Would you love someone you're attracted to initial

ly or would you love someone you think you'll grow with romantically?

Just a question. I figured out that the latter seems more exciting. Like love won't get old or fade away because there always seems to be something new to expect. 🙂

I don't have to be initially attracted to and I can love someone who grew on me

I'm having a hard time choosing which one TBH. I can fall for someone who loves me but I don't love in return. But I'm scared to be trapped in that situation. Somehow, I would still like someone I really am attracted to. @_@ This is an apprehension, but it seems quite insurmountable...

I would love to love someone I can grow old with. Sparks will die eventually but a love that grows and blosssoms through times is more precious and beautiful like the face of an angel...
U make me wanna sing this early in the morning! Haha!
Ah must have woke up on the wrong side of the bed! 😛
What's the question again? *scratch head*

Posted by Kalean

Posted by virgosagscorpio
I would love to love someone I can grow old with. Sparks will die eventually but a love that grows and blosssoms through times is more precious and beautiful like the face of an angel...
U make me wanna sing this early in the morning! Haha!
Ah must have woke up on the wrong side of the bed! 😛
What's the question again? *scratch head*

That'd be the ideal dream! haha

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Ok shall I go back to bed? Lol!
Nah! Work is calling my name, Avery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've found that I am way more dedicated to men that I grow with romantically versus those that I'm just initially attracted to and lust over.

I think there has to be some form of attraction to begin with (and can take many forms).

If you talking head over heals infatuation which comes on quickly, I think that this can easily fizzle quickly as well. This sort of attraction often blinds those inflicted of who the other person really is (the good, bad and the ugly). You become "in-love" with who you want/believe that person to be, not necessarily who they are. Exciting in the beginning but, often destined for failure.

Allowing yourself to not go off the deep end and get to know someone in real time, over time would provide a firmer foundation for the relationship to continue to grow and develop into something meaningful and deeper. I'm not sure I would consider this to be more exciting or that there would be something new to expect, but would provide more stability and security for the relationship in and of itself.

Next question: how would you know if that's the person you'll grow with romantically?

BTW, I love all your answers, guys. 🙂

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Why does this have to be mutually exclusive. Can't you be attracted to someone initially and have them be someone you want to grow with?

But given the choice I choose B. I've net guys who I wasn't immediately attracted to, but as I got to know them feelings developed.

Having a hard time finding someone who's both... so I have to settle with someone who's just either. at least, i'll get to have more choices. 🙂

Hell, if I fell in love with everyone I find attractive, I'd be in BIG trouble. Nope, it's all about the mind for me. Seduce my mind, be a gentleman and there's a good chance for choice "B". 😉

Posted by twinklebluetoes
Usually the whole attraction at first sight means there is nowhere to go but down.

this has been my experience too

Every guy I dated based on an immediate attraction was a lost cause.
The relationship didn't last long because I realized they were actually quite annoying

Definitely someone that I am attracted to. For me if the initial attraction is there you are all I need. Last relationship was B, and it felt exhausting trying to keep interested.

Posted by LetltB
Hell, if I fell in love with everyone I find attractive, I'd be in BIG trouble. Nope, it's all about the mind for me. Seduce my mind, be a gentleman and there's a good chance for choice "B". 😉

Yeah, seduce my mind, I'll love you for life, whether you want me to or not.

B is definitely a more mature kind of love. A often leads to lust or infatuation, but of course sometimes love also happens that way.

I've just noticed being a woman, with A, moving too fast with anything is a super duper bad idea.