I need Leo's that can offer me advice on this one

Its not as bad as you guys think but I want is insite on how I should play it. No boys I'm not gonna walk away from her, I have my fair reasons.
I met her a month ago at our local gym, we started off friends but by the 2nd time I hungout with her I kissed her. Since that day whenever I see her we have a passionate moment. She loves to cuddle and kiss me. No sex yet. It's only a month. I'm 25 she's 38. I've had my fairs share of women, tops to almost 40 since I started dating and I've never met anyone like her but we aren't dating. It's like all the traits I want in a woman she had em. She's loving and caring, she's intelligent and she can think for herself and she appreciates a romantic man such as I. I really love her. We laugh and share secrets like best friends. We both notice if we are sad or something is wrong even if we fake it. I've never had this kind of experiance with any woman and I hope you guys com across someone like this so you'll know what I mean. We connect very well
emotionally. Its time I settle down too. I'm done having fun. The problem is that she's also with some other dude for the past 3 years. Now listen up, if she were married then id back off. But she's not. And this man seems like he doesn't care for her in my opinion. She's got 4 kids from her past divorces, whom he hasn't met. I met all of em, very loving children, I took em out one day to see how things would go. I really love their happy positive attitudes. This fuck hasn't even met them. I did within a month. Now brothers give me advice on how I can move on to the jackpot ie sex and all. I wanna go full. I'm taking it slowly as she's only known me for a month. She's been with another man for the past 3 years. Sometimes she feels uncomfortable, but it's the guilt. I understand, I calm her and rub her back blow a few kisses and she's back with me. Look I've been cheated on too countless amount if times. I have learned one thing, that is cheating has different forms of categories. There's the type of cheating that is disloyalty and just not caring for the person the having cake eating it too type. Then there's cheating where you've found someone who's actually supportive, understanding, loving, and caring. One that will sacrifice anything and that's the kind of cheating this is. So please if your gonna bad mouth this just leave. I'm in love, she cares for me too. And I wanna be with her. I want advice on how to get to the next level. Also I'm happy I wanna settle down as an a

I don't think you are ready to settle down at 25, but if that's how you feel then ok I guess.

like I said before... She's with that guy probably because he's around her age and has what it takes to support a family... Trust me, I KNOW this is why she don't want to be with you.

sit down and think about the bigger picture... lets say she does end up getting with you and you move in together with the whole brady bunch.... can you support those kids too? or are you just gonna tell her "those aren't my kids"? because that would be selfish on your end.

I think you are just in love with the moments you had. Im telling you bro.... you are not thinking this through.

So as I said he's 32 and she's 39. I have a feeling he's using her because she's been with him for 3 years and he hasn't met any of her kids. I've met all her kids. Wonderful children. I've had my fun boys trust me 40 plus women I've lost count and now I found one good enough for me. Thing is she is balanced. Many women aren't balanced. Or meet my standards. I mean I'm gonna go over to her house next weekend watch her favorite movie. It's romantic in her sense and I might do it.

She knows deep down inside that youre not ready to handle 4 kids and a baby daddy. So I think she strings you along as a part time fantasy/love interest. Its emotional cheating. Its quite different being a step father as compared to a playdate. Shes 38! What the fuck is she going to do with a 25 year old. Other than think of you as a playmate.

question, if she cheats on her boyfriend with you, arent you worried that she will cheat on you?

now listen up, ask her what she wants. Then tell her what you want. If she doesnt want what you want, walk away.

Posted by Markov23
So as I said he's 32 and she's 39. I have a feeling he's using her because she's been with him for 3 years and he hasn't met any of her kids. I've met all her kids. Wonderful children. I've had my fun boys trust me 40 plus women I've lost count and now I found one good enough for me. Thing is she is balanced. Many women aren't balanced. Or meet my standards. I mean I'm gonna go over to her house next weekend watch her favorite movie. It's romantic in her sense and I might do it.

meeting the kids is the only card you have to play? You heed a better one. Like a 6 figure 401k. Job stability.

You have to think about what a 40 year old woman with 4 kids wants and needs. Not so much what a leo needs.

Every single one of you have great insights. I do understand where your coming from. Yes I do have a stable job I'm a fighter pilot. But also you gotta understand that I'm done with younger women. They aren't ready. Their just not ready. I don't drink or smoke. I don't like tattoos or piercings. Neither does she. She values the same qualities I do. So what can I say.

I just need advice on how to get her to fall in love with me. I know it sounds stupid but throw in some perspective.

I can kinda see this a little .. I've been with a supportive ,reliable ,guy for a long time, 2 kids are his too, met a 25 yr old and same thing but he didn't play around , he's again practical supportive ,and I do think at 25 u can settle down , tho I understand why others have said your not ready, I'm a Leo hes a cap ..leo women can fall rather quickly too , but we are sensible deep down and need security ..a month is nothing .. It takes me a feckin long time to trust but u do need to see the bigger picture ..

Posted by tess
I can kinda see this a little .. I've been with a supportive ,reliable ,guy for a long time, 2 kids are his too, met a 25 yr old and same thing but he didn't play around , he's again practical supportive ,and I do think at 25 u can settle down , tho I understand why others have said your not ready, I'm a Leo hes a cap ..leo women can fall rather quickly too , but we are sensible deep down and need security ..a month is nothing .. It takes me a feckin long time to trust but u do need to see the bigger picture ..

Good quote! Ya she told me 2 times now that part of her wants to trust me completely and she's doing her best to let me in deeper shall I say. The other half is telling her to be careful. Which I do understand. She's been screwed over so many times by friends, family members and others. It's a defence mechanism. But only time will build that trust. We need to spend more quality time together.

I told her I understand as I've been screwed over so many times myself, which is why I'm here for her.