Virgo Aries Revisited

Hi, I'm a Virgo male and I can't resist Aries women.

Acknowledgment is the first step, right?

I just registered after I found an old topic (http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?p=2&id=342740) that I found very helpful.

I was married to an Aries for five years, and since then, I've dated two others. I know, I know, everything I read says that's not supposed to work, but these have been the best relationships of my life.

I've learned a lot from these relationships, and I thought I'd share a couple things:

I feel I am less a typical Virgo now. I am not tied to structure and regimen. I prefer things to be more dynamic. I am much less critical now. It used to drive me nuts that she would go off on a tangent without thinking through the goals and consequences. I now see that as another way of approaching things, and I admire what can be accomplished this way. I find myself immediately drawn to the fiery personalities of Aries women, and I've been able to have deep, intense connections with them.

Here's where the relationships tend to stumble. While I'm a deeply loyal and passionate person, I don't express myself loudly and repeatedly. This, of course, triggers the Aries insecurities. I'm getting better at expressing myself. I have found that if she's not getting the feedback she needs, the Aries woman will try to incite me into expressing myself passionately, even if it is negative. I'm learning to read the signs much better and be more overtly expressive.

Can it work? I think so, but only if both parties are willing to look into themselves and understand a person who is entirely different.

My friends, well, they just think I'm nuts.

I'd love to hear others' thoughts.

Oh yeah, sorry I couldn't be more creative with my screen name. I saw another one like it and it just stuck 😉

Hi VLA!

I admire your willingness to be "open" to all possibilities of learning and more importantly, experiencing them! There is such a "safeness" when in the company of a Virgo - my experience anyway.

I believe that anything can work if the two people involved have a desire to create their journey together.

I dated a wonderful Mr. Virgo for awhile and to this day, we are the best of friends infact, we are closer now than we were while dating! He is in another relationship with a Virgo woman and from what he tells me, it is working great for him.

Yes, us Aries do need "aliveness" in our relationships - What I find with most of my Virgo pals is that they have a tendency to "hold back" - just because, just in case, wait and see, something might happen....to an Aries, life is about LIVING being fully alive in the moment.

One of my Virgo girlfriends has an Aries son - she seems to be discombobulated most of the time😉. He is teaching her to relax, enjoy the moments, stop worrying and have fun with life. As you can imagine, I am having a blast watching their relationship evolve - quite entertaining to say the least 🙂

My best wishes to you VLA- I know many Aries/Virgo relationships and marriages so it can work!

You sound female in your verbal expression .. Virgo's, especially the men, normally don't talk like this, for they don't have this type of self-esteem ..

This is very suspcious to me that ALV/DD is gone and claims not to be able to log in, now VLA is here, praising Aries women, and actually having the attitude of a female Aries, rather than a male Virgo.

And second because it is said that a similiar name has been seen so it stuck in the mind .. yet, ALV, hasn't been logged on for awhile, so where has it been seen? This similiar name?

AriesLovesVirgo .. I wasn't aware DD was still posting under this name, nor has she done so for a while

VirgoLovesAries, you are DD/ALV, so it appears to me.

AriesLovesVirgo 4/24/2007 10:05:48 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.12E



This is the last time ALV posted, on April 24th .. so who's name exactly were you referring to when you said you saw a similiar name and it just stuck?

You're lying .. you are DD/ALV

Hmmmmm....she/he is back at it again huh?

Interesting.

Don't know, FB .. I only know that normally, a Virgo doesn't have this kind of disposition. For instance, on another board, this person made a commit about him/her self and then validiated it by saying he/she wasn't in high school any longer and a Virgo just wouldn't do that under normal circumstances .. they make their assessment without offering any explanation, for they don't believe they have to justify as to why they feel the way they do.

That's just not normal for a Virgo .. additionally, just here, he/she says, "I feel I am less a typical Virgo now. I am not tied to structure and regimen."

WTF? Virgo's are PROUD to be Virgo's, and being tied to structure and regiment is what makes them feel safe .. it's their safety net, and they rely on it.

This person just doesn't sound like a Virgo to me. I dont' know who it is, maybe it's not DD/ALV .. but, I'm nearly certain it's not a Virgo and it's suspect to me that a person posing as someone else would just happen to pick this name, claiming to adore Aries women.

Can't say I've even heard Virgo man say he "adores" anybody, maybe on rare occasions. I've lived with a Virgo for 25 years and he doesn't even use the word "adore", nor praise even his grandson, and trust me, my husband loves his grandson to no end .. but, he doesn't adore or praise .. it's just not a Virgo trait.

I have to correct myself .. she/he didn't use the word "adore"

Hi, I'm a Virgo male and I can't resist Aries women.

Acknowledgment is the first step, right?

I was married to an Aries for five years, and since then, I've dated two others. I know, I know, everything I read says that's not supposed to work, but these have been the best relationships of my life.

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This is NOT a Virgo .. acknowledgement/first step .. wtf? This makes no sense .. a Virgo wouldn't be married to an Aries for 5 years and just NOW decide there's an acknowledgement of exactly what qualities are within the Aries female.

Secondly .. a Virgo would NOT just so casually talk about a failure in a marriage as being the best relationship in his life .. OMG.

If a Virgo divorced a woman, he would be hesitant to even "look" at another women who displayed similiar qualities, much less express so casually that he's hopelessly addicted.

This is NOT a Virgo .. I'd almost put money on it.

"It used to drive me nuts that she would go off on a tangent without thinking through the goals and consequences. I now see that as another way of approaching things, and I admire what can be accomplished this way"

Bullshit .. a Virgo would never .. NEVER .. admire a person who leaps without looking. My God DD/ALV .. if you're going to pose as a Virgo, or any sign for that matter, you could at least change your character to coincide .. an actress, you're not.

Admire a person who doesn't think about consequences?

This is funny as hell .. you actually thought people would buy this?

lol

What I would like to know (if my suspicions are accurate) is why exactly, if DD/ALV is pregnant by her Cappy man, would she now be in here focusing on the Aries/Virgo combo?

What a douchebag (if it's her)

ALV was here first .. she caught all kinds of grief for being so self-centered and hurting her V-man, and not just from me, from most people .. so she stopped posting. She was very prolific and had a knack for posting long and sensual thoughts, which most people really liked this about her. But, when she said things about her V-man and someone pointed it out, she would go into a uncontrollable tyrade, so left. Then this same person started an additional screen name of DearDiary .. but, they are the same person.

DearDiary is supposed to be getting married to her Cap man because she is supposedly 5 weeks pregnant.

And I know they are the same person .. ALV isn't heard from, not since April (except in a PM to me), yet, everytime I talk to DD and mention that she is ALV .. suddenly, I get ALV PM'ing me, telling me off .. this only happens when I accuse DD of being ALV ..

I know they are the same person .. at one time, with the old IP addresses, Dyr and FB both went and searched and found them to be using the same IP's.

prrrrr, because DD/ALV loves creating dramatic situations in which consists of chaos .. this would be right up her alley of something to do. She keeps Virgo man in the balance, while playing both Cap and Virgo .. last year she said she was pregnant by Virgo and got an abortion because she was pissed at him.

So, who knows if she's really pg by CapMan.

SF .. it was my very first impression, also, as you can tell.

It's too coincedental .. too similiar in expression AND it's not a Virgo.

Nope, I'm not kidding .. ALV aborted out of anger at the Virgo, so she says .. who knows if it's the truth or not.

Aha!

None of the following is stated as critical or defensive...

You guys are hilarious. I am EXACTLY who I say. Hmmmm. Now how would I prove that? Anything I can tell you in, say, a private message or something? Maybe this is a challenge to those who like to peg people based on their sun sign.

Yes, I'm familiar with who ALV is because she posted in the one topic that I read before I registered. If I had known she was an outcast, I would have been more careful about my screen name choice.

Like I said, I'm not a typical Virgo, and I think perhaps one reason is because I've taught myself to work with Aries'. I've never had my full chart done, but at some point I'd like to. Anyone have suggestions where to start?

Oh, and while we may be proud, that doesn't mean we're obstinate about who we are.

"You sound female in your verbal expression .. Virgo's, especially the men, normally don't talk like this, for they don't have this type of self-esteem .. "

Thanks for the compliment. I do have high self-esteem, and have absolutely no doubts about my masculinity.

"they don't believe they have to justify as to why they feel the way they do."

Oh, no, I do not feel I ever need to justify how I feel. I do always like to explain why, though. Must be from raising 5 kids :p

"This is NOT a Virgo .. acknowledgement/first step .. wtf? This makes no sense .. a Virgo wouldn't be married to an Aries for 5 years and just NOW decide there's an acknowledgement of exactly what qualities are within the Aries female.

Secondly .. a Virgo would NOT just so casually talk about a failure in a marriage as being the best relationship in his life .. OMG.

If a Virgo divorced a woman, he would be hesitant to even "look" at another women who displayed similiar qualities, much less express so casually that he's hopelessly addicted. "

Uh, the "acknowledgement" was in jest, as if introducing myself in some AA group or something. I was VERY aware of the Aries qualities with each of the women I was with. And even at the time, I appreciated them. I'm just the type of person who always wants to learn and grow as a person. Is that not Virgo? dunno. And that's why I talk about the marriage (and subsequent relationships) in a positive light. There was huge potential to learn and grow there. I did explain where the relationships went sour. Also, I do continue to have good relationships with these women. I'm just not a spiteful person.

(continued)

I think that's part of the reason my Aries women had such strong feelings about me, both positive and negative. They couldn't get me to go negative, and sometimes that made them feel like I didn't care. Other times, they were enamored by it. Oh, and re the divorce: we have very different philosophies on raising our children, and our differences were having a negative effect on the children. It works better now that we're not together.

"Bullshit .. a Virgo would never .. NEVER .. admire a person who leaps without looking."

Bullshit! 😉

"This is funny as hell .. you actually thought people would buy this?"

I don't really care if anyone "buys" it. I just wanted to get some thoughts out there, and spark some discussion. I guess that part worked :p If I can prove to you somehow who I am, won't you be shocked?

"P-A, i don't always agree with what you write, but, damn, what you write can be fucking entertaining."

Agreed :p

Oh, let me add another twist.

Before I was married to my Aries, I was married to a Capricorn for 10 years. No passion in that, in any respect.

Hell, maybe my birth certificate is wrong :p

After reading all of VLA's posts, I don't think VLA is ALV.

P-Angel is *very* observant. And I was agreeing with her at first because it all made sense. However there is one major difference that stood out to me:

ALV used to ***ALWAYS*** have tons of dumb spelling mistakes in her posts that made me want to(obsessively) go back and edit all her posts! 😛
I could never understand how she could brag about her education and high ranking government job but couldn't spell. How do you get a high ranking government job with junior high spelling— Sorry, that's my "Virgo" coming out.

Anyway..

Welcom VLA! I've been drawn to Aries men a lot myself. But I'm on the Leo cusp and have an Aries moon. I'm probably not a typical "Virgo" either(except for the spelling thing). 😉

You can get a great in depth chart at astro.com.

"Welcom VLA! I've been drawn to Aries men a lot myself."

Well thanks for the welcome and the reference. All in good fun... you spelled Welcome wrong :p And no, no, no, it's NOT MEN I'm drawn to. lol

oh, the spelling thing was a test, wasn't it?

"ALV used to ***ALWAYS*** have tons of dumb spelling mistakes in her posts that made me want to(obsessively) go back and edit all her posts!"

Ah .. now THAT sounds like a Virgo, lol 🙂🙂

"you spelled Welcome wrong"


lol

"you spelled Welcome wrong"

LOL!!!

See P-Angel!!!
Definitely not ALV! 😉 😛

The seed has been planted .. we'll see what grows.

However, for now .. welcome 🙂 to our community. I'm another person who likes Aries (the males) and so understand the attraction. The females do little to tickle my fancy .. but, the men are cool.

You never know, you might find your next Ram Wife in here .. curious how your other relationship was with a Cappy, lol. This puts my radar back up again. lol

LOL!!!

P-Angel - I think you give ALV too much credit.
Even her aliases were unimaginatively similar.
They were all "young, uber successful, gorgeous, wealthy, in relationships but with other admirers on the side, unmarried Canadian women with no kids"(and poor spelling). 😛

I doubt she'd even want to be identified with an older twice divorced gentleman with children. She'd want to be a young, hot stud Virgo. A single doctor, lawyer, or politician who has women falling all over him. He'd have to be wealthy, have a high social status, be romatic, amazing in bed, and have a huge d!ck. 😉 All this, the perfect romantic specimen - and he only has eyes for Aries women with red hair and prior porn experience. 😛 (Why is there no rolling eyes smiley when you need it?)

lol, yes .. a star in every right

But be marvelous to be born to such a position of being better than everyone else in the world .. how embarassing it would have been to contemplate putting something in the coffee of the competition for Secretary #1 .. good thing we didn't notice, for a person only has to be embarrassed if someone noticed.


VLA .. back to your topic. If you go to the Aries board, you will find many female Rams who would just love to hear about how much you admire thier strength, sexiness and courage. I won't follow you there, for so long as I'm posting opinions, most people stay clear of me, and rarely oppose. So, I'll leave this alone now, so you can get others to respond. Good Luck in your quest for finding whatever it is you're looking for. 🙂

"I doubt she'd even want to be identified with an older twice divorced gentleman with children."

Hey, I'm not old 😉

"She'd want to be a young, hot stud Virgo. A single doctor, lawyer, or politician who has women falling all over him. He'd have to be wealthy, have a high social status, be romatic, amazing in bed, and have a huge d!ck. All this, the perfect romantic specimen - and he only has eyes for Aries women with red hair and prior porn experience."

Hey, who says I'm not any of that? 😉

"Good Luck in your quest for finding whatever it is you're looking for"

Do any of us really know what that is?

So where's this redhead Aries board? :p lol

re the Capricorn wife.

Not that this has to do with her sign, but she had no passion, no ambition, she was aloof, condescending (not to me, to everyone else). I really felt repressed.

Then, after the divorce, she decides to haul our kids 900 miles away so she can go marry her attorney.

We get along swimmingly now :rolleyes:

"Hey, I'm not old 😉"
That's why I said "older" - as in older than ALV or the type of guys she's probably into and would want to associate with. 😉

"Hey, who says I'm not any of that? 😉"
Not me! But if you were, you'd probably be out banging said Aries chicks instead of posting about them on an Astrology message board. 😛

Sorry to hear about how things went down with your Cap wife. 😢
I find that I don't get along well with the people I'm supposed to according to most astrological sites. So far the recommended signs - other Earth signs, Geminis, and Cancers- I get along with the worst. I get along best with Fire signs - Aries & Sags the most. I'm surrounded by Leos in my family and I love them to death. 🙂

2nd what P-A said. If you want to stroke some Aries ego, the Aries board is the best place to do it. Well, 2nd best place. Of course the best place to stroke an Aries(ego) is in real life. 😉

I'm actually on sort of an Aries break right now. My latest girl has some significant emotional and family issues that absolutely magnify her insecurities and hostility (her Dad is an Aries, too). I know when she becomes hostile toward me, she's really reaching out for compassion, but there's only so much I can take. I said I understand and admire them, but that doesn't mean I have unlimited tolerance.

How does his sound? "I'm so disappointed. This whole time I thought you were going to be my "white knight" but you're a pathetic loser." I know clearly what she's trying to say to me. I've told her how her delivery techniques effect me and kill her message, but she hasn't quite been able to take that to heart. Tomorrow, she will apologize for being mean. Like I said, these tendencies are magnified because of issues she needs to resolve.

She understands that she does it and knows why (fear and insecurity). I understand, too, and I love her to death, but for now, I'm taking care of my self a little. My opening line isn't far from the truth. My attraction is something like a dangerous addiction.

The Aries I dated last year and I have a good relationship to this day. Since we broke up, there has always been continued attraction though, and that's gotten us in trouble. We finally talked in detail about all our feelings for each other, so we can be friends without complications. At least the complications are acknowledged so we can deal with them properly.

Once you stroke an Aries' ego (or anything else for that matter), you better not stop, or the claws come out. It may be safer to do it on a message board, but I think I'll hold off for now :p

aquaj, those are very nice things of you to say. thanks.

oh, this is what I got from astro.com, for those of you that know what it all means.

Ascendant in Gemini
Sun in Virgo
Sun in the Fourth House
Moon in Sagittarius
Moon in the Sixth House
Venus in Libra
Venus in the Fifth House
Mars in Scorpio
Mars in the Sixth House

Hi VLA. My best friend is a virgo so I love virgo's. Your moon in Sag makes you very compatible with Aries especially if they have a fire sign in their moon sign too ( like I do!!) Ha Ha!!!!!!! Sorry, I get a little carried away 😉

I wish you all the best and if you need any advice regarding Aries, I'd be happy to help you. Take care.

Thanks.
A little carried away? I wonder what could explain that? 😉