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Date with a Virgo
Posted by kindness
I sent him a text yesterday, asking how his weekend was and Mothers Day, he responded, and I told him how mine was... and thats it.
So..between yesterday and today, the world ended right?
Posted by kindness
I'm cutting my losses with this one, but would just like some incite.click to expand
1. We won't tolerate people who spell "insight" as "incite"
2. We won't tolerate people who don't have their own life going on and would cut us off because we dared live ours.
You are cutting your losses because you had a brief text conversation? One thing I have learned over the years that I have dated/been involved with Virgos, is you need patience and if you don't have that, yes cut your losses. Did you try to continue the conversation? Some guys do not like to text just FYI. You guys just reconnected again and it's been what a week since your date? Virgos take time to absorb and digest, just like we do Aqua. There are many similarities between Virgo and Aqua, keep that in mind. But other things will play a part as well, upbringing, life experiences, just to name a few.
The going out again, did you guys plan anything specific or was it more of we should do this again? I think you are being rash in deciding to cut your losses (it hasn't even been a week!), but if you really are the impatient type then it is for the best.
The going out again, did you guys plan anything specific or was it more of we should do this again? I think you are being rash in deciding to cut your losses (it hasn't even been a week!), but if you really are the impatient type then it is for the best.
Hello lady :-)
No, it has not ended, I'm just unfamiliar with Virgos and just want some "insight" with them. I love learning about people and their behavior(s), especially those that I'm not very familiar with. It's only been a week, so my purpose of posting this, is simply to gain some knowledge, and to anticipate certain behaviors I guess.
Yes, I am totally aware of the proper grammar and spelling, he and I laughed about this on our date, and though I misspelled "insight" I am sure to proof read my texts to him. That was an easy one to figure out either way. He is the first male that actually sent grammatically correct texts, which I appreciated. I'm not a fan of short hand text lingo.
Let me clarify, what I meant by "cutting my losses" with this one, is that I'm fine with whatever happens or doesn't, I'm not expecting anything. I say this, only because in the past, I have gotten excited about things, and have been disappointed. So, it's more of a mental thing, then me actually cutting him out or dismissing him.
No, it has not ended, I'm just unfamiliar with Virgos and just want some "insight" with them. I love learning about people and their behavior(s), especially those that I'm not very familiar with. It's only been a week, so my purpose of posting this, is simply to gain some knowledge, and to anticipate certain behaviors I guess.
Yes, I am totally aware of the proper grammar and spelling, he and I laughed about this on our date, and though I misspelled "insight" I am sure to proof read my texts to him. That was an easy one to figure out either way. He is the first male that actually sent grammatically correct texts, which I appreciated. I'm not a fan of short hand text lingo.
Let me clarify, what I meant by "cutting my losses" with this one, is that I'm fine with whatever happens or doesn't, I'm not expecting anything. I say this, only because in the past, I have gotten excited about things, and have been disappointed. So, it's more of a mental thing, then me actually cutting him out or dismissing him.
Posted by DamnataPosted by kindness
I sent him a text yesterday, asking how his weekend was and Mothers Day, he responded, and I told him how mine was... and thats it.
So..between yesterday and today, the world ended right?
Posted by kindness
I'm cutting my losses with this one, but would just like some incite.
1. We won't tolerate people who spell "insight" as "incite"
2. We won't tolerate people who don't have their own life going on and would cut us off because we dared live ours.click to expand
Whose this royal WE? Me? I'm tired of people assuming a typo is an intentional spelling mistake and don't just address the issue at hand. It's one of the more banal observations one can make and comes off as smug and petty. Free feedback. I wish you didn't feel compelled to respond to every freaking thread. I know you're young but hon but less is more.
Getting to know someone is an awkward experience and there are few rules in the beginning. Be honest. Try not to put the cart before the horse. Go slow and get to know the person you are interested in. Also, be wary of guys who try to "fast forward" a relationship. What I mean is they come on very strong, too strong in the beginning and then fizzle out just as quickly. That's a typical player move who is just looking for an ego boost or to hit it and quit it. Again, take your time and continue to live your life.
Posted by kindness
So, I'm an aquarius female, and went on a date with a Virgo (male) last Wednesday. We went to highschool together, and reconnected via good ole social media. I was a bit nervous, I hate dating, but all in all...it went well. Conversation flowed, beer flowed... it was fun. He sent me a text the next morning at 8am and a few more times throughout the day, and we agreed that it was fun and we should go out again. We texted a bit on Friday. I hadn't heard from him over the weekend, so I sent him a text yesterday, asking how his weekend was and Mothers Day, he responded, and I told him how mine was... and thats it.
I don't have much experience with Virgos, so I don't really know what to expect, but am beginning to think that perhaps he was just being nice about going out again, and that I blew it somehow on our date.I'm cutting my losses with this one, but would just like some incite.
Who made contact first on Friday?
Also, if you think you're over-analyzing, it is likely a walk in the park compared to what he's doing.
He's probably thinking about EXACTLY how the next date will go, in excruciating detail.
Unless he has a lot of Leo placements--
However... I wouldn't get too concerned until it gets closer to the weekend.
If he hasn't contacted you by then-- ehh... move on.
Este8: Thank you. Yes, getting to know someone is a timely process, and I should proceed to do so ever so gently. I'm always honest, I'm most concerned with me offering up too much information too soon.
Virgo: So, what type of music do you listen to?
Me: I like everything. I think a person's playlist is so personal, it's like a diary written in song lyrics. I was at a friends house and he told me I could use his ipod. I started to listen to it and had to turn it off, I felt like I was invading his privacy.
Virgo: You can see my playlist.
Me: What do you think of your IPA?
Virgo: I really like it, thank you for the recommendation.
Me: Oh wow... I was first introduced to it 2 years ago, my friends and I all thought we were doing ourselves a favor.....
Blah...blah...blah.... seriously. This is an example of my nervous diarrhea of the mouth. Hahaha!
feby16aqua: Yes, that is very sound advice, thank you.
xv1127: I'm sorry, I'm not really understanding what you're saying here.
Montgomery: He did. It was at 8am :-). I don't think I'm over-analyzing per say, but am more just curious, since this Virgo territory is pretty new to me. I can only imagine that he's thinking out the details. Well, I know he is super busy. He's a teacher, a coach for baseball, works 2 nights at a restaurant and has a young daughter he shares custody with. So, anytime he has/will set aside to spend with me, I take as a compliment and am appreciative for. Yeah, I'm not really waiting, so there would be anything to move on from. I'm just doing my thing, and should he happen to text/call to do something, I'll be happy... if not, I'll chalk it up as a good night out with an old acquaintance.
Virgo: So, what type of music do you listen to?
Me: I like everything. I think a person's playlist is so personal, it's like a diary written in song lyrics. I was at a friends house and he told me I could use his ipod. I started to listen to it and had to turn it off, I felt like I was invading his privacy.
Virgo: You can see my playlist.
Me: What do you think of your IPA?
Virgo: I really like it, thank you for the recommendation.
Me: Oh wow... I was first introduced to it 2 years ago, my friends and I all thought we were doing ourselves a favor.....
Blah...blah...blah.... seriously. This is an example of my nervous diarrhea of the mouth. Hahaha!
feby16aqua: Yes, that is very sound advice, thank you.
xv1127: I'm sorry, I'm not really understanding what you're saying here.
Montgomery: He did. It was at 8am :-). I don't think I'm over-analyzing per say, but am more just curious, since this Virgo territory is pretty new to me. I can only imagine that he's thinking out the details. Well, I know he is super busy. He's a teacher, a coach for baseball, works 2 nights at a restaurant and has a young daughter he shares custody with. So, anytime he has/will set aside to spend with me, I take as a compliment and am appreciative for. Yeah, I'm not really waiting, so there would be anything to move on from. I'm just doing my thing, and should he happen to text/call to do something, I'll be happy... if not, I'll chalk it up as a good night out with an old acquaintance.
* wouldn't be anything to move on from
Wait huh?!
You're ready to cut losses & toss this guy to the side all b/c you didn't hear from him for 1 day?!
He may like you & he may want to see you again, but remember that you're not important to him yet. It takes time & an ever-building connection before a man starts to make a woman a priority. And that's the way it should be. It's a lot easier to determine whether or not someone/something is genuine by how much things increase as the connection increases. If they're scaling back when the heat turns up, consider that red flag. If they're all over you before you've even had the chance to prove yourself, consider that a red flag (it's not that you're special--they can't even tell yet---it's that they want "someone" & you just so happened to fill that slot for the moment)
Had this guy been all over you, blowing up your phone, you'd probably be turned off or accuse him of moving too fast.
Calm down. If he said he wanted to see you again, believe him. Now if he says he wants to see you again, plans a date & then never shows up OR keeps rescheduling, THEN it'd be more understandable for you to start reconsidering things with him.
But so far he's done none of those things.
Don't make YOUR issues with rejection & insecurity HIS problem. Don't start that sh***t. Freakin' out already before a guy has even had the chance to see you twice is the fastest way to run a guy away, whether he was originally interested in you or not.
Relax. Give him the time to prove himself. Surely, a man can't do all of that in just 1 week or weekend. Don't be so in a rush. It's completely unfair & unrealistic to expect even the most interested man to give you 100% validation or reassurance right after the 1st date.
He's gotta drum up enough interest in you 1st before he starts jumping when you say jump or being all over you (hell even some guys who are madly in love with a woman won't be all over her either).
Give him a chance! Sheeeeesh!
You're ready to cut losses & toss this guy to the side all b/c you didn't hear from him for 1 day?!
He may like you & he may want to see you again, but remember that you're not important to him yet. It takes time & an ever-building connection before a man starts to make a woman a priority. And that's the way it should be. It's a lot easier to determine whether or not someone/something is genuine by how much things increase as the connection increases. If they're scaling back when the heat turns up, consider that red flag. If they're all over you before you've even had the chance to prove yourself, consider that a red flag (it's not that you're special--they can't even tell yet---it's that they want "someone" & you just so happened to fill that slot for the moment)
Had this guy been all over you, blowing up your phone, you'd probably be turned off or accuse him of moving too fast.
Calm down. If he said he wanted to see you again, believe him. Now if he says he wants to see you again, plans a date & then never shows up OR keeps rescheduling, THEN it'd be more understandable for you to start reconsidering things with him.
But so far he's done none of those things.
Don't make YOUR issues with rejection & insecurity HIS problem. Don't start that sh***t. Freakin' out already before a guy has even had the chance to see you twice is the fastest way to run a guy away, whether he was originally interested in you or not.
Relax. Give him the time to prove himself. Surely, a man can't do all of that in just 1 week or weekend. Don't be so in a rush. It's completely unfair & unrealistic to expect even the most interested man to give you 100% validation or reassurance right after the 1st date.
He's gotta drum up enough interest in you 1st before he starts jumping when you say jump or being all over you (hell even some guys who are madly in love with a woman won't be all over her either).
Give him a chance! Sheeeeesh!
Hi Krysreene7: You didn't read my second post to clarify what I meant exactly< I posted it below:
Hello lady :-)
No, it has not ended, I'm just unfamiliar with Virgos and just want some "insight" with them. I love learning about people and their behavior(s), especially those that I'm not very familiar with. It's only been a week, so my purpose of posting this, is simply to gain some knowledge, and to anticipate certain behaviors I guess.
Yes, I am totally aware of the proper grammar and spelling, he and I laughed about this on our date, and though I misspelled "insight" I am sure to proof read my texts to him. That was an easy one to figure out either way. He is the first male that actually sent grammatically correct texts, which I appreciated. I'm not a fan of short hand text lingo.
Let me clarify, what I meant by "cutting my losses" with this one, is that I'm fine with whatever happens or doesn't, I'm not expecting anything. I say this, only because in the past, I have gotten excited about things, and have been disappointed. So, it's more of a mental thing, then me actually cutting him out or dismissing him.
Hello lady :-)
No, it has not ended, I'm just unfamiliar with Virgos and just want some "insight" with them. I love learning about people and their behavior(s), especially those that I'm not very familiar with. It's only been a week, so my purpose of posting this, is simply to gain some knowledge, and to anticipate certain behaviors I guess.
Yes, I am totally aware of the proper grammar and spelling, he and I laughed about this on our date, and though I misspelled "insight" I am sure to proof read my texts to him. That was an easy one to figure out either way. He is the first male that actually sent grammatically correct texts, which I appreciated. I'm not a fan of short hand text lingo.
Let me clarify, what I meant by "cutting my losses" with this one, is that I'm fine with whatever happens or doesn't, I'm not expecting anything. I say this, only because in the past, I have gotten excited about things, and have been disappointed. So, it's more of a mental thing, then me actually cutting him out or dismissing him.
xv1127: Thank you, your responses:
1. He did ask what I do
2. This hasn't come up, but perhaps it will, which I am both very capable of if that is the case
3. Most likely I will, unless I am unable to do so due to outside circumstances, or if I feel it goes against what I believe in.
4. I did talk about some books that I have read and am reading
5. He wanted to pay for everything, but I told him that were in the 21st century, I can handle picking up a few rounds 😉
6. of course
7. He asked me what happened with my ex. Which, I thought was odd. It's a general rule of mine to not discuss any past relationships that I have had or guys that I have dated, but he was very curious.
8. I'm fine with no PDA, I'm not a big fan of that myself either
Yes, he was very polite and well mannered.
1. He did ask what I do
2. This hasn't come up, but perhaps it will, which I am both very capable of if that is the case
3. Most likely I will, unless I am unable to do so due to outside circumstances, or if I feel it goes against what I believe in.
4. I did talk about some books that I have read and am reading
5. He wanted to pay for everything, but I told him that were in the 21st century, I can handle picking up a few rounds 😉
6. of course
7. He asked me what happened with my ex. Which, I thought was odd. It's a general rule of mine to not discuss any past relationships that I have had or guys that I have dated, but he was very curious.
8. I'm fine with no PDA, I'm not a big fan of that myself either
Yes, he was very polite and well mannered.
Hahaha! No sir, totally not the type. I'm just bored right now, and having a little fun. I took your dark side pointers and turned it into a quiz :-)
Did it totally go over my head?
Oh! I was referring to my turning your Dark Tips into a quiz for myself to see how I did on my Virgo date, rather then just reading it. I am looking for some Virgo insight :-) I am your sponge!
Thank you kind sir!
Posted by Este8
Whose this royal WE? Me?
We = Me and most of the Virgos I know.
Posted by Este8
I wish you didn't feel compelled to respond to every freaking thread. I know you're young but hon but less is more.click to expand
I also wish people would understand the internet is free for all in regards of replying to topics and you don't have to follow all the advice you get. Nothing wrong with people glossing over my posts or generally not giving a fuck about what I post.
Same for you, I actually follow a lot of the advice you post and it's spot on most of the times so I won't say "less is more". There's no need for me to be condescending 🙂..that's pretty much water territory all the way.
It seems both those wishes will go unfulfilled so take that for what it is 🙂
Posted by kindness
xv1127: Thank you, your responses:
1. He did ask what I do
2. This hasn't come up, but perhaps it will, which I am both very capable of if that is the case
3. Most likely I will, unless I am unable to do so due to outside circumstances, or if I feel it goes against what I believe in.
4. I did talk about some books that I have read and am reading
5. He wanted to pay for everything, but I told him that were in the 21st century, I can handle picking up a few rounds 😉
6. of course
7. He asked me what happened with my ex. Which, I thought was odd. It's a general rule of mine to not discuss any past relationships that I have had or guys that I have dated, but he was very curious.
8. I'm fine with no PDA, I'm not a big fan of that myself either
Yes, he was very polite and well mannered.
I think that if you are truly interested in him then be patient. Virgos like to take their time. Let him contact you first and schedule a second date. I would say that since he wanted to pay for everything (old school gentleman move) then most likely if he's into a woman he'd be doing the chasing too.
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