Re-La-Friend-ship: the state of being more than friends but less than lovers
How many of you have a Relafriendship?
*raises hand*...it kills me honestly because one minute he says he loves me, gets mad because I don't ask to be his gf, and the next he's saying he doesn't want a relationship or a gf, so we remain in limbo
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
*raises hand*...it kills me honestly because one minute he says he loves me, gets mad because I don't ask to be his gf, and the next he's saying he doesn't want a relationship or a gf, so we remain in limbo
What is he?
I believe it's called "being strung along."
Oh, and if sex is involved "fuck buddies," is also an accurate term.
I don't do fwb. It's either all or nothing lol
I think its vile, its disrespectful, you may as well say the other person is not good enough and if you dont want to be in it all the way then you shouldnt be in it in the first place.
Maybe Im old fashioned in my views I was thinking about this this morning, what is happening with todays relationships? all this dating but not exclusive yet and people accepting that? surely people pursue each other because they like each other in the first place? its either a relationship or not, being in a relationship is no more difficult to get out of, is it not an insult to someone to be dating other people whilst dating you? where are peoples values for one another now a days? wheres the true love between two people? society is so insecure and afraid to be vunerable, everyone is offering and accepting crumbs, afraid to show passion but dating so robotic... Ya Know what, I will not settle for that, I would rather go without than sell myself short of being who I am, I want to feel alive, free, I want to share that, I want to encourage that in someone else, people are afraid to feel and to show feelings towards another for fear of losing the other person, no way, for me something like that is already dead, love is not something to be scared of in its true form it gives you freedom to be you and feel alive, I would rather risk losing the other person than to knowingly allow someone to devalue me in such a way, something like that is not fun as many threads have proved time and time again.
A commitment is nothing more than a promise to ones self to treat someone good during the time you have together, why do people freak out so much about it.
Ps Im single, maybe its me who has it all wrong lol
Maybe Im old fashioned in my views I was thinking about this this morning, what is happening with todays relationships? all this dating but not exclusive yet and people accepting that? surely people pursue each other because they like each other in the first place? its either a relationship or not, being in a relationship is no more difficult to get out of, is it not an insult to someone to be dating other people whilst dating you? where are peoples values for one another now a days? wheres the true love between two people? society is so insecure and afraid to be vunerable, everyone is offering and accepting crumbs, afraid to show passion but dating so robotic... Ya Know what, I will not settle for that, I would rather go without than sell myself short of being who I am, I want to feel alive, free, I want to share that, I want to encourage that in someone else, people are afraid to feel and to show feelings towards another for fear of losing the other person, no way, for me something like that is already dead, love is not something to be scared of in its true form it gives you freedom to be you and feel alive, I would rather risk losing the other person than to knowingly allow someone to devalue me in such a way, something like that is not fun as many threads have proved time and time again.
A commitment is nothing more than a promise to ones self to treat someone good during the time you have together, why do people freak out so much about it.
Ps Im single, maybe its me who has it all wrong lol
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22Posted by harry99
I think we all have PHV, either way its bullbutter unless ur a cyborg named Data.
I don't agree with you on this.click to expand
Whats phv?
Posted by guccigemini55
I think its vile, its disrespectful, you may as well say the other person is not good enough and if you dont want to be in it all the way then you shouldnt be in it in the first place.
Maybe Im old fashioned in my views I was thinking about this this morning, what is happening with todays relationships? all this dating but not exclusive yet and people accepting that? surely people pursue each other because they like each other in the first place? its either a relationship or not, being in a relationship is no more difficult to get out of, is it not an insult to someone to be dating other people whilst dating you? where are peoples values for one another now a days? wheres the true love between two people? society is so insecure and afraid to be vunerable, everyone is offering and accepting crumbs, afraid to show passion but dating so robotic... Ya Know what, I will not settle for that, I would rather go without than sell myself short of being who I am, I want to feel alive, free, I want to share that, I want to encourage that in someone else, people are afraid to feel and to show feelings towards another for fear of losing the other person, no way, for me something like that is already dead, love is not something to be scared of in its true form it gives you freedom to be you and feel alive, I would rather risk losing the other person than to knowingly allow someone to devalue me in such a way, something like that is not fun as many threads have proved time and time again.
A commitment is nothing more than a promise to ones self to treat someone good during the time you have together, why do people freak out so much about it.
Ps Im single, maybe its me who has it all wrong lol
I guess no one wants to be dumped in the end. fear of the public embarrassment the emotional discomfort a committed relationship is so much to deal with. I never use to think like this now i see it as a life commitment. Sometimes im ready for it and sometimes im not. But nowadays people really do have little respect for each other.
Lol I was being thick 🙂 I wondered what phv was its your name... blushes 🙂
If thats the arrangement two people have made with each other then thats their choice, but why settle for this is what i mean, why would anyone want this arrangement without love unless there are underlying issues of insecurity or lack of self worth, why waste time on something that you know is going no where when all this can be experienced with someone that feels you are their world, with love its a whole different level, something good, not just empty sex thats all im saying 🙂
I dont believe you can continue in an arrangement like that without someone developing feelings, youre using each other and allowing yourself to be used whilst ripping yourself off of something truely good.. Just my opinion.
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
*raises hand*...it kills me honestly because one minute he says he loves me, gets mad because I don't ask to be his gf, and the next he's saying he doesn't want a relationship or a gf, so we remain in limbo
Heres an example.. This is why I would rather go without than be in this situation, how can anyone feel alive and free feeling in limbo, theres no growth, theres no moving on in either direction, I would feel trapped in this situation, theres no true freedom whilst stuck in limbo, not just that why if they cared about you would they want you to feel like this?.. I wouldnt want someone to feel like this.
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22Posted by guccigemini55Posted by PotHeadVirgo22Posted by harry99
I think we all have PHV, either way its bullbutter unless ur a cyborg named Data.
I don't agree with you on this.
Whats phv?
Are you asking me whats up? If so, I'm coolin. How about you Russel?...I meant Gucci?😄click to expand
LMAO @ russel! .. struts to fridge, scratches my saggy y-fronts, grabs a beer and pours on my cornflakes 😉 ... BURRRP!
Posted by size zero superhero
*Had* casual relations. Lived, learned and the memories are bittersweet at best.
Seriously. It's fun when it's good, but after awhile it just become blegh. :/
(wow, your arrow thinger screwed up the html and made your quote disappear.)
LOL T.O.C. !
Posted by guccigemini55
I think its vile, its disrespectful, you may as well say the other person is not good enough and if you dont want to be in it all the way then you shouldnt be in it in the first place.
Maybe Im old fashioned in my views I was thinking about this this morning, what is happening with todays relationships? all this dating but not exclusive yet and people accepting that? surely people pursue each other because they like each other in the first place? its either a relationship or not, being in a relationship is no more difficult to get out of, is it not an insult to someone to be dating other people whilst dating you? where are peoples values for one another now a days? wheres the true love between two people? society is so insecure and afraid to be vunerable, everyone is offering and accepting crumbs, afraid to show passion but dating so robotic... Ya Know what, I will not settle for that, I would rather go without than sell myself short of being who I am, I want to feel alive, free, I want to share that, I want to encourage that in someone else, people are afraid to feel and to show feelings towards another for fear of losing the other person, no way, for me something like that is already dead, love is not something to be scared of in its true form it gives you freedom to be you and feel alive, I would rather risk losing the other person than to knowingly allow someone to devalue me in such a way, something like that is not fun as many threads have proved time and time again.
A commitment is nothing more than a promise to ones self to treat someone good during the time you have together, why do people freak out so much about it.
Ps Im single, maybe its me who has it all wrong lol
+1
Love this!
I've had these fwb happen to me and I didnt even agree to it. Only twice was it mutual and seriously some guys truely arent worth bf material. It sucks when your the one reduced to a booty call, which is why I am more cautious now and havent been participating in any superficial relationships.
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
*raises hand*...it kills me honestly because one minute he says he loves me, gets mad because I don't ask to be his gf, and the next he's saying he doesn't want a relationship or a gf, so we remain in limbo
Remain in limbo?
Why would you say that, considering you don't want to be his girlfriend?
I could understand if you said he remains in limbo ... you said, "we" just after you stated that you aren't asking him to be more while he's proclaiming his love for you.
so, why "we" are in limbo?
sounds like you're a head-fucker
Posted by guccigemini55
I think its vile, its disrespectful, you may as well say the other person is not good enough and if you dont want to be in it all the way then you shouldnt be in it in the first place.
So, what you believe should be across the board for everybody.
Perhaps, this closed-mindedness you have in where you think it's up to you to decide what EVERYBODY should do according to YOU is why you can't keep your man ... he like realized this shit, and ran
Posted by P-AngelPosted by guccigemini55
I think its vile, its disrespectful, you may as well say the other person is not good enough and if you dont want to be in it all the way then you shouldnt be in it in the first place.
So, what you believe should be across the board for everybody.
Perhaps, this closed-mindedness you have in where you think it's up to you to decide what EVERYBODY should do according to YOU is why you can't keep your man ... he like realized this shit, and ranclick to expand
Nope each to their own, if that works for someone else then thats their life, it isnt going to be my life and i dont plan it to be, everyone has a right to choose, why should i accept anything less than the best a man can be in my presence and i dont expect a man to settle for anything less with me either... Its called LOVE PAngel, that stuff that encourages your face to smile rather than look like its sucking on lemons 😉 but one can only assume as you do so yourself 🙂
I agree with Gucci. Im confused why we're all afraid of exclusivity. Why cant we shout it to the heavens that we like someone? Is that so bad? I know everyone is afraid of rejection but how I feel now is that I want a relationship and all the good/bad/weird/new things that come with it. So although I may get those days where I want to be horny and just go find someone I know that in the long run it will be me who catches feelings first (damn that Libra in Venus!) so I avoid that.
Im patient and give a guy time to show his colors but after awhile I move on...
Im patient and give a guy time to show his colors but after awhile I move on...
Posted by guccigemini55Posted by P-AngelPosted by guccigemini55
I think its vile, its disrespectful, you may as well say the other person is not good enough and if you dont want to be in it all the way then you shouldnt be in it in the first place.
So, what you believe should be across the board for everybody.
Perhaps, this closed-mindedness you have in where you think it's up to you to decide what EVERYBODY should do according to YOU is why you can't keep your man ... he like realized this shit, and ran
Nope each to their own, if that works for someone else then thats their life, it isnt going to be my life and i dont plan it to be, everyone has a right to choose, why should i accept anything less than the best a man can be in my presence and i dont expect a man to settle for anything less with me either... Its called LOVE PAngel, that stuff that encourages your face to smile rather than look like its sucking on lemons 😉 but one can only assume as you do so yourself 🙂click to expand
I wasn't questioning what love is, you idiot.
You made a broad assessment in saying that what you feel should be for everyone, and I was addressing that.
learn to comprehend what you are reading before addressing me.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by guccigemini55Posted by P-AngelPosted by guccigemini55
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I wasn't questioning what love is, you idiot.
You made a broad assessment in saying that what you feel should be for everyone, and I was addressing that.
learn to comprehend what you are reading before addressing me.click to expand
OH HI!! I feel so blessed!! its not every day an angel parks itself up ya ass 😉 ..
I am quite aware you didnt question what love is, I just thought I`d spread a little and awaken what little you possibly have and show towards others, see my heart pumps piss that youre so despised (excuse the language if you please readers, I need to bring it down to the vulgar level this fish speaks and understands 😉 )One can only assume youre not in such a good place and thats why your heart is so cold, often vulgar and rude and lacking in style and finesse, fear not though because a lil reminder might spiritually enlighten you and re-awaken some fuzzy happy glow inside and then you will surely become truely lovable 😉
Right UNDERSTAND I have made it clear, these are MY VIEWS and only my views! although, there are some who concur, ya get me? O_o ..EVERYONE has a right to choose and feel how they want.. clear enough?.. Now considering you usually take great delight in trashing almost everyone pouring their heart out in these threads for accepting crumbs and these kind of situations AND your own broad assesments which clearly make you a hypocrite, I just cant take you seriously but for the good of me i thought i would give you the time of day (spreading love 😉 you smiling yet?) Im just thankful you swim around in a fish bowl because I dont have to share the same air, must be hard so often swallowing so much of your own sh*t though 🙂.. chow, work on that lovin 😉
It is very exhausting to have an EX be your friend after you broke up.
Posted by guccigemini55
I was being thick
Most Geminis are thick-headed ..... one only has to read your postings to see it
I have one now with a Cap and I'm a scorp. She broke it off with me and is taking me on a emotional rollercoaster.
Mmmm Stalker too .. hows the peepin going? ;D
Yesss. I'm starting to think that with the whole Aquarian Age coming upon us, people are becoming more open to the idea of open, lighter relationships. Plus having Venus in Gemini, I can find something I adore in everybody. I'm not the most stable in relationships, so relafriendships (love it) appeal to me. Although on the OTHER hand, I'd love to have a mega intense, passionate, all consuming, Venus in Scorpio type of relationship.
I can't make up my mind. 😢 Time will tell.
I can't make up my mind. 😢 Time will tell.
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