stay or go?

for all you astro-whizzes looking to fill in few moments:

I have some friends who are married, both nice people individually, but who should never ever have gotten married (I specifically told each of them separately BEFORE the wedding not to go thru with it!)
Ok, so a few years and a kiddie down the track she advises me they are now in counselling and do I think should she do...

they are having or about to have the following transits:

Pluto trine Pluto
Neptune square MC
Jupiter square
Saturn trine Ascendant
Saturn sextile Pluto
Neptune square Mars

and

Neptune square Neptune
Pluto square Uranus
Neptune square Sun
Saturn opposition Venus
Saturn opposition Mercury
Uranus opposition Uranus


Does anyone have any thoughts?
To me these transits are trying to say "hey - now is your chance to break free" but everyone would have a different interpretation.
No one is the bad guy - well I mean I have seen them do equally bad stuff to each other so there are no "sides" - they just don't do well together and all I see is a bad situation going worse for them.
They don't want to separate because: - he (the wife always gets custody/I'll have to pay alimony) and
she (lose financial security - which she wouldn't because she would probably clean him out!/I won't find another guy)

Pluto trine Pluto
Neptune square MC
Jupiter square Ascendant
Saturn trine Ascendant
Saturn sextile Pluto
Neptune square Mars


whereforarthou oh edit button?

Does he actually really -want- custody? and if so, why is she against giving it to him?
Sometimes I think dads just want it because its something to win, rather than actually considering what work will actually be expected of him as a single parent.

why is he worried about alimony? Is he not spending the equivalent on them now, anyway? seems like a dumb reason to stay in a relationship that isnt working, to me.
her - not finding someone new? haha we all worry about that but its bogus, obviously and a shit reason to be in a failed relationship
money is a concern, being a single mom is shit without money.
"clean him out"
sigh
that line alone is rife with bias, and misogyny
don't even get me started on that shit.

I say GREEN LIGHT FOR THE GO
though my opinion is based on logic and not at all to do with whatever those signs you listed may or may not mean.

also, your avatar made me SMILE! EEEE SO CUTE

I know she would be ok for money. I guess it's a normal fear to have when you see your cushy life style threatened.
He has a good job and there are reasonable assets to disburse.

You are right about the alimony vs what you probably spend already.
He is really quite gushy about having custody🙂
He does swing shifts so he isn't home all the time which is why he thinks they would not award it to him. (I remember him telling me this years ago so maybe this stuff has subconsciously been brewing away for quite a while.)


"Clean the ***** out" were her words, not his. I have seen her ruthlessness in action. I don't think she is kidding.

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
also, your avatar made me SMILE! EEEE SO CUTE

He rocks. He is so cool.


And not just because he looks like me🙂

**before a bikini wax😉

They made their bed now they have to lay in it.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson



"Clean the ***** out" were her words, not his. I have seen her ruthlessness in action. I don't think she is kidding.

eek that is really such a shame 😢 I don't relate at all with that kind of thinking.

The swing shift -can- be problematic, it could also be the perfect timing for -her- to take those days..
I cannot comprehend not wanting to share this responsibility as MUCH as possible.
I just can't relate.
:p

For the kids sakes I hope they work this shit out!

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
I just can't relate.
:p

For the kids sakes I hope they work this shit out!

er to clarify, I mean the details of the divorce/custody, NOT the failed relationship. and by the time you are using the words "clean him out" it is most certainly one giant fucking fail.

Posted by happykitsune
They made their bed now they have to lay in it.

I am leaning toward that. After all, the Aries Knowall tried to warn them!! so they can't say they weren't told.

I know if it was me I would be outta there in a flash, but if it was me I wouldn't have married the guy in the first place so ...... I dunno.

Nice situation NOT to be in!

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
I just can't relate.
:p

For the kids sakes I hope they work this shit out!

er to clarify, I mean the details of the divorce/custody, NOT the failed relationship. and by the time you are using the words "clean him out" it is most certainly one giant fucking fail.

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....a GFF

I love it!!

hahaa GFF!

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by happykitsune
They made their bed now they have to lay in it.

I am leaning toward that. After all, the Aries Knowall tried to warn them!! so they can't say they weren't told.

I know if it was me I would be outta there in a flash, but if it was me I wouldn't have married the guy in the first place so ...... I dunno.

Nice situation NOT to be in!

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Yes, which is why people really need to think and think and rethink before they get married. And I'm a firm believer in counseling before you get married. A good marriage counselor will try to split you up and if the two of you are strong enough you will hold up and will get married.

But if you do end up getting married it is not only a promise, but a covenant. What is peoples word now-a-days that they can just go to court and end it if the feelings aren't there or whatever bullshit reason. I understand when it is abuse or infidelity, but people should try to work through it first before getting a divorce. At least they are going to counseling.