Fear and control in relationships

"When fear drives us to control every aspect of life and love, we unknowingly manifest the very suffering we were trying to escape."

I had a friend like this, and it got really emotionally exhausting. The more I sought clarity, the more our conversations turned into heated arguments. When I finally needed some space, she blew up, called me fake, and became quite hostile.

I know I'm oversimplifying things, but I keep wondering: how can someone want to feel close but avoid real connection or vulnerability?



I stepped back because she was trying to dictate how I spoke, how I acted in public, even how I felt—trying to control in ways that aren’t justifiable. You shouldn’t be controlling another person. I tried to understand where she was coming from and be supportive but it made things worse.

When I needed space, she lashed out and told me I needed therapy—ignoring the fact that I already see a therapist weekly. In truth, she'd benefit from therapy as well.

I miss her but it wasn't a healthy dynamic. What signs do you think are like this? Sun/Moon/Rising

Fear makes people do crazy things…