saweetz1988
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How do you get over to fear of LOVE or falling completely in love?
Posted by Vixen2
Ahhhh, the million dollar question.
Love....and everything it entails, is a huge risk. Trying to open yourself..show who you are, hoping someone will accept you as your are, being able to meet each other...the ups and downs is such an exhilarating Roller coaster ride that some of us hurt from experiences want it but run and others are just able to give it freely and without fear.
I think the universe conspires with all its cosmic forces to bring a person to us...at a time or with qualities that we need to learn and experience things with. I think keeping this in my mind...it helps me to be open minded to the possibilities and helps quell my fears.
If you want to give your all to someone, I know you can't hold that person accountable for past experiences or expectations...it's hard and a difficult task to recognize, but this person is not your past person. You have to accept them as who they are and either choose to move forward or not....what's your goal, priority, preferred outcome and do the risks outweigh the benefit?
I think it's just best to dive right in...like jumping into a pool without testing the water...if it's meant to be , it will be...be yourself and just try to go with the natural flow of how you both feel, meet each other half way, keep the lines of communication open- express your fears and just hope for the best...it may not work, shit will go wrong, he may not be the right one after all...or he could be the one, the soulmate, the life changing one...
You will never know if you don't gamble. But you don't have to gamble blindly.
Good luck!
DEEP thank you ... He's worth it thats why i'm even more scared... LOL
Don't be skeerd. Remember he's probably freaking out too. Just go with the flow.
Thank you all.. Yeah perfectly happy now.... Seems like he's also pretty scared and freaking out himself deep down.. but we are both building a pretty happy and stable relationship... and I'm normally extemely independent that's why allowing another being to be involved in my life 100 percents esp being a great team together is scary.. but I'm sure it's all worth it.. he's amazing and he's been the one always making a step ahead with our relationship from day one... maybe because he knows I'm more fearful than he is.... but yes, I am putting my ex aside.. can't even compare the two...and it seems the pain from my ex is dying and now filled with love with the new.... so glad...
Posted by kissmygrits
Don't be skeerd. Remember he's probably freaking out too. Just go with the flow.
Thank you. Will do .
Posted by saweetz1988With great difficulty!
If you have been BADDDDLY hurt in the past ...how do you get over the fear of falling in love with the new one... if the new one is the complete opposite...
I'm perfectly happy with the new one..but when we are apart...the fear creeps in.. ITS really bad and tiring.... 😢 I wanna fall completely and give him all of me like i did with my ex but its hard coz i'm so scared......
It's taken me 6 yrs to even consider being in a relationship. I do love my bf but there's part of me that is still a little too scared to let go completely.
Why the fuck would you be scared of something good?
If you're going to let some asshat from your past dictate your future, you've failed as a productive human being.
If you're going to let some asshat from your past dictate your future, you've failed as a productive human being.
Posted by MadMarchRamPosted by saweetz1988With great difficulty!
If you have been BADDDDLY hurt in the past ...how do you get over the fear of falling in love with the new one... if the new one is the complete opposite...
I'm perfectly happy with the new one..but when we are apart...the fear creeps in.. ITS really bad and tiring.... 😢 I wanna fall completely and give him all of me like i did with my ex but its hard coz i'm so scared......
It's taken me 6 yrs to even consider being in a relationship. I do love my bf but there's part of me that is still a little too scared to let go completely.click to expand
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