Dumped by CRAZY GEMINI! Is he playing games?

Hi guys! Been a lurker on this forum for a while, but I finally decided to register :_

Okay, I'll make this as brief as possible because I know you guys don't have all day.

Boyfriend of 3 years/best friend of 10 lost his job and went a little crazy. He started being a major ahole and things got terrible between us. He was suicidal, etc and finally decided to go to therapy. After ONE therapy session he decides that we aren't good for each other and need to break up for good. I wasn't thrilled about his decision because I thought we could still work something out, but he was insistent. I was extremely hurt so I completely left him alone as he wished. I removed him from my friend list, deactivated my Facebook, and changed my email.

A week later he texts me on my birthday saying "Happy Birthday. I will always love you and you are always on my mind". I responded "thanks."- just like that. He broke up with ME so I still felt sore over it and had nothing to say to him.

A week later, I reactivated my Facebook. We already weren't friends on there, but as soon as I reactivated it he blocked me, making it so our profiles were basically invisible to each other. This was about 2 weeks ago and it has been the same ever since.

My question is- why would he block me when we aren't even FB friends? I wasn't bothering him. I wasn't even talking to him. It has been over a month since our last "real" conversation. One week he's breaking up with me, the next he's telling me he loves me, then he's blocking me on facebook. What is this guy's deal, is he playing games? Is he trying to get a response out of me or piss me off? Why add insult to injury by blocking me on FB- I KNOW we're broken up, he didn't have to do that to make that point. Who is he trying to convince, himself or me?! I'm so fed up and hurt!

ugggg thats why i hate those stupid sites because they give people more ways to stir up unecessary petty drama. how are you able to tell that he blocked you? in any case, this is part of the break up process...anything he does you'll over analyze and try to read more into his actions than is really there. truth is you'll never really know and it doesn't sound like he's interested in having any conversations about it right now. im sorry it hear that he's acting like such a baby but i think you've handled everything well so far (distance and no communication is good). the only reason i can think of for his behavior is that you acted petty first. you immediately deleted him off your friend list when you broke up and you then deactivated your facebook account. he was probably thinking the same exact thing as you are right now....WTF is her problem? emotions run high during a break up and one second he was probably feeling nice so he sent you the birthday text and the next second he remembered how you acted on FB so when you reactivated your account he threw it back in your face. it's mean and it's stupid but it happens all the time.

I think it's typical for people to think Geminis are playing games wth them, but in fact it's more that they just don't know what they want themselves. They want something one minute and not the next and then finally, after going back and forth, decide whether they want it or not...

Thanks for the responses so far.

Ewe- After I had reactivate my profile, morbid curiosity set in and I typed in his email address to check out his profile (even though I wouldn't be able to see anything but his profile picture and his fan pages). He was there.... then a few days later, he wasn't. I probably popped up on his "suggested friends" and that's how he noticed I was back on FB. Anyway, my sister was able to find his profile through a search, but I wasn't.

Hannah- He has done a lot of flip-flopping in the past. We'd be broken up one week, then the next he'd come crawling back saying he was just having a bad day and didn't really mean it. It is at the point where I'm not even sure if I know this guy anymore. It sure doesn't feel like it right now.

I am holding firm and I won't contact him. I know clingy-ness drives Gemini away. In fact, I'm going to start dating in an attempt to move on permanently. I wish/hope we can speak again in the future, but I'm just not sure how I should take this recent behavior from him. I guess I won't hold out much hope.

Posted by Invigorate_Me

Why should you care? Obviously whatever he is going through he is taking it out on you. Maybe you were part of the problem maybe you weren't. Who gives a shit?

RECAP!!!

You and guy friends for years
Guy needs therapy.
Guy tells you after therapy??_he loves you so much and he realizes that you are not good for him.

FUCK HIM??_.Confused bastard. Don't fall for that bullshit!

Yeah! What she said!

Well it's def. understandable why you're hurt. And while it is also just as understandable that ANYBODY (male or female) would be devestated to lose their job (especially in this economy), it also sucks that he'd dump you at a time when girlfriends/spouses really come in handy on the support side of things. Maybe this guy was already thinking about ending the relationship before the job loss, thus he used the job less as a way out/cop out. Sure Gem's can be a little wishy-washy & can bounce back & forth sometimes, but I mean it's not like they are complete idiots that will just randomly (and without good reason) walk away from a really good thing either.

And even though I think it's passive/aggressive & downright petty to use facebook or any social networking site to validate the status of a relationship, it IS understandable that he'd block you. He may not have blocked you for the reason you thought. You may be thinking that he did b/c that was his way of signaling you to stay away from him. BUT, who knows, he could be seeing someone else, thus he doesn't want you to have access to him OR his new life/girl. And even though we all hate when we no longer have access to someone's profile, you have to admit that you not being able to see his page is probably for the best. Always going back to that person's page is never a good idea b/c it really haults a person from moving on and/or it'll start those stages where 1 or both people are looking for trouble and/or for answers through a site, when whatever "truth" you are seeking should be found by you directly going to HIM, not some page designed for the "fronts" we all can put up sometimes.

I don't think this guy is playing games with you. If he purposely DID NOT block you & put all kinds of crazy things on his page (knowing you'd see it) that he knew would upset you or get your attention, THEN I'd say this guy was probably jerking your chain a little. But, I think you not having that access to him is for the best. I mean seriously, getting those answers through/from facebook is not the best source. Go to him personally if it's bothering you so bad. Don't feed/look so much into this facebook thing b/c you didn't have a relationship with him through Fb. You had one with him PERSONALLY, thus that's how you should ALSO get your answers

It's apparant that this guy has some serious issues. And it does suck that you have so much unfinished business & that he left you hanging & high/dry like that. BUT also understand that you may never really know his real reasons for why he handled things the way he did; or you may not be close to finding out right now, at least. It may be a long time before he comes back, faces you & tells you what was REALLY going on with him. And instead of driving yourself crazy, over-analyzing everything & trying to "guess" what his intentions/feelings are, your best bet would be to focus only on you, since you are the only person you can control and/or will ever fully understand. Sure, it sucks that he left you to the wolves but then again, harping over a situation you can't change is just as devestating to your life, when you think about time & how precious/short it is.

There are 1 million possibilities as to why he handled things the way he did. Maybe he was cheating. Maybe he was already leaning towards leaving the relationship (and don't assume this isn't a possibility just b/c you didn't see any warning signs). Maybe he decided he'd hurt you LESS by letting you go when he did, instead of dragging you through the mud & a possibly mental explosion b/c of everything going bad in his life. Some guys would actually spare you all the heartache & baggage, you know. You say you've known him for a long time, so either we (DXP) don't know the whole story or maybe there is alot that you weren't paying attention to. And I say that b/c it's very unlikely for the average person (unless they're a complete idiot) to just walk away randomly from someone. If anything, it's during the times when we're devestated or just took a major blow, that we cling the most to our partners, even if just for emotional support. So if this guy walked away & never turned back, that's an indication that he was ALREADY on his way out the door anyways.

He wished you a Happy Birthday b/c maybe he's not THAT damn petty that he couldn't even remember your bday. It's not like he asked you out again and/or professed his love to you in paragraphs. He simply stated the obvious: that he loved you, which doesn't necessarily change just b/c someone is done with the relationship. I do agree though that the way he handled the breakup was completely wrong & based on irrational feelings. A person should NEVER make a huge decision like that when they're angry/devestated