I met my baby in april thru my sister. He is an amazing man!!! Makes me laugh, I make him laugh....he told me that he really loves that i make him laugh because hardly anyone out there captures his funny bone. and you know how it goes, The aries and gemini connection just SPARKS!!!!!!. we are in love. finally he came to see me cuz he lives 1800mi away. we met in person for the first time and spend the whole week in the bedroom. we both took turns cooking. we cleaned together we laughed, played, we just had the greatest of time. this last 6 weeks though have not been so great. we would talk on the phone for 4 hours straight. now just about an hour. he tells me to please understand him because he works the 3rd shift and he's getting sooo tired lately. it never stopped him before. on his off days we would talk on the phone and now we dont talk until its time for bed. I work at 6am and i get tired too but i make time to chat. seems like he's losing interest. but yet he tells me that he loves me and he wants to be a part of his life and please stand by him. I NEED ATTENTION!!!!!!! i tell him how i feel....he then tells me his reasons why and he attempts to make it all better. he does, and i am happy again. a few days go by and its back to neglecting me. I give him space. i know you gems need it. i too need it. but i want my baby to please me. He puts me on hold now till the end of the day. and we talk just under an hour now. Im so inlove eith him and i feel like he's not putting in as much effort as he did when we first got together. but i mean its only been 5 months. i wanted to break up with him but he insists that he loves me very much. I dont think hes cheating. or is he—? but i crave his attention and im not getting it like before. im tired of the excuses. how can i make myself feel better with out looking for another mans attention. i dont want sex with another man. i just want the mental stimulation. why is he doing this— he says he's got a life and he cannot dwell on the fact that we are apart. but i have a life too, and i still make time for us. then sometimes when we are on the phone he seems distracted. i figure he's going thru sh**. How can I make this relationship work? i cannot do it alone. Please guys....especially you gem males, give me some peace of mind. I decided i aint calling him if he dont call me. he will eventually but he calls when im about to pass out into sleep. Im so sad that i have no desire to continue but i do want him.
My precious Gem is not giving me enough attention!

Okay geminifox; you seem to know so much about GEM MEN. How do we, leo females, fair with Gemini men? We like a lot of the same things; but it hasn't been that long. I've literally only dated Cancer, Sagittarius and Aries men. This is so new to me; I'm never left speechless and he can send text messages that leaves me silent for hours. I'm sometimes stumped for a response-their quick and witty...

"he told me that he really loves that i make him laugh"
"spend the whole week in the bedroom. we both took turns cooking. we cleaned together we laughed, played, we just had the greatest of time"
"he tells me that he loves me and he wants to be a part of his life and please stand by him"
"how can i make myself feel better with out looking for another mans attention"
Wow ..
"spend the whole week in the bedroom. we both took turns cooking. we cleaned together we laughed, played, we just had the greatest of time"
"he tells me that he loves me and he wants to be a part of his life and please stand by him"
"how can i make myself feel better with out looking for another mans attention"
Wow ..
You need to find a life outside of him and understand that he has a life outside of you.
You sound really impatient actually, it's like you want it all now. Only problem with that is you'll just get bored quicker and the relationship will burn out.
Chill out a bit, find other ways to occupy your time and take your mind off him, and let the relationship progress at its own pace.
Chill out a bit, find other ways to occupy your time and take your mind off him, and let the relationship progress at its own pace.
ok so i pulled away. and yea it is really hard for me not to call him. I havent spoken to him since tuesaday night. I left him to voicemails since then just to say i love him and when ever he gets a chnce to give me a call. but yea..you guys i dont understand why he's switched on me like this. he used to smother me compared to how he acts now. and we have had this convo before. I told him that he takes things way tooo lightly. I know i can be a lil intense at times but i really am trying not to smother him. I guess you gems feel uneasy when ya'll in love right? I mean the males especially. is it cuz you are trying to think with your head only...leaving the heart out? He's 25 and has never had a relationship thats lasted more then 4 months. What do you think must be going thru his head?? we been together since april this year. I am supposed to be moving back to chicago in a year. we used to talk about that all the time and now we dont talk about hardly anything. I love him..he loves me...then why doesn't he call? How am i not to question what he may ba doing that he doesnt call me. it seems like everytime i bring it up, he makes an effort for a few days. then it goes back to he same bull. I think its bull because how hard is it to find time to call your girlfriend that you love soooo much. He once told me that he is content with me and that he thinks im insecure. How can i not be when i dnt hear from him for a few days. Then the day he decides to call me its like, hey baby, how are things. I feel uneasy cuz the conversations keep getting shorter and shorter and shorter. Its not like im just some chic he met a week ago, we've been together for 7months now. I dont even want to bring it up anymore but i just keep thinking about how he probably doesnt have the balls to break up with me. I dont want to break up with him...i want to work this issue. cuz on the days we do talk, at times its sooooo lovely and we have so much fun. He really acts like he dont care. is it hard for gem males to break up with a girl? i mean its hard for every one but why is he acting like this. he sees nothing wrong. OH and once he told me to please not act spiteful if he doesnt answer his phone, the next time he calls, he wants me to answer. is he testing me? does he want me to blow up in his face so he has an easier time dumping me. or am i really that crazy and insecure? im telling you guys, he never was like this. I really feel i am dating a diffrnt man.
its not so much that i dont have a life with out him though. its the fact that 2 or 3 days go by and he wont even call to say hello. or even return my call. we dont see eachother at all cuz of the distance thing. i never felt this way before. i thought i had to be the one to make sure he didnt feel neglected cuz i can sometimes pull away if i feel too somthered. but i am the one crying for him to connect with me. mind you i dont blow up in his face and tell him off. believe it or not i am calm when i speak on this. i dont think a couple should not be talking for days at a time. doesnt that seem like he's losing interest? i have never been a a relationship where the guy acted this way. it usually led to a break up cuz the love feelings faded away.
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Here it goes...The Low Down on aries women.
1. When They lay eyes on you, they will make it obvious they like you....(Far From Shy).....It's also best to 'be a man' and take action straight away, if you're a slick talker, use your gab and give her your number...Tell her 'i bet you don't call'...Obviously she will...
2. I have only been with them for short affairs...(i am young)...They fall in love easily....Rampant in bed...Love giving fellatio(sparkle motion i love fellatio) and easy to get to do anything, if there not up for something, just use reverse psychology...Works everytime...*Smiles*
3. Aries WOmen are Jealous, Some try and use it as a form of control...Of course if you're a man you wouldn't let a woman control you. Just let her know what time it is.
4. They' will Cheat if you cheat...Tit for Tat, eye for an eye...Very 'karmic'...
contrary to the description of sag im unforgiving...Intolerant, So at that point i would have to draw the curtains and call it a show...(TaurusMoon)
5. They' wont cheat if they are really in to you and vice versa. They love the
'all out', 'us against the world', 'bonnie and clyde' type relationships.(Me2)
6. They are most likely to be on to doing gang-bangs...OF course you coudn't wife her after you let your friends hit it.LOL.(I don't judge people sexual orientation by the way)
7. They are Really really sensitive, tell her off but don't 'cross the line'
I.e, start talking about her 'stank breath, ugly clothes and bad cooking'...
...The kind of thing a scorpio would do...Infact they will read into any kind
of scathing remark or slight critisism as a Big Hint. Don't be cruel.
8. Aries women will have your back, make sure you got hers...
9. Aries women They will share, with you what they have. They are not as selfish as they make out. They're also really fun-loving, and love good conversation.
10. Finally, Make sure you arrive on time, don't make her wait hours, they really do think its the highest form of disrepectful. They won't turn up a minute late for you...."Damn, you actually came at 10'oclock on the dot! baby, baby im not ready im
half naked and shaving...Which obviously leads to sex....*Smiles*
most of what this post says about aries females it true for me....hmmmm

If I were smothered like this, I'd probably stop answering my phone too.
You sound very, very, very emotionally needy. I should imagine any man would run once this realization sets in.
You sound very, very, very emotionally needy. I should imagine any man would run once this realization sets in.
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