Do Scorpio man ever come back?

My Scorpio man broke up with me 2 days ago. We have been engaged 2 months back and had plans to get maried. His personal life got so messed up lately that he withdrew from me more and more.

At last he told me in a very cold way ( which wasn't him at all) that he doesn't love me anymore and his feelings have changed. It's so hard for me to believe this as this man has done more than everything for me in the past and treated me better than ever. My explanation is that he is trying to push me away with all his power as he seemed like he tried very hard to be cold towards me.

We broke off all contact at this point and I don't want to wait around for him, but I have a feeling he will be back at some point. It's all very painful.

What do u guys think?

trust and believe. you do not want this boy back in your life. if he comes back and you take him back, you will have set the tone for the BS that is about to ensue. he will keep uping the ante on you with more of this bitch behavior.

His personal life got so messed up lately that he withdrew from me more and more.

there it is in black and white. no way jose. he has a messed up personal life *shocker* and you dont want no part of that. he knows he is a hot mess.

now is the time to show him the real grown ass woman that you are and give him the deuces. find someone who is healthy and ready. someone who is n2 you as much as you are n2 them.

Thanks for your comment. Its really really hard on me I must admit. I feel helpless as I can't do anything, its his mental state that is not the best at this point. He has always been this amazingly caring, loving and goal driven man. Its hard to see him this low and also pushing me away like that. Part of me wishes that he gets his ... together and returns to me. Sighhhh

when he gets his shit together, that is exactly when he should return.

IMO, although i feel its very commendable to love a man who he is down and out, that kindness and sincerity is only going to last so long b4 you start to resent him. plus, if i were a man who was down and out and there was a woman who had her shit together and was willing to take me in, id kinda question where she was coming from. is she n2 me or my penis? i mean he cant really off you anything else but his penis.

no capes in 2013. let people save themselves.

and definitely if i were not in the right mental state, i seriously question why someone would want to be with me.

I get your point totally. I have thought about it a lot and the reason why I have been willing to stand by him as I always believe in loyalty and what kind of wife would I have been leaving him when he got ill you know. I would have expected him to stand by me as well but I guess for him it's different. He feels very insecure I suppose. Gosh, I really wish it was all easier.

^ Screw that. OP, a man that could ever actually love you would never do that to you. No matter what bullshit excuse about "vulnerability" and "power" anyone may make. Whether he comes back or not...who cares? He's garbage.

my best friend is a mad scorpio and when she got engaged (she proposed) it was only a matter of time before she threw that diamond ring (she bought) into the harbour (on her hens night no less). (groom to be was gutted). but-

They still got married, she's just full of drama and a very strong personality... sometimes when they need space they REALLY need space.

Hi and thank you all so much for sending me your point of view and advice, it really makes things much more bearable. What you have said Jinjia makes so much sense and now thinking back I wish I wouldn't have even spoke about all these countless hours about his state of mind, but he always consulted me when he had certain issues and it seemed as if my presence smoothed his pain a lot. Of course I don't want to be his psychotheraphist so it is very possible that he felt weak and vunrable in a way and this must be terrible for a man. Do you agree that it is best to let him go as so far he always knew I'd be there and this may have resulted in him showing me less and less attention. I have a feeling that he will be back as I truly believed that he loved me but him breaking up with me in a such painful way and insisting on no contact concerns me a bit. If I knew that he really doesn't love me I'd be able to let it go fully and probably almost at an instant but the way he went on about everything actually confirms what u have written above. I also hope and pray that we will manage to find a way but only the proper way and this includes being in an healthy relationship...Just a question to wagtail, what did your friends husband do when she acted this way? Thanks again everyone.I really wish it was all easier but one way or the other it will all add up I suppose, with or without him.

He gave her the space she needed, but they were living together at the time so it was tough, but basically he turned to her family for support.
Had a few too many beers with her dad etc and hung out with her sister a fair bit, just by his actions ie staying true with the people in her life whilst letting her pull away meant she knew he was in it for the long haul if she felt like coming back or letting him back in...

Ok, well what a patient man. I guess when u love someone God gives you the patience. Our situation is a bit different, I was similar when we were still together, I gave him all the space he needed but the moment I went to speak to him about how I feel he broke up with me. I don't know what the future holds. I love him so much but it also hurts immensely. I will try my best to let it go and pray for a miracle to happen. Wether its him making a realization that he needs to make a change before its too late or that I will be blessed with happiness and love elsewhere.

you will be blessed... you are worthy of love, the Universe will provide.

xo

Thanks so much dear...xxx

Hehe, Gumshoe- that seems to be how they roll sometimes!

Wow. Did you tak him back and if so, ow is it now? It's interesting you say that. Every person in the world would be devastated by what my guy has done and yes I am, but deep inside I know that he did it to push me away as I was always very sure of his feelings towards me. I sincerely hope he will do the same and return as I miss him every day and our relationship has been beautiful before he started trying to destroy it.

*take

It's interesting because they so often hold everything to together, yes, they can be controlling, yes, they can be manipulative... but then they self-sabotage like there's no tomorrow!

I hear you and you knowing being aware of this behaviour makes it even harder to me to be angry. I just feel that I understand him and his motives you know. But I guess he doesn't unrest and them so unless it clicks in his mind there is nothing I can do and that's the painful part, the unknown.