyone else, demanding more attention than you have time to give them, and that's just not healthy.

I expect multiple-times a day contact when I'm in a relationship. Phone call and texting here and there. I love buying things for my sweetie because, um, gifts are awesome, and I'm thoughtful.

I don't understand why anyone would consider normal healthy relationship behavior 'clingy.'

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Exactly and never in my life have i done that yet they paint cancers up to be too clingy i love ny space and i give ppl tbeir freedom. I actually dated all air signs and to me they were very clingy and possesive i couldnt do anything. Maybe it was just the ones i dated idk.