I'm going to lose my mind over a Virgo Man- Help!!

I've been seeing this Virgo man since November things have been going as expected, slow. He didn't kiss me until our fourth date for example. We saw each other like once a week. He use to make statements like we need to get together soon, let's do this and that. And I would do the same. He is in his last semester of his masters program and mid Feb dropped a hint like " I may have to add one more class...I'm going to be really busy" and so on during regular conversations. He at no point ever make direct statements like, I'm not going to be able to see you for I'm about to get focused and etc. Anyway, its been about 4wks since I've seen him. Two weeks ago, I pointed out to him the communication has decreased and that fact he's hard to read I don't know what's going on with us. He replies, " let me offer you clarity..." and go on to say he going to do better w/ the commo and that its a fear that when he likes someone and enjoy their company, it can go from one date a week to four and he doesn't want his school to get put on the back burner." Commo was good the rest of that week. Now I just started my masters this semester so I understand that but he lives 10mi from me and I feel like we should be able to meet up briefly talk, chat and etc. This past wknd we made plans for brunch at the last min he cancels because he was reminded he offered to help a coworker w/ flooring. I texted him telling him ill be at his house sun at noon. Sun comes he doesn't answer his phone or reply to my text. I find out last night. He forgot he made other plans and that he was sorry. Now I don't want to start nagging him but I just feel like I'm losing him or maybe he doesn't want to see me anymore b/c of this distancing crap he's doing. What should I do? Is this like them? Is it over? Fyi, we never slept together although occasional speak on it...he says with sex and the emotion that come along he knows it can distract him and he's trying to focus n finish school.

Honestly, I go back and forth with your reply. I understand he's focusing and could and for the most part was accepting that until this past weekend I found he had plans. It made me feel like, "oh u do have free time but you can't pick up the phone to get together with me." Simply, put I know you're right but my overanalytical self don't know how to deal. Plus, I never had someone distance themselves like this so its easy for me to think the worse and I don't know how to handle these type of situations.

Am I allowed to reach out at anytime during this focus time w/o coming across as if I'm chasing him?

Get a hobby outside of this man. Do not be the needy chick. Let go of the outcome and live your life.

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Get a hobby outside of this man. Do not be the needy chick. Let go of the outcome and live your life.

Great advice! and this:

"He is in his last semester of his masters program and mid Feb dropped a hint like " I may have to add one more class...I'm going to be really busy"

He replies, " let me offer you clarity..." and go on to say he going to do better w/ the commo and that its a fear that when he likes someone and enjoy their company, it can go from one date a week to four and he doesn't want his school to get put on the back burner."

he says with sex and the emotion that come along he knows it can distract him and he's trying to focus n finish school."


SCHOOL=PRIORITY. He at least told you that. When a Virgo is asked a favor (such as helping someone with flooring) they commit and follow through. You need to be patient. Especially since you've only seen him once a week if that for the last 5 months and then he gave you the courtesy and respect that going for his masters will take up more time. If you can't be patient, move on, because nagging will drive him further away. Do what the above poster said, keep yourself busy and if he wants to make time to see you HE will let you know. If not..find someone who does. Simple.