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My best friend is in love with me but..
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My best friend for a long time has today, admitted to me that he is in love with me. I've known he for 3yrs. But i don't feel the same about him. What do I do? He's nice but I'm not that into him like that and i don't wanna break his heart or ruin our friendship plz help! how can let him down easy without ruining our friendship any advice?
But what...? He has bad breath...hemmoroids....a pencil dick....? whaaaaaaaaaaaat?
Sorry I accidently press enter before I typed my question.. lol
Posted by BigGirlPanties
But what...? He has bad breath...hemmoroids....a pencil dick....? whaaaaaaaaaaaat?
LMAO
Posted by SandraA
My best friend for a long time has today, admitted to me that he is in love with me. I've known he for 3yrs. But i don't feel the same about him. What do I do? He's nice but I'm not that into him like that and i don't wanna break his heart or ruin our friendship plz help! how can let him down easy without ruining our friendship any advice?
i don't think you could damage the relationship by being honest with him.
he just may not be able to be your "friend" for a while, so give him time
Posted by cowpuncher
Sandra, how old are you and your friend? There are worse admirers to have than one who has already proven friendly, compatible, and trustworthy ya know. I'd definitely tell your friend to slow it down either way, BUT... maybe at the same time you should think about it?
I would be more inclined to date an interested female friend, not less inclined, personally. I would at least think about it before saying no in any case 🙂
+1
Posted by pathfinderPosted by SandraA
My best friend for a long time has today, admitted to me that he is in love with me. I've known he for 3yrs. But i don't feel the same about him. What do I do? He's nice but I'm not that into him like that and i don't wanna break his heart or ruin our friendship plz help! how can let him down easy without ruining our friendship any advice?
i don't think you could damage the relationship by being honest with him.click to expand
I know but I scared to be honest because he's been rejected so many times by girls and he just got out of a relationship like a month ago 😢 I don't wanna make him feel rejected by his only friend.
Posted by cowpuncher
Sandra, how old are you and your friend? There are worse admirers to have than one who has already proven friendly, compatible, and trustworthy ya know. I'd definitely tell your friend to slow it down either way, BUT... maybe at the same time you should think about it?
I would be more inclined to date an interested female friend, not less inclined, personally. I would at least think about it before saying no in any case 🙂
He is 17 I'm 19
and I have thought about it but i'm more interested in this one guy at my job 😢 blue eyes!!
Oh yea BTW he's a Virgo and I'm an Aquarius.
Posted by SandraA
My best friend for a long time has today, admitted to me that he is in love with me. I've known he for 3yrs. But i don't feel the same about him. What do I do? He's nice but I'm not that into him like that and i don't wanna break his heart or ruin our friendship plz help! how can let him down easy without ruining our friendship any advice?
Admitted to being in love with you? Oh that's uncomfortable! lol😢 Tough position to be in, I do hope it works out whatever you decide to do!🙂
How do I say no in a less mean way? is it impossible?
Posted by iceredrobotPosted by SandraA
My best friend for a long time has today, admitted to me that he is in love with me. I've known he for 3yrs. But i don't feel the same about him. What do I do? He's nice but I'm not that into him like that and i don't wanna break his heart or ruin our friendship plz help! how can let him down easy without ruining our friendship any advice?
Admitted to being in love with you? Oh that's uncomfortable! lol😢 Tough position to be in, I do hope it works out whatever you decide to do!🙂click to expand
Yep very uncomfortable 😢
Posted by cowpuncherPosted by SandraA
and I have thought about it but i'm more interested in this one guy at my job 😢 blue eyes!!
If he's been having girl problems, and is only 1 month out of a relationship, your instincts are probably right in not wanting to date him at this time. That's just my opinion of course, but it sounds like the guy has been getting hurt a lot, and is looking some something both female AND safe... and there you are: Both female, and safe.
Let him down gently, do NOT rub the blue-eyed guy in his nose or anything, I wouldn't even mention it. It would only make a young guy jealous. If it were me I'd tell him basically this "look, you're having a tough time with girls right now, you are just out of a relationship, and I think you are interested in me because you feel safe with me since I am your friend. Rather than pursuing me though, why don't you take some time off from girls, dating, and relationships, enjoy yourself, and when you are in a good place emotionally then let me help you find another girl for you? Dating friends can be good, or bad. But if you are a guy, having a trusted female friend helping you figure out OTHER women is always a good thing 🙂"
Pitch it to him like that maybe?
That's what I'd do anyway. Some of the gals on dxp might have much better advice for you though, since I've never been a girl rejecting a male friend's advances, I don't have the experience they will have on that subject. Good luck 🙂click to expand
You know what? what you wrote makes a lot of sense. 🙂 And think I'll tell him that, Hopefully that won't break his heart 😢
I guess i'll have to put a hold on the eyed guy, until my Virgie gets back on his feet and into a new relationship.
Thank you for guys advice.
Oh yea on a sidenote how the heck do you get your profile pic next to your username?
Oh yea on a sidenote how the heck do you get your profile pic next to your username?
Posted by SandraAPosted by cowpuncherPosted by SandraA
and I have thought about it but i'm more interested in this one guy at my job 😢 blue eyes!!
If he's been having girl problems, and is only 1 month out of a relationship, your instincts are probably right in not wanting to date him at this time. That's just my opinion of course, but it sounds like the guy has been getting hurt a lot, and is looking some something both female AND safe... and there you are: Both female, and safe.
Let him down gently, do NOT rub the blue-eyed guy in his nose or anything, I wouldn't even mention it. It would only make a young guy jealous. If it were me I'd tell him basically this "look, you're having a tough time with girls right now, you are just out of a relationship, and I think you are interested in me because you feel safe with me since I am your friend. Rather than pursuing me though, why don't you take some time off from girls, dating, and relationships, enjoy yourself, and when you are in a good place emotionally then let me help you find another girl for you? Dating friends can be good, or bad. But if you are a guy, having a trusted female friend helping you figure out OTHER women is always a good thing 🙂"
Pitch it to him like that maybe?
That's what I'd do anyway. Some of the gals on dxp might have much better advice for you though, since I've never been a girl rejecting a male friend's advances, I don't have the experience they will have on that subject. Good luck 🙂
You know what? what you wrote makes a lot of sense. 🙂 And think I'll tell him that, Hopefully that won't break his heart 😢
I guess i'll have to put a hold on the eyed guy, until my Virgie gets back on his feet and into a new relationship.click to expand
*Blue eyed guy woops
keep us posted
Posted by pathfinder
keep us posted
Okay Will do. I planning on telling him tomorrow :/ Wish me luck.
Posted by BigGirlPanties
pencil dick
theres a big difference between love and lust, and my guess is he is overcome with the latter.
When I was your age, I too had a best buddy a year or two behind me. I treated him more like a brother than anything. We use to hang out a lot, etc. They would call me into the office and ask me what was up with him if he got into a fight or something. LOL. I knew he liked a girl in his class, but in a way I did like him like that as well. One day, he asked me to teach him how to French kiss. I refuse only because His heart (or should I say hormones) were elsewhere and our friendship was never the same again. Looking back, I sort of wish I took that chance just to experience what it felt like... who knows, things could have been different.
What I'm saying is, sometimes when we have a great buddy like that, we never think of the possibilities of something bigger - it's taboo in high school. As adults, we learn that our mate should be our best friend in some manner. We should get along without the b*tching and nagging we have to do. We should have lots of fun when we are together. Love is 99.9% NEVER an instant thing. A lot of time it grows through friendship. Sometimes taking a long time. I'm not saying to jump in the sack with him, but I would advice on you making the suggestion of getting to know each other better first before you decide. Let him court you as you deserve. If anything, it'll be a great experience. You are both young. Enjoy it. Chances are over time his likes and dislikes will change and possibly he'll be after someone else in the summer... but then you can say you gave it a shot, you grew together, you had fun, you got to know more of the real him, and both of you can remain friends as long as you don't cross that line(sex). Watch "My Best Friends Wedding".... she never took that chance and almost ruined the friendship at the last minute.
What I'm saying is, sometimes when we have a great buddy like that, we never think of the possibilities of something bigger - it's taboo in high school. As adults, we learn that our mate should be our best friend in some manner. We should get along without the b*tching and nagging we have to do. We should have lots of fun when we are together. Love is 99.9% NEVER an instant thing. A lot of time it grows through friendship. Sometimes taking a long time. I'm not saying to jump in the sack with him, but I would advice on you making the suggestion of getting to know each other better first before you decide. Let him court you as you deserve. If anything, it'll be a great experience. You are both young. Enjoy it. Chances are over time his likes and dislikes will change and possibly he'll be after someone else in the summer... but then you can say you gave it a shot, you grew together, you had fun, you got to know more of the real him, and both of you can remain friends as long as you don't cross that line(sex). Watch "My Best Friends Wedding".... she never took that chance and almost ruined the friendship at the last minute.
Posted by SandraA
My best friend for a long time has today, admitted to me that he is in love with me. I've known he for 3yrs. But i don't feel the same about him. What do I do? He's nice but I'm not that into him like that and i don't wanna break his heart or ruin our friendship plz help! how can let him down easy without ruining our friendship any advice?
I have been in your situation before. Idk if he still likes me, but back over the summer his friends kept telling me how he just absolutely adores me and wants to be with me. I've known this guy for about 4 yrs and he's one of my best friends. Recently he got into a relationship with a girl and I was happy for him, but then he got outta it. I also just got outta something so I've kept my distance from him so he doesn't get the wrong idea.
Just make sure you don't flirt with them and give them the wrong idea. Introduce him to other girls if you have to. Anything to give him the hint that you only see him as a friend. I dated a friend once...while we're still friends this doesn't always happen. I was just lucky he was a gemini and could take not being with me anymore even tho he still likes me.
Maybe I didn't catch it but what sign is your friend?
Ok just read hes a virgo...
I personally wouldn't mess with an earth or water signs emotions. They take it harder than an air or fire sign. And what I mean by that is they're more likely to not be friends with you afterwards
I personally wouldn't mess with an earth or water signs emotions. They take it harder than an air or fire sign. And what I mean by that is they're more likely to not be friends with you afterwards
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