emotionally detached women

Posted by erd1983
what are your views on this, emotionally detached women. And why we think we can change them or can we. To make a long story short i connected with someone only for them to tell me they were emotionally detached women(RED FLAG).... Yet I battled with the thought that I could change that

Balanced women...love them. Emotionally detached...yeah its a red fiag.

Posted by raerae2one8
hummmm.... I know of very few women that are detached, not emotionally, but mentally, lol. thats mean. But what I mean is that I think that it is very possible for women to be the same as some men. go around, hooking up with guys, even getting involved, only to find that they have no feelings. And not even that they don't have feelings, cuz they do. they hide, deny their feelings, run from them.. That does not mean that they do with every man they come in contact with. selective, smarts. I can be emotionally detached to men, only when my heart is with someone else. Doesn't mean that I don't like the compnay of men and the attention. JUst means my feelings are else where.

Posted by erd1983
beautiful soul I promise you if i find a balanced woman im gonna love her like know other...

Posted by tiziani
I am all for emotional control but emotionally detached? It just always felt like a waste of time from the get go whenever I came across such types.

Posted by thescepter


look at that emotional detachment. so obvi when smoking that cig that no fucks were given that day.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by thescepter


look at that emotional detachment. so obvi when smoking that cig that no fucks were given that day.

Posted by krysrenee7
Can you change an emotionally detached woman? NO. Why? B/c the issues that led up to her being that way are usually much bigger than & override any interest that she may have in someone

Why do we try to change them? We do for the same reason we try to tame emotionally detached/unavailable men. There's just something about them. They want us to see all their layers & security gates guarding their hearts, but most people can see right through them & see their "potential." And people love playing with potential. People fall in love with who they WISH you were, who you USED to be or who you have the POTENTIAL to be. Very rarely do people fall for who a person currently IS in the moment.

It's human nature for some people to try bringing glue to a situation where people seem to be broken. They wanna play captain save a h** b/c it validates something inside of themselves & makes them feel good. They like the challenge, not b/c they're necessarily interested in fixing/bringing healing to the other person but b/c it makes THEM feel good & worthy. Kind of like the guy who feels like a King when he's able to get a virgin or "church girl" to finally give it up.

People love a challenge. People will do anything they can (even if it drains them too death) to be able to say that THEY were the ones who fixed you, changed you or got you to open your heart. Some people really do mean well & will try to fix an emotionally unavailable person b/c they themselves were that way at some point in their lives & feel like returning the favor of being loyal b/c they wish others hadn't given up on them when they were going through those same phases themselves

There is no such thing as you coming along & changing an emotionally unavailable person. They have to want to change for themselves & if you're lucky, they might change coincidentally during the time that you're in their life, BUT the key was that they changed b/c THEY wanted to change & not b/c YOU showed up. People would love to believe to take credit for another person's change, but all the hard work

Posted by thescepter

Posted by Impulsv
Damn u know me better than I do, as I know nothing bout my chart.
N guess what I'm doing? Lol
So wait a second u tested to see if she would stay?
What u do to test?

sitting on ur couch drinking murican beer? 😛

i just wanted to brush up against her see if she would back down or not. it wasn't intentional. she revealed some things... i had to speak my mind about it. i don't set up boobie traps or anything like it.

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