What to do about a Cancer Man ignoring me

What's your sign OP?

What are you doing with a guy who has kids? knowing full well. It's you that has to adjust, adapt, compromise, and go with the flow.

No one will pick a gf over a kid without a babysitter..you have to be unselfish.. and know you'll never be the mother of that kid. So you are just with him in supporting and loving him and his kid too at the same time.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What are you doing with a guy who has kids? knowing full well. It's you that has to adjust, adapt, compromise, and go with the flow.

No one will pick a gf over a kid without a babysitter..you have to be unselfish.. and know you'll never be the mother of that kid. So you are just with him in supporting and loving him and his kid too at the same time.

i had that same issue. it was too much for me.

Maybe you shouldn't be dating if you're allowing past relationships to dictate your behavior in new ones.

It's been 24 hours and you're freaking out.

You've barely had any involvement with the guy for a mere month and you guys are already planning a weekend away. You both are moving too fast and your issues are going to make it worse.

"OMG IT'S BEEN 24 HOURS. DOES HE WANT TO END IT??"

Seriously? Are you reading what you're writing here? You sound too neurotic to be dating, woman.

as tough as it may be to hear, thank you.

Why is it tough to hear practical sense?

Were you just born and so this was your first interaction with a person?


I didn't read the OP, but, from what I gather, you leapt on the first guy who said hello .. and now crying because you made a bad decision for yourself and cannot handle that you fucked up, and so want to make something else out of it.


Is this a pattern? Why would a person place themselves in situations, where their own senses told them not to go?

Are you a teenager? ... because that would explain why there's no forethought.

Posted by gracecheree
as tough as it may be to hear, thank you.

Sorry to be harsh, and I do understand where you're coming from, but these are some questions you have to ask yourself if you're reacting the way you are.

It's understandable to have issues from bad relationships. But you gotta keep all of that in check and not allow it to dictate your current actions with a new individual who is NOT the asshole who conditioned you from his shitty behavior.

I think a lot of people have had moments like yours, it's just a matter of keeping it all in check. I know in the past, if I hadn't heard from a guy like I normally did, I'd start to get a little wtf. Then I'd look at the time that had passed, realized it hadn't been as long as it felt, and just dropped it.

Also, I hate to say it, but if he said to let him know and you just opened the floodgates, despite the invitation, it could have been a little too much for him to handle and he's backed off a bit. After all, it's only been a month.

Just go do something to get your mind off of things and see if/when you hear from him and go from there. Panicking after 24 hours is just going to make things miserable for both of you. Suffocating a Cancer is a bad thing anyway.

I wouldn't take you back. Because if he is actively dating currently...he is on the lookout for someone who isn't going to freak out, is strong, reliable, dependable and loyal...and to get mad for really about nothing that important..sorry that trip has wait. It would make you look like you're not mother material or whatever....

But he would not want any type of stress, anger, violence, or bad attitudes around him because he has a kid and the baby's mother already mentality. It's hard enough already..

And someone who has his back. Remember patience is a virtue, communication and understanding that he has other mature responsibilities to do. OTHER than dealing with more shit.