Any Gem ladies here been w/VIrgo man?

I find myself at a loss.................so confused.

Im a Virguy that dated a Gemgal long-term, about the same age as you too, PGAngel.

Whats got you sooo lost & confused?

Ordinarily its a squared vibration but these two have several similarities.

MarKella, what I wrote in the first post was incorrect. But since this website doesnt have edit features, my only choice was to hide it and rewrite.

But being that I'm Virgo, yes @ insecurities LOL!

I dated a Virgo guy for a little over 2 years... we broke up last week and I'm confused as well.

What is confusing with this pairing is that Geminis respond from emotions, while Virgo's respond from intellect.

It's not uncommon for a Gemini to use how they "feel", whatever these feelings may be ... as a direction for how they are going to proceed in life. When you do this, which is normal for your kind .. the Virgo will not respond with same direction (emotions) .. instead, he will appear to be cold/callous (which he isn't) because he will process what you said or did .. mentally.

Its pretty hard to get divorced within less than 9 months. Is he still technically "married" per se? Or what?

If the divorce isnt finalised, I got your answer why you feel confused!

Ahh, understood. Sounds like it was an uncontested divorce. He was with his wife for 18 years and survived cancer with her? Wow. I'll bet he's pretty confused himself, although does sound like hes having fun w/you.

The loner part is true of Virgos to a great extent, but I dont follow how having the army buddy stayiong there causes any issues for you. In fact, I cant really decipher alot of what your saying simply because you include so much information, some of it seamingly irrelevant, but I know you wouldnt put it in there if it wasnt.

So he talks with you, tells you everything, has great sex, but you are feeling some sort of distance from him? Truth be told, Im confused myself! Sounds like it going pretty well all things considered 😉

*seemingly

You don't .... respect is a big issue with Virgo's. Once you are classified as "sex", that is what you are. Virgo's don't work that way, a woman can't sex him up only for months and then expect him to move it to a respectful relationship.

You are confused because this is what you think should be happening and it's not ... you've conflated sex with feelings.

He tells you things you want to hear about future to keep you opening your legs to him ... and you do want more than he is able to give you, you want him to "feel" you emotionally and he doesn't .. he just tells you that to keep you in his bed.

Here's where you lost him ....

"he opens his whole and complete life to me, EVERYTHING. I have fallen for this man, yet, I seen last Oct this was going to and begining to happen, so i walked away .."

He opened up to you, which is remarkable for a Virgo ... once he gave you his heart .. you walked away.

Now, you're just a piece of ass .... and he'll continue to tell you anything you want to hear to keep you in his bed, but, he'll never trust you with his heart again .. because last time he trusted you with it, you left him.

Stop sleeping with him, and keep it platonic .. just friends.

Eventually, over time .. he may come to change his opinion. However, it will take many years, if at all.

One thing you have to realize .. because you are a Gemini, you follow your feelings. You know that there is chemistry between the two of you and this is what will direct you. However, he is Virgo .. and in so being, he will NOT follow his feelings. Certainly, he knows that there is chemistry .. but, he will follow what is logical.

He will wiegh out what has taken place between the two of you, without any consideration for feelings ... certainly, Virgos are human and have feelings .. however, they don't allow emotions to direct their path for them .. that is, unless they've been betrayed. If they feel that someone has used them, taken advantage of them, or hurt them in some way .. then they will allow those feelings to direct their path.

But, not in love ... in love, they don't follow their heart, instead, the follow their head.

So, the only way to get him to change his opinion of how deeply your relationship should go will depend on what his head is telling him. And so long as you are still sleeping with him (following the chemistry, which is the emotional side) .. then he'll remain at a distance with you and not attempt to move closer.

You have to target his head .. this means to close your legs to him and intrigue him mentally.

I dated for like a min!!! My mom is a Virgo and we really never hit it off.

I find the relationship with a Virgo BORING

The best I could offer right now would be to ask simple questions of you that have no relevance to astrology.

Maybe find out if he is interested in being with a woman who still has kids at home? That might be a big one for some guys, albeit less so for a Virgo guy. I can only put myself in his shoes and tell you after my div, I sorta went crazywildnuts with the women and all that. Wasnt even thinking about getting attached again and just wanted to spread my wings and fly! Maybe its as simple as a case of bad timing on his part?

You say that both of you are very open communicators. Whats he telling you?

Another thing about what you mentioned previously about fixin to lay it on the line with him....be careful of doing this upon a Virgo. It feels icky to us!! 🙂 It is something that I dont have the words to describe well enough, but compare it to being "dared" to do something. So unless Im missunderstanding your intentions of what you want to tell him, just make it clear you're not imposing any sort of limits or deadline he has to agree with, okay?

"he has also stated i wanted more than he wanted to give. I ggot it, funny part, i never asked for any of the information he shares with me, i didnt ask for anything he had not offered, i did finally tell him i wanted it all."




Would you agree with me that here is where the problem really is?

Awww.....that love note "CD" thing sounds shweet!

It sounds like he has some confusion on his part as well, which is somewhat untypical of a Virg because we want to feel confident and certain where we stand in everything we partake of, oftentimes to the level of anality (is that a real word, anality?).

Well anyways, you get the point. If he is acting anything other than certain of what he is doing and telling you, then somethings got him afluttered (again, I ask, is that a real word?).

a 42 year old man who has survived both a divorce and cancer does not need 'friends' telling him to "be a man" about anything!

What else are these friends of his telling him? The army buddy? Whats their take on your relationship?

For some reason, I shared that same thought about the cancer still being an issue, but didnt feel comfortable posting it PerfectGem.

You sound like some stoned chick, Virgo Gemini is a squared vibration oridnarily.

Are you procrastinating? Considering your ages go for it. Its not like the two of you have not been around.

You are both implying that he is a doper and he is bisexual.

In Synastry .... suns squared (90 degrees) is a hard aspect.


Meaning .... you two shouldn't be getting along at all.

For a Gemini sun ... 90 degrees either way is squared .. so, you shouldn't get along with Virgo or Pisces .. relationship speaking.

Interesting, I do.....very interesting....LOL

I get along a/both signs, as far as friendship goes....and he and I, my Virgo I speak of here, we get along GREAT, no fights, just distance and times of silence, I feel disrespected from these actions mostly....

I dont get along w/Scorpio's, I have three in my family, and Capi's and I dont relationship well at al either.....or so my experiences have gone thus far, I have always been interested in Astrology, and followed horoscopes for as long as I can remember. I married a Capi, and Sagi, 18 years w/the Sagi, we are great friends, never should have been in a marriage relationship.....

Hmmmm, thanks Pangel

LOL, really.......thanks M, I adore my Virgo too, and I am pretty sure he knows that!

Communication has never been a problem and they have a very calming, stabilizing influence which I crave.

This is SOOOOOOOOOO true for me too!



Lady M,
I too find what you say to be how i feel he is.....fits.....i feel like he keeps throwing me curves to see where i will land, and i am waiting for him to be done and ready for me....not second, ready for me........IDK IDK IDK

Funny, the any extras is appreciated, i feel like that is his attitude, but i dont get the appreciation, idk, and yes, he keeps acting or taking up right where we left off, w/out skipping a beat, like he is filling in the blanks for me during my absence, which is of his doing and me allowing him space........do i mis read this?

okay, so you all know what is up. He and i communicated again, i try to make sure he knows i am here for him, i am worried about him, but i will not be a "bootycall" heck no! So he apologized and he is not persueing anything more........he is alone and i believe lonely, but who really knows besides him, it aint me......hard to do, but twice now i have turned down those "invites" and stated for him not to ask me for that.......or only that....anyway, living an learning.....its not easy, even at my age.

I so often forget that, as a matter of a fact, its something i am working on greatly, my loyalty is deep and solid, i just forget to do that for myself first so often, new concept for me. LOL, sad but true.
So, this seems to be somewhat effective w/he and i, i seen him yesterday, it was great! I got that gaze into my eyes i read about on here, and such depth in his words and the meanings. I was glad to see him, first time after his treatments....i was so worried about him....relieved now....and very happy and grateful he seems to be okay. He finds hisself out of sorts, uncertain right now....is this a uncomfortable place? seems to be for him.....so my understanding is it is....Virgo traits, he seems to be a typical male Virgo that i read of here, for the most part, he is unique as well!
We are so comfortable togather, its unreal almost, and almost scary.....me, i fight past the fear, i think he is somewhat stuck in it.....understandable for me.....

re reading, now i am pissed! wow, my journel got wiped out in my laptop, and i am re-reading, oh i am not a happy camper!

Hi Perfect Gem Angel

Yes im with a Virgo, communication is brilliant between us...

Me Him

1st June 1st Sept

He recently told me he trusts me and ive noticed that when we txt each other he puts kisses at the end of his txts and he tells me now that he misses me when we area apart, which before he wasnt so open with words like this

Correct birth dates

Me: 1st June
Him: 21st Sept

RIhanna,

GOOD LADY! I am happy you are happy w/your VIrguy! There is another thread on virgo board, this is ongoing as you can tell for sometime. My experience, not so lovely as yours, but not so gloomy either, it is what it is. Happy Valentines Day to you, I am sure he (your man) will sweep you off your feet w/romance today, enjoy it!

My bday is May 27
His Sept 12

Do you know much about charts? I am still learning myself.

Thanks Rihanna, you actually give a lady hope for brighter things to come!

To be honest PGA, from my experience Virgo shows how they feel for you through their actions & they say and do things in a sutle way...


What u need to know and have is patience and alot of it. I admit it hasnt been easy with my virgo but as with time and alot of patience & understanding it is starting to pay off...

I have no doubt, he is worth it, i feel no different really about the one i have spent time w/and waited for him "to do what he needed to do".

I just dont have ANY actions to go w/words. The only action i have are the returning for sex nights. That is not enough, I am just being honest. I wish i could tell a "lovers story" but sadly enough, that is not what this appears to be. Maybe one sided, my side, but not a mutual road traveled meeting anywhere, much less in the middle.

Its been months, and i still dont want anyone else, and have not been w/anyone else until this week(a moment of weakness w/another past man) which i would not have done if Virgo was around. Would have not been a moment of thought to pass that up.
I have learned alot of patients in a year an 4 months since meeting him, i have learned ALOT! I heard him say be patient, i heard him say keep doing what you are doing, and when i did, he disregarded me again and again, I have to be done, for me, that is not about him.

Unfortunately, i didnt read your postin about what happed between you both becos i couldnt see the posts as they were blocked...

Do you have any contact with him at all at the mo?

No contact, they are now open, sorry!