When do you want it...

You always know what you want before going into something, you don't know what you want until you have it, you didn't realize you wanted it until it was gone?

Of course, we often want someone we are involved with. At what point do you realize deep down it's what you want(ed)? (or maybe even need)

Not sure how it came up, but my Aries last night said that you don't know what you want until you have it, I took the hard line that often we don't realize how much we wanted it (or what we had) until it is gone.

What is your position?

State Sun, Moon, Venus & Mars

I'm Cap, Gem, Sag, Scorp... (I know, mixed bag to be certain LOL)
He's Aries, Sag, Aries, Taurus

I can relate too.

When I married my husband in 1982, we had only been together several months ... the person he is actually is, isn't anything I thought at the beginning. So, in reality, I thought I was getting a different man. People grow, people change ... or perhaps my eyes were colored.

At any rate, I didn't know at the time that he is the exact person I need as a life partner .... I kind of saw him as being naughty like my first husband, and if he had been like that, then it would have ended up in divorce .... like my first marriage.

so, the reality is .... we were far into our marriage before I realized he is what I wanted, needed to fulfill me.

oh .... Pisces, Cancer, Aries, Gemini

I said that while I was dating: "I won't know what I want til I find it."

I had a general idea of what I wanted, and I knew what I didn't like/ or want.

But ever since I met the Scorp, I knew I wanted him. I'm also quite well aware of what I have with him.

I've never been one to take someone for granted, not knowing what I had til it was gone. There are always reasons why I keep certain people into life. Usually if someone has been gone its been because I wanted them gone and even if they let me go, I see now why what we had was not a good thing and wouldn't have worked out.

Cap sun
Scorpio Moon
Capricorn Venus
sagittarius Mars

Despite my opposition to his statement, it resonates...

Posted by BalmyTigress
P-Angel got me thinking that I can actually relate in an opposite way, sort of.

I want things so stubbornly that I'm not ready to admit to myself that even when I notice that it's probably not something I should want anymore, I can't let go. I've made a decision and I can't turn it around. So then things happen that make it impossible for me to have that and there's been a fair amount of heartache, but I think it's always been for the best that I didn't get what I wanted. Admittedly, I knew deep down that I'm chasing after something I shouldn't, but the ego was way too stubborn to admit that it wasn't a good idea.

So if lack of certain people or things or relationships is what I didn't know I needed before I had it, then yes. That's how it seems to go.

Good stuff. Need to make a mental note about not being so stubborn when you know that you shouldn't be.

lol, that is the complete opposite ..... life is funny sometimes

I always think I know what I want -- I rarely get it. When I get into a relationship it becomes what I want for the moment, then doubts start to creep in as the relationship progresses. I usually spend so much time in a relationship that by the end of it I know it was what I didn't want. Then I use that information to make sure I don't choose that type of person or relationship again. It's all a process of elimination, at least for me.