Virgo Man vs Taurus Man

Well, this is the situation.

Since this leo/ virgo cusp is either TOO slow or not interested; there's someone else I have in mind.

He's an Aries/ Taurus cusp (I know! This is becoming a pattern) -- he's 34 years old and he's been married before. However, he is a sweetheart and really funny. Plus, he (actually) calls me!!!

I don't believe that the Leo/virgo is a terrible guy but for some reason I just don't know about him. If feel like this:

Why give me the impression that you're interested and then decided not to act upon? I don't care what sign you are, this makes no sense to me. Maybe it's because of the saggie in me, but I simply don't know if I should wait around for this joker to communicate with me.

This Aries/Taurus guy is a bit more consistent -- actually I was chatting with him two weeks before I gave the Leo/Virgo my number but we are just friends so I didn't see any harm in that.

So, I do like this Leo/Virgo guy but the hot and cold moods are something I don't have patience for.

So am I wrong for feeling this way?

I would say no, you are not wrong for feeling this way. My vote is for the Taurus. Of course I'm biased since I have my eye on one now! But I agree, they tend to be more consistent, and there is nothing wrong with knowing where you stand.

My vote is for the Taurus. Of course I'm biased since I have my eye on one now! But I agree, they tend to be more consistent, and there is nothing wrong with knowing where you stand.

Yeah, the taurus has some major points right now LOL. I'm 23 years old. I'm at a point in my life where I crave stability but I haven't really had it -- well, once but that was a while ago.

I understand that things maybe going on in his life but I have things going on in my life too!

The Aries/Taurus guy is way too old for you. Please don't take it like I'm saying you're immature, because you're not. It's just when you're in your 30's plus having been married before, well, that's a huge gap in life experience. Of course he'll be interested in you because you're so young but if you really think about it, do you want a guy who's trying to young by being with you?

His age and experience could actually be a plus depending on what she is looking for. The Taurus guy I'm scoping out is about 10 years older than I am, has a child and a lenghty history with the child's mother. I'm in my late 20's. Now to me, I like his tarnished past because I think the older you get and the more you've been through helps you to understand what you want.

Late 20's is a huge difference from being in your early 20's. Any guy 10 yrs. plus is slapping high 5's with his friends over bagging a young one. I've been there and know (being the young girl and it's embarrassing when you find out you where just an ego trip) . Just because he's older doesn't mean he's looking at her in a mature way. No, he's thinking, "Wow, I'm bagging a much younger girl!" He's telling his friends and it's an ego act. It 's always better to be with someone who has similar life experiences.

Thank you so much for your responses, you have shined some mcuh needed light on all the men involved.

Oh no, I would never string anyone along. I was only that blunt because I'm afraid the virgo will string me along if I wait. It's been a week and a few days since I've seen him. So I'm not sure ...

It sounds like your interesed in the aries/taurus guy. I don't think your age difference is that big of a deal. As long as both of you all are mature enough to handle a romantic relationship. Hell I met my cancer guy when I was 20 (on the verge of turning 21) and he was 32. We have been together for 5 years and yes he is divorced. So good luck with your aries/taurus guy.

Gangstalicious1982 are you piscesgirl24?

Well, the thing I fear about the Aries/Taurus is that he given me the attention that I want, but there's some of things about him. I've posted about this on the cappy board but he seems to be very down on himself and there's many things he trying to fix in his life -- things that he has to fix himself, things that I can't help him with.

If he didn't look to me for answers about what he should do with his life, then we would be fine, but ...

My experience with Virgo men is not really positive. They tend to get hung up on things they can't have. Poor listening skills, as in "Which part of 'I'm not interested' do you not understand?" (3 years later) Plus, they're always right and nothing is ever their fault.

If the Taurus shows more interest, explore that. They tend to be more relationship oriented, so he may be looking to hook you fast. Are you looking for a serious r'ship or just sampling the zodiac? Taurus can come on very strong very quickly. Great if you're ready for it but can be a bit scary ("Do I have you?" - what??) when you're not.

The Aries/Taurus has major issues, which you should not have to deal with. Don't be his ego boost unless that's all you want to be with him. Seriously, all much older men love the fact they're with much younger women. It's a HUGE EGO boost and they're willing to put aside other incompatibilities. In the long run, do you want to find yourself much older and realize that your older, 'mature' man is not so great or so mature? Sometimes big age differences can work (qualifying 10 yrs. or more) but you need to find out if this guy is with you (if you're younger) just for his ego. Every guy I've known who was dating a girl 10 yrs. his junior bragged about it.

My experience with Virgo men is not really positive. They tend to get hung up on things they can't have. Poor listening skills, as in "Which part of 'I'm not interested' do you not understand?" (3 years later) Plus, they're always right and nothing is ever their fault.

That's something to keep in mind ..., why in the hell do I attract virgos — By the gods, WHY!!!!!!

The Aries/Taurus has major issues, which you should not have to deal with. Don't be his ego boost unless that's all you want to be with him.

Well, I have to disagree on the older and younger thing. I find nothing wrong with people dating and marrying other 10 or 20 younger or older then they are. Love sees no age -- however, if its not for the right reasons then they shouldn't be together because trouble occur.

"Gangstalicious1982 are you piscesgirl24?"

Guess who lol!!! You mean prettypisces24. Yes its me in the flesh.

"Well, I have to disagree on the older and younger thing. I find nothing wrong with people dating and marrying other 10 or 20 younger or older then they are. Love sees no age -- however, if its not for the right reasons then they shouldn't be together because trouble occur"

Have you dated a divorced man 10 yrs. older than you with kids? Somehow I don't think you have. I have and it's harsh when you finally get down to the reality of it all. It sounds like you're intent on older guys, go for it. Sometimes the only way to learn is to find out for yourself what works. I wish you the best.

Cappy,

You know I like you a lot, so please heed Mistery's advice...

Yes, I'm almost 10 years older than my Scorp, but we met and fell in love at a much later age than where you are now. I would not have liked her when she was your age, and she wouldn't have looked at me twice... But, 14 years later? No problem!! We both had some growing up to do during those years, and you can see the result now...

It is possible that this older guy digs You for You - and age is not a factor. But... I gotta be a Virgo, and argue for The Average, and I doubt he's the exception to Mistery's Rule...

Have you dated a divorced man 10 yrs. older than you with kids? Somehow I don't think you have. I have and it's harsh when you finally get down to the reality of it all. It sounds like you're intent on older guys, go for it. Sometimes the only way to learn is to find out for yourself what works. I wish you the best.

Wait a minute Mistery, I didn't say your advice was bad 🙂 I haven't read any of your posts so I didn't know you had 'actual' experience in this area.

Yes, I'm almost 10 years older than my Scorp, but we met and fell in love at a much later age than where you are now. I would not have liked her when she was your age, and she wouldn't have looked at me twice... But, 14 years later? No problem!! We both had some growing up to do during those years, and you can see the result now...

Hi DY! Okay, I see the point being made here. Actually, I saw alittle of what Mistery was saying last Friday when the Aries/Taurus spoke. Honestly, I think that I just kind of clung to the A/T because the Leo/Virgo cuspy was (is) doing the whole "push-Pull" thing -- I can't stand that.

At this point, the Leo/Virgo cusp (after showing he was REALLY into me) pulled away and I have no idea when I will see him again. Why he's acting like this is beyond me, but it is what it is and I have to find another guy quick before I go crazy -- this was a guy that I thought was "good", so my judgement of character is a little briused at the moment so I must find someone to release all my EVERYTHING on or else I will be a nutcuse before the end of June.

It is possible that this older guy digs You for You - and age is not a factor. But... I gotta be a Virgo, and argue for The Average, and I doubt he's the exception to Mistery's Rule...

Well, you haven't given me bad advice before, so ... I doubt you would give bad advice now.

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What Theory?