why is he not responding?

i'v posted earlier threads about the situation....feel free to read...

This guy friend of mine ...who i assumed has liked me for a long time now.. did ask me out quite a few times in the last year or so... we've met up in a group before..but it wasn't long before he asked to see just me and chill out in only my company..anyway..i shouldn't even admit to this..but i didn't react perhaps how he would want... i didn't exactly say no but i wasn't particularly enthusiastic either....that was mostly because it was a really busy time in my life i didn't have time to think about going out with him..
he did make it clear he wanted a relationship...

so anyway..he did eventually stop asking to see me..fair enough i guess..i'd say he stopped asking now about a few months ago...

now... a few months later...a lot of my close friends just said to me that i should just hang out with him as a mate..or see what happens..and that nothing serious has to happen now..i guess they thought he must have liked me a lot because he's still around after all this time and has actually had different girls/women after him but he kept on continuously telling me hes not interested in any of them..they're not his type ..etc etc..

therefore what i did a day ago now is... message him saying.."hi whats up?.. i was just thinking recently..that we could chill out sometime and do something.."..but he hasn't replied or called or anything..and usually he doesn't take this long to respond to something i've said..

so i don't know why he's not... has he lost interest now all of a sudden..(after a couple of years)..
is he just confused and shocked (because this is not like my usual aloof and distant self)..this is the most forward i've ever been... or what...

my guess would have been that he would have been happy that i've finally given him something positive back..but instead...i get nothing..

he's a capricorn

i'm a virgo

very simple, and I'm sure most of the men will disagree with me, but when a female is the one asking the man it immediately sets their interest level to zero no matter how interested they were in the first place. Men like to take the lead and while they may be flattered by a forthcoming lady doing the asking it will merely be a temporary ego boost and the result is they won't be interested anymore.

Posted by 25thDecan
If he's not just processing then he's not interested anymore.

none of my friends would believe this..they all think...he's just playing hard to get or giving me as good as i gave him and making me wait

the reason why they wouldn't think he's just not interested in me anymore is because they know absolutely everything..what he's said to me in the last couple of years how he behaves towards me..and that theres no he could have moved on

some of them even think he's in love with me :O..

i dont know whether i agree or disagree with that but what i can say is that i cannot believe he would just not be interested..especially as we still continue to talk...he still calls me!!! he still talks to me the same everytime we talk..as if nothing has changed in the way he feels!

Posted by celticlioness
very simple, and I'm sure most of the men will disagree with me, but when a female is the one asking the man it immediately sets their interest level to zero no matter how interested they were in the first place. Men like to take the lead and while they may be flattered by a forthcoming lady doing the asking it will merely be a temporary ego boost and the result is they won't be interested anymore.

ok i understand what you are saying..but when i say i showed hardly any interest in him..i mean it..like i am literally the definition of hard to get...

a whole year and a half later..i send one txt message...one line..saying lets hang out..(not even anything too over the top)..it even sounds like just a friends thing...its different if i'd thrown myself on him and constantly called and messaged him asking to meet me...like every other girl he's told me about..but i sent one line of text...and for three days where he hasn;t responded i've not said another word..so i just find it hard to believe how his interest has suddenly gone

plus on top of everything i've said...
the way i think this guy feels for me..its not something that will go overnight..i'm not saying he's some love sick puppy...
but i think they way he feels about us..is way more than just a crush...or someone he likes a little..

plus its been a couple of years since we got in to contact..and the whole time he has not dated a single other person

but again i'm not trying to make out like he's really in to me just for my ego or something..this is how i really think it iss..
i mean only a month back..he said to me that he wanted to go on holiday with me for three months..surely you wouldn't just say that to anyone...and of everyone he knows he asked just me

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Posted by 25thDecan
If he's not just processing then he's not interested anymore.

none of my friends would believe this..they all think...he's just playing hard to get or giving me as good as i gave him and making me wait

the reason why they wouldn't think he's just not interested in me anymore is because they know absolutely everything..what he's said to me in the last couple of years how he behaves towards me..and that theres no he could have moved on

some of them even think he's in love with me :O..

i dont know whether i agree or disagree with that but what i can say is that i cannot believe he would just not be interested..especially as we still continue to talk...he still calls me!!! he still talks to me the same everytime we talk..as if nothing has changed in the way he feels!

Fair enough. I'm only a dude. Far be it from me or other dudes to tell you how a dude would likely see things in such a situation. *shrug

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alright.. chill homie lol
yes kool you're a dude i get it..and dudes stik together and know what every other million dudes on the planet are thinking

i'm just saying that i know him. and i know what he has said to me in the past. so i know that what he feels isn't a high school crush that you get over in one day..
this dude has liked me for years now.. i don't know about you but would you get over a girl you have liked for years and years in the matter of days or weeks?

that is all

Posted by oldskoolflavor
IMO he's come to realize you're OK with being chased and the only girl he really wants .. your ego is on cloud 9, you enjoy the chase too much to want to be caught .. now he's gonna mess with your mind and it's already working

so you think i am the girl he really wants?
he's played games before..so he is no stranger to mind games.and messing with peoples heads.

the game he likes to play is "i'm going to talk about every other girl on the planet who i think is smokin hot and also what they want to do with me"

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If he's not just processing then he's not interested anymore.

none of my friends would believe this..they all think...he's just playing hard to get or giving me as good as i gave him and making me wait

the reason why they wouldn't think he's just not interested in me anymore is because they know absolutely everything..what he's said to me in the last couple of years how he behaves towards me..and that theres no he could have moved on

some of them even think he's in love with me :O..

i dont know whether i agree or disagree with that but what i can say is that i cannot believe he would just not be interested..especially as we still continue to talk...he still calls me!!! he still talks to me the same everytime we talk..as if nothing has changed in the way he feels!

Fair enough. I'm only a dude. Far be it from me or other dudes to tell you how a dude would likely see things in such a situation. *shrug

alright.. chill homie lol
yes kool you're a dude i get it..and dudes stik together and know what every other million dudes on the planet are thinking

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Lol, well pretty much they do know what other dudes are thinking! Nothing to do with sticking together, 25th will pretty much say it as it is.

So this Virgo dude, he spent two years showing you, by his very actions, that he wanted you - and he was rebuked every step of the way. So he processed all of this recently and is now showing you, by his very actions it seems, that he no longer wants you, you asking him to meet has handed control over to him, now he will do with this what he wishes, so far he hasn't responded, and can you blame him, he put it out there on the line for you for 2 years, and you're getting pissy because he hasn't responded in 3 days. Nothing more empowering than that moment, after you have shown someone that you like them and then got over it, that they then come after you - he'll be either out to play with you or out for good, depending on how he feels about your cold shoulder treatment and sudden about face.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Surely that's all the other girls fault then?

But of course 😉

I wouldn't have answered the sms either... as it would seem here you didn't show enough interest before... if any. I would be questioning your motives... the 'why' beneath the message. I might even think that you sent me the sms by mistake !

Anyway... you say this has been going on for years ? You are not playing the hard-to-get game very well I think... if that is what you were REALLY doing. Just like dogs chasing cars... men get tired... you should have slowed down when you saw him falling behind. That was 100 miles ago... and you are scratching your head wondering where he went ? The other cars weren't his type... that was probably true... but a lot of other cars could have driven by while you were away... willing to brake from time to time. It is going to be very difficult for you to get his attention now... not hopeless... but difficult. Decide what you want.

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If he's not just processing then he's not interested anymore.

none of my friends would believe this..they all think...he's just playing hard to get or giving me as good as i gave him and making me wait

the reason why they wouldn't think he's just not interested in me anymore is because they know absolutely everything..what he's said to me in the last couple of years how he behaves towards me..and that theres no he could have moved on

some of them even think he's in love with me :O..

i dont know whether i agree or disagree with that but what i can say is that i cannot believe he would just not be interested..especially as we still continue to talk...he still calls me!!! he still talks to me the same everytime we talk..as if nothing has changed in the way he feels!

Fair enough. I'm only a dude. Far be it from me or other dudes to tell you how a dude would likely see things in such a situation. *shrug

alright.. chill homie lol
yes kool you're a dude i get it..and dudes stik together and know what every other million dudes on the planet are thinking

i'm just saying that i know him. and i know what he has said to me in the past. so i know that what he feels isn't a high school crush that you get over in one day..
this dude has liked me for years now.. i don't know about you but would you get over a girl you have liked for years and years in the matter of days or weeks?

that is all

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If you knew him so well you wouldnt be asking why he isnt responding. You dont know him because you shut doewn every chance for this dude to get to know you and now since you finally decided to come around he should be ready willing and able? Honestly maybe you shouldnt rule out that he is over his crush on you afterall its only a crush.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Surely that's all the other girls fault then?

lol well thats how he always makes it sound yes,
and that he wants nothing to do with them

Posted by oldskoolflavor
IMO he's come to realize you're OK with being chased and the only girl he really wants .. your ego is on cloud 9, you enjoy the chase too much to want to be caught .. now he's gonna mess with your mind and it's already working

+900800080238027^4

you rejected the man for years. he has moved on.

Lol, well pretty much they do know what other dudes are thinking! Nothing to do with sticking together, 25th will pretty much say it as it is.

So this Virgo dude, he spent two years showing you, by his very actions, that he wanted you - and he was rebuked every step of the way. So he processed all of this recently and is now showing you, by his very actions it seems, that he no longer wants you, you asking him to meet has handed control over to him, now he will do with this what he wishes, so far he hasn't responded, and can you blame him, he put it out there on the line for you for 2 years, and you're getting pissy because he hasn't responded in 3 days. Nothing more empowering than that moment, after you have shown someone that you like them and then got over it, that they then come after you - he'll be either out to play with you or out for good, depending on how he feels about your cold shoulder treatment and sudden about face.




hes a capricorn lol not a virgo

and it wasnt two years, eight months to be precise lol..but yes that is a really long time.

i think you're right about what you said at the end that he might be getting his own back now, the power has shifted, and if that is the case then that is showing me exactly how he felt at that time when i was acting distant and indirectly with him.

it must have effected him in some way to be dishing it back to me now.

i dont know whether he wants me or not..i only spoke to him a few weeks back and he seemed completely normal with me and as if he still felt the exact same way.

out of the two options at the end i would really rather it be him playing me rather than him being out for good

Posted by David13
I wouldn't have answered the sms either... as it would seem here you didn't show enough interest before... if any. I would be questioning your motives... the 'why' beneath the message. I might even think that you sent me the sms by mistake !

Anyway... you say this has been going on for years ? You are not playing the hard-to-get game very well I think... if that is what you were REALLY doing. Just like dogs chasing cars... men get tired... you should have slowed down when you saw him falling behind. That was 100 miles ago... and you are scratching your head wondering where he went ? The other cars weren't his type... that was probably true... but a lot of other cars could have driven by while you were away... willing to brake from time to time. It is going to be very difficult for you to get his attention now... not hopeless... but difficult. Decide what you want.

but he normally answers my messages, and if he doesn't understand the content of my messages he will always call me pretty much straight away to find out what i meant, but this time he has chosen not to even ask, surely he could ask me those questions about the meet up if hes unsure of my motives or something??/ no??

what other motives would i have?? we only spoke a few weeks back so i dont understand what has changed so much since then, he spoke to me completely normally, again showing that he still likes me

i'd say hes liked me for years, but about eight months, not every day, maybe every now and then he would ask to see me, and suggest something to do together. i'm not playing hard to get, i'm just like that, its in my nature to be a bit distant and not show too much interest, i've been like that for a long time.

i think maybe it could be difficult, but i'm not going to go all out and run after him now, no matter how much i wish he was talking to me right now, i can't chase him.

if he wants to move on and do his own thing or whatever he's doing now, then i'll have to let it be

No offense, but if you know him so well why are you asking this question on a forum? All 25th did was give you his opinion, accept it as a possibility.

I haven't read every comment on this thread, so what I'm about to say could very well be already covered. So, you kept this guy on your hook knowing he was very into you until it was convenient for you to make a move and you're confused by him not being overwhelmed by your "chill" offer? Yes, he may like you or even love you but don't expect a man to make a fool out of himself by falling all over himself to take an offer from a girl who has previously blown his affections off. You've probably hurt his e



i like to hear other peoples views, because as much as i know him or think i do, sometimes i do get unsure and therefore proceeded to this forum

ok yes anything is a possibility in life, nothing can be ruled out, so maybe he is right

i just wanted to give out a little bit more information, because when people know less of the story its harder to make a good judgement, so thats why i went in to how much i thought this guy liked me and that i can;t understand how everything was normal only a few weeks ago, and how he could just move on, like what had suddenly changed in this time

i didnt keep the guy anywhere, i didn;t chain him to me, and force him to keep in contact with me he did that on his own accord, i don't understand why people make it out like he doesn't have any free will.

so are you saying he might be interested but now he just wants to play it kool?? as he doesn't want to act like he's been waiting for me to say something like this?

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Posted by 25thDecan
If he's not just processing then he's not interested anymore.

none of my friends would believe this..they all think...he's just playing hard to get or giving me as good as i gave him and making me wait

the reason why they wouldn't think he's just not interested in me anymore is because they know absolutely everything..what he's said to me in the last couple of years how he behaves towards me..and that theres no he could have moved on

some of them even think he's in love with me :O..

i dont know whether i agree or disagree with that but what i can say is that i cannot believe he would just not be interested..especially as we still continue to talk...he still calls me!!! he still talks to me the same everytime we talk..as if nothing has changed in the way he feels!

Fair enough. I'm only a dude. Far be it from me or other dudes to tell you how a dude would likely see things in such a situation. *shrug

alright.. chill homie lol
yes kool you're a dude i get it..and dudes stik together and know what every other million dudes on the planet are thinking

i'm just saying that i know him. and i know what he has said to me in the past. so i know that what he feels isn't a high school crush that you get over in one day..
this dude has liked me for years now.. i don't know about you but would you get over a girl you have liked for years and years in the matter of days or weeks?

that is all

If you knew him so well you wouldnt be asking why he isnt responding. You dont know him because you shut doewn every chance for this dude to get to know you and now since you finally decided to come around he should be ready willing and able? Honestly maybe you shouldnt rule out that he is over his crush on you afterall its only a crush.

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i dont expect him to be here now just because i've suggested something for once,
but i thought he might have taken up the offer or at least said something

even if it was a no u blew me off too many times bye

Posted by 25thDecan
i don't know about you but would you get over a girl you have liked for years and years in the matter of days or weeks?- get over? Not quickly. Take steps to do so? Quickly

so you are saying he might not b over me but he is trying to get to that stage by ignoring me yes?

Posted by 25thDecan
Bingo...or like I originally said processing. Deciding whether or not you're "settling" or setting him up to flake out. Male thought process

omg really?? you think he might think that he's like a last option or something for me and thats why i'v decided to see him after ages? :O i never even thought of that

or that he thinks that he'll agree to it but then i'll ignore him or change my mind after he does? :O
didnt think of that eitherr

so what do i do now

He might be hurt or maybe his ego is. Also I'd been questioning the sincerity in your sudden interest.

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Posted by 25thDecan
Bingo...or like I originally said processing. Deciding whether or not you're "settling" or setting him up to flake out. Male thought process

omg really?? you think he might think that he's like a last option or something for me and thats why i'v decided to see him after ages? :O i never even thought of that

or that he thinks that he'll agree to it but then i'll ignore him or change my mind after he does? :O
didnt think of that eitherr

so what do i do now

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YEESSS... I think you've got it now ! Best not to worry about it... just wait. Any further attempt on YOUR part will make you seem needy... which is something that you DON'T want. Sounds like you will probably run into him eventually... just forget you ever asked him the question... it never happened.

Posted by bkbella86
He might be hurt or maybe his ego is. Also I'd been questioning the sincerity in your sudden interest.

i would have thought he would have gotten over the being hurt and the ego thing..because he stopped asking me a couple of months back. so why would the hurt be fresh in his mind?
If he's hurt lol..he seems so normal to me,when i do speak to him


and if he is questioning something..surely he would ask instead of staying silent??
what annoys me more than anything is when people ignore me, i'd rather them tell me what they really think and be done with it, so in this case i'd rather him tell me to piss off even lol..than leave me in the dark

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Posted by 25thDecan
Bingo...or like I originally said processing. Deciding whether or not you're "settling" or setting him up to flake out. Male thought process

omg really?? you think he might think that he's like a last option or something for me and thats why i'v decided to see him after ages? :O i never even thought of that

or that he thinks that he'll agree to it but then i'll ignore him or change my mind after he does? :O
didnt think of that eitherr

so what do i do now

YEESSS... I think you've got it now ! Best not to worry about it... just wait. Any further attempt on YOUR part will make you seem needy... which is something that you DON'T want. Sounds like you will probably run into him eventually... just forget you ever asked him the question... it never happened.

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when i don't get an answer, i don't necessarily worry but I'll exhaust like a million possibilities and keep on thinking about it lol

and i think if you knew me well enough you would know that you don't even need to tell me to stop contacting him further!!! because i'm usually the most laid back, seemingly unbothered/uncaring/distant person ever!!!lol
even sending this one text for me was such a big deal and totally out of character.

whio knows if i will even run in to him eventually or that this is the end

Posted by Tabrizi
You sent him like ONE text? Maybe he didn't receive it.

yes ONE text LOL, i texted several other people at the same time and they all responded back to me, so they all received the texts, but if it happens to not have been sent to him, i can't exactly send him another text or find out if he got it..
in case he did and i look stupid texting him a second time

guess i gotta leave it 😭

Posted by FishyPisces
I don't blame him for not answering TBH.

Put yourself in his shoes, would you respond to a text from someone that has been rejecting you& keeping you at a distance? Don't think so. He might have (had) feelings for you but the man has an ego, and frankly you're not the only girl in the world.. If he might respond back, don't lead the guy on and be straight forward about your intentions.

i guess soo, but i would still say rejection is a strong word, if you knew about the other guys i'v met that liked me and who i literally hate or am repulsed by (its the truth) and the way i have treated them i would say is a definite rejection.
i'd say NO and i'm not interested.

i didn;t do that with this guy because he's above the others in a way.

however if it seems to be that way, i shall bear in mind about what you said in the last line about being more straight forward with him

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Posted by FishyPisces
I don't blame him for not answering TBH.

Put yourself in his shoes, would you respond to a text from someone that has been rejecting you& keeping you at a distance? Don't think so. He might have (had) feelings for you but the man has an ego, and frankly you're not the only girl in the world.. If he might respond back, don't lead the guy on and be straight forward about your intentions.

does she even desire to build anything with him ?
he's too clear about his intentions, too interested, too available

I think she's just worried her devoted ego stroker may start chasing someone else

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thats so far from the truth!!!!

i don't see him as an ego stroker thank you very much, not that i need one of those, i got plenty *rolls eyes*

Posted by oldskoolflavor
* can only hope

so from your response im guessing you think he's not like those other guys? who have a single goal in mind?

looook, i think you misinterpreted me again, i was being sarcastic, you said that he's an ego stroker to me, im saying if i really wanted that i would pay attention to those other guys!!! which believe it or not, i dont!!!

maybe i havn't reacted to this guy the way he would want or in the most ideal way, but i'm going to try a bit harder from now on!!!!!!

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Posted by FishyPisces
I don't blame him for not answering TBH.

Put yourself in his shoes, would you respond to a text from someone that has been rejecting you& keeping you at a distance? Don't think so. He might have (had) feelings for you but the man has an ego, and frankly you're not the only girl in the world.. If he might respond back, don't lead the guy on and be straight forward about your intentions.

i guess soo, but i would still say rejection is a strong word, if you knew about the other guys i'v met that liked me and who i literally hate or am repulsed by (its the truth) and the way i have treated them i would say is a definite rejection.
i'd say NO and i'm not interested.

i didn;t do that with this guy because he's above the others in a way.

however if it seems to be that way, i shall bear in mind about what you said in the last line about being more straight forward with him

I actually do believe you didn't intend to turn him down completely, however to most people being hesitant over and over again is pretty much equal to rejection. That's the thing with some virgo's, they keep the people that are interestedin them guessing from a distance as they analyze the whole situation. And sometimes when you guys finally made up your minds, its too late. Not always though. Thats why I mentioned being straight forward, as a cap he will understand that you want
to take things slow.

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i guess it can be frustrating if a relationship or whatever is what he really wants and obviously thats not what he's getting from me lol

and omgggggggggggggggggg thats exactly me, like analysing the situation from a distance, and then finally making up my mind, whereas he literally has no idea of any kind of thought process in my head lol
he'll have no idea about the why things aren't going his way..

at the same time, i'd also say a strong rejection sign is if i'd ever shown any interest in anyone else, which i havn't,
i always just tell him about the people i really dont like lol

but guess what he does...
he'll say he wants me and wants to start something and wants to see me and dosn't like anyone else but me

following that he'll start speaking of other wo

* women, and how pretty/sexy/hot/ they are and how much they like him/love him, and how much they're all over him and want to do things with him, and how he gets tempted but then stops himself for some reason lol...he'll always say he stops himself from doing anything with any of them..and you know what once he even counted down the amount of "casual" offers he's has from women for you know what..and told me about how many of them he turned down like WHAT THE HELL

and he'll bring that in to every conversation we have lol!!!!

whats that all about— because yes that really shows me how much he's in to me when he does thaT! *rollsss yes*

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Posted by FishyPisces
I don't blame him for not answering TBH.

Put yourself in his shoes, would you respond to a text from someone that has been rejecting you& keeping you at a distance? Don't think so. He might have (had) feelings for you but the man has an ego, and frankly you're not the only girl in the world.. If he might respond back, don't lead the guy on and be straight forward about your intentions.

does she even desire to build anything with him ?
he's too clear about his intentions, too interested, too available

I think she's just worried her devoted ego stroker may start chasing someone else

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Earth sign love is so foreign to me.

My Cap guy friend is always talking about how all these women want him... but he has a hard on for this Virgal that keeps him hanging. It's been going on for years. He's even dated one of her friends.. she acted all cool about it.. then stopped talking to both of them.

Then he dumps the friend and Virgal chased him... only to back off again. He sleeps around a lot but keeps it all on the "low".

I don't get it. *shrugs*

Posted by oldskoolflavor
OK

maybe he gets off the fact you don't appear interested in having him .. he's not getting the praise he believes he's entitled to get from any female and this could explain his persistence .. getting you to obsess over him would be achieving sthg that appeared unrealistic at first .. just in for the challenge

maybe he's a mindfuck in a nice guy suit

see there will always be more to the story, at first you assumed i was the "bad guy" lol

but anyway...
i've said some pretty obvious things to him (which show what i really think of him)...which i forget i've said till he reminds me from time to time..as he seems to have kept all my messages lol

so he knows all of that,, but probably doesn't understand why i haven't gotten to the next stage yet.

maybe it is the challenge of not having me
but then it could be that he really does want me too lol
as seems to appear that way aswell a lot of the time

Posted by oldskoolflavor
OK

maybe he gets off the fact you don't appear interested in having him .. he's not getting the praise he believes he's entitled to get from any female and this could explain his persistence .. getting you to obsess over him would be achieving sthg that appeared unrealistic at first .. just in for the challenge

maybe he's a mindfuck in a nice guy suit

having said all of that,
he ended up calling me yesterday, a whole week later!!!

Posted by shellshocker
Earth sign love is so foreign to me.

My Cap guy friend is always talking about how all these women want him... but he has a hard on for this Virgal that keeps him hanging. It's been going on for years. He's even dated one of her friends.. she acted all cool about it.. then stopped talking to both of them.

Then he dumps the friend and Virgal chased him... only to back off again. He sleeps around a lot but keeps it all on the "low".

I don't get it. *shrugs*

lolllllllllllll
i wonder if you're actually talking about me and the cap guy that i know..

Posted by Impulsv
I agree with shell shocker I don't get why people like to torture themselves. Live for the unrequited love or chase. Ughh is that typical of earth signs?

in my story, its not unrequited love don't worry lolllllllll

i guess in this case, it revolves a lot around the chase

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* women, and how pretty/sexy/hot/ they are and how much they like him/love him, and how much they're all over him and want to do things with him, and how he gets tempted but then stops himself for some reason lol...he'll always say he stops himself from doing anything with any of them..and you know what once he even counted down the amount of "casual" offers he's has from women for you know what..and told me about how many of them he turned down like WHAT THE HELL

and he'll bring that in to every conversation we have lol!!!!

whats that all about— because yes that really shows me how much he's in to me when he does thaT! *rollsss yes*

Because he doesn't get why you are not into him? He seems to be trying to prove to you that you are missing out on the deal of a life time by turning him down.

"because yes that really shows me how much he's in to me when he does thaT! *rollsss yes*" --- well, doesn't that look like he is reserving himself for ONLY you?

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lol... yes i think i can match up what you said here by some other things he has said
for example..when he said he only wants me at one point..he said it would be really nice ..basically if me and him got together

Posted by starlover
In days of old 😄 men pursued women passionately ~ the woman allowed herself to be chased. I would never chase any man, whether i am in a relationship with him or not. I would treat him with respect and kindness...but chase.....never!!

Ladies, let them do the work!

+1

Posted by starlover
In days of old 😄 men pursued women passionately ~ the woman allowed herself to be chased. I would never chase any man, whether i am in a relationship with him or not. I would treat him with respect and kindness...but chase.....never!!

Ladies, let them do the work!

where have you been all this time??lol
i AGREE WITH YOU a hundred per cent, i just haven't had a single word of support to back me up, instead people think i'm rude and i'm leading him on and i should make more effort.

exactly what you described is how i've been for the most part of our friendship..and i totally think it should be the guy chasing the woman!!!!!!!!!
and if it is ever the other way around it is just wrong...
honestly you're the only one to back me up here

this is why i sent him one message and left it

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Posted by starlover
In days of old 😄 men pursued women passionately ~ the woman allowed herself to be chased. I would never chase any man, whether i am in a relationship with him or not. I would treat him with respect and kindness...but chase.....never!!

Ladies, let them do the work!

where have you been all this time??lol
i AGREE WITH YOU a hundred per cent, i just haven't had a single word of support to back me up, instead people think i'm rude and i'm leading him on and i should make more effort.

exactly what you described is how i've been for the most part of our friendship..and i totally think it should be the guy chasing the woman!!!!!!!!!
and if it is ever the other way around it is just wrong...
honestly you're the only one to back me up here

this is why i sent him one message and left it

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No, you have let him chase you, do all the work etc. for 2 years (even though you have since cut it down to 8 months), he has chased you and you have not allowed yourself to be caught, at some stage any man will just give up - and long before now, this guy had a lot of staying power. No-one is backing you up or not backing you up, you have merely been told umpteen times that he is giving up this long drawn out chase due to lack of reciprocation. Now becuase of this you have texted him and you're now you're wondering why he isn't responding - stop for just one second and think about it from his point of view, not your ego.

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Posted by starlover
In days of old 😄 men pursued women passionately ~ the woman allowed herself to be chased. I would never chase any man, whether i am in a relationship with him or not. I would treat him with respect and kindness...but chase.....never!!

Ladies, let them do the work!

where have you been all this time??lol
i AGREE WITH YOU a hundred per cent, i just haven't had a single word of support to back me up, instead people think i'm rude and i'm leading him on and i should make more effort.

exactly what you described is how i've been for the most part of our friendship..and i totally think it should be the guy chasing the woman!!!!!!!!!
and if it is ever the other way around it is just wrong...
honestly you're the only one to back me up here

this is why i sent him one message and left it

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there is a difference between stringing someone along and letting a man chase you. you rejected him multiple time dude.

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Posted by candy10

Posted by starlover
In days of old 😄 men pursued women passionately ~ the woman allowed herself to be chased. I would never chase any man, whether i am in a relationship with him or not. I would treat him with respect and kindness...but chase.....never!!

Ladies, let them do the work!

where have you been all this time??lol
i AGREE WITH YOU a hundred per cent, i just haven't had a single word of support to back me up, instead people think i'm rude and i'm leading him on and i should make more effort.

exactly what you described is how i've been for the most part of our friendship..and i totally think it should be the guy chasing the woman!!!!!!!!!
and if it is ever the other way around it is just wrong...
honestly you're the only one to back me up here

this is why i sent him one message and left it

No, you have let him chase you, do all the work etc. for 2 years (even though you have since cut it down to 8 months), he has chased you and you have not allowed yourself to be caught, at some stage any man will just give up - and long before now, this guy had a lot of staying power. No-one is backing you up or not backing you up, you have merely been told umpteen times that he is giving up this long drawn out chase due to lack of reciprocation. Now becuase of this you have texted him and you're now you're wondering why he isn't responding - stop for just one second and think about it from his point of view, not your ego.

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it is 8 months since he suggested he wanted a "relationship", so no not two years..before that he was focused on himself and his career and said he had no time for that.
i'm not going to dispute the fact that he had staying power, but at the end of the day i'm not telling him "you chase me for however long or wait around for me and don't date anyone else"..in fact he has a lot of girl mates who he has seen and met up with in the time that he's wanting to see me and move it on to the next stage..and even one of those girls he took out to the cinema...and even though he was apparently not interested in her he let her be all over him and kiss him and all of that stuff...and then he came and told me about it..so does it really sound

like he's waiting around for me and for my every move? no, he's meeting up with plenty of people..

and anyway he did respond to me, just a whole week later..

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Posted by candy10

Posted by starlover
In days of old 😄 men pursued women passionately ~ the woman allowed herself to be chased. I would never chase any man, whether i am in a relationship with him or not. I would treat him with respect and kindness...but chase.....never!!

Ladies, let them do the work!

where have you been all this time??lol
i AGREE WITH YOU a hundred per cent, i just haven't had a single word of support to back me up, instead people think i'm rude and i'm leading him on and i should make more effort.

exactly what you described is how i've been for the most part of our friendship..and i totally think it should be the guy chasing the woman!!!!!!!!!
and if it is ever the other way around it is just wrong...
honestly you're the only one to back me up here

this is why i sent him one message and left it

there is a difference between stringing someone along and letting a man chase you. you rejected him multiple time dude.

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i'm not stringing him along!!!
IF i didn;t like this person AT ALL and just saw him in a friends way... i would have told him by now!!!!!
however right now i'm not interested in a relationship with ANYONE,...and its got nothing to do with him as a person or specifically.. but you know what if i was he'd probably be the first person i would consider...
and i told him all the stuff about how i'm not interested in being in a relationship..but not ruling it out for the future..
and he accepted that i think..but at times yes he would still try to convince me or try to make me jealous etc...

but he does exactly what he wants to do, so i'd rather you not make out like im making him do anything

Posted by oldskoolflavor
all I can say is: your soft spot better be one of a kind
if you were blessed down there, he'll be willing to forget how hard he worked to deserve it

the treasure better be worth the effort

LOOOOOOOOOL what a joker
look, he's had plenty of opportunity to do "that" with other girls...he literally told me how many times he's turned it down and how many people wanted it from him.. i was just thinking...and why would i want to know this ..again he's telling me some information that i'm really no interested in knowing lolll

Posted by oldskoolflavor
(assuming he's telling the truth)

what can I say, love makes people stupid .. in some cases, very stupid

yes i personally think he is telling the truth
and omg.. you think he's rejecting these girls and their you know whats..because he's in love? with meeee—? :O :o :O

but he just told me that he's trying to control himself because he doesn't want to get in to a bad habit of doing it with anyone and everyone lolll...and he doesn't want to cheat on his future wifeyy

so i didn't think it had anything to do with me :O

Those Capricorn men are soo weird.... Sigh😢

Posted by Sag_Cap_Beauty*Cusp
Those Capricorn men are soo weird.... Sigh😢

LOOOL tell me about it!!

do you get this guy—?
and why he's turned down all these "hot" chicks..and is actually listing them one by one to me on the phone...
"he's like i turned down that girl..and that one...and that one " loll

omagoshhhhhhhhh.. imagine he was in love and i had no idea lol

Posted by oldskoolflavor
you're quite good at sarcasm and playing dumb
a witty girl with good looks .. it's no wonder he's been chasing you for 2+ years 😉

LOL

are you hittin on me?? thas me playin dum again hahahaaa 😄
HMMMMMMMM i wonder how he'd feel if he knew 😛 😛 😛

Posted by oldskoolflavor
*starts having a crush on candy*
*checks her profile*
*no picture*

😢

lolll i fear that if i had ma pic up..i'd get only an increase on the amount of stalkers i have presently LOL

😛 😛