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Im a pisces...

Everything was fine and then he told me he loved me...did not say it back..only because I wasn't fully there yet. He then turned all awkward and suggested that he needs space from life and goes on vacation for 10 days. Whilst there, he calls a few times and when he returned back, he tells me he is still overwhelmed with life and ended the relationship. My theory is he pulled away after I bruised his ego by not saying it back but i just needed his actions to match his words. He also told his female friend allll about me and she goes on to say that he is crazy about me and talks abt me all the time, he really likes me, etc. anyways, definitely don't want it to be the end

How lOng were you dating?

One year and there's an age difference too...I'm 25 he's 33

I would say it is less his ego, and more that he is afraid that he will be hurt. He told you that he loved you, and really put himself out there. As you haven't returned the sentiment, he is feeling very vulnerable, and probably a bit embarrassed. He is feeling that he really opened himself up, but that you apparently don't feel the same way, so now what?

I expect that unless you can convince him that you feel the same way, he is going to be doing his very best Happy Aries Tap Dance out of your life.

Well that's just really sad because I don't even know how to begin to tell him that I love him back.

Some where there is some Aries guy, doubled up holding his gut groaning, "OMG, what have I done?!?!?!?


If you can't bring yourself to be totally direct, take him over some cookies, or some such thing, look him in the eye, and give him a nice smile. I bet he gets all awkward again, but in a different way.

BTW, I am not sure I am seeing the age difference as a real obstacle. It may be that he has actually taken a while to "season," and you two are actually quite compatible in respect to maturity. Something you two have to work out between yourselves.

Thank you everyone who has responded. I really truly appreciate it 🙂

Does it make a difference that he has a gemini moon and venus is also in gemini?

Yeah I need to do something before its too late...but we haven't spoken since 😢 Its just, I don't know what he is thinking like i can't comprehend how you can throw out the L word and then disappear or say you're overwhelmed with life? I mean, he then started apologizing for being the distant way he was. He told me i should contact him when I'm not so angry (i did say that he made himself vulnerable and then turned into a weirdo and he got really annoyed at him) because he still wants me in his life.

Posted by straightup888
Well that's just really sad because I don't even know how to begin to tell him that I love him back.

1. pick up your phone.
2. enter messages menu.
3. type "I love you. I want you. I need you."
4. hit send.
be ready cuz he will be at your place in 15.

you hurt his feelings. but aries get over quick.

sorry to be annoying.

What if he is already "over it?" We went a week without talking much...he still said he's overwhelmed with life (whatever that means) and that we have communication problems (which we do). Ive been hurt in the past by others (a Libra/Scorpio cusp guy in specific). I don't mean to compare my past to my present but here are some differences:

Libra/Scorpio - said I love you after like 3 months
-had amazing communication (he was very very responsive to me, gave me so much attention, was not selfish, well until he realized he had me)

Aries -said I love you after 9 months
-have BAD communication skills but when hanging out in person, he's such a romancer...everything is always perfect and he always finds romantic places for us to do/go (i.e.: one time we went to the beach to sit, talk and watch a sunset...corny, i know but thats who he is). Other than in person, days will go by where he is completely OK with little communication (talk once a day, etc). Dunno if it is me who needs the attention to show me he cares (it is the only way i know which is to be smothered), or whether i should just let him be the romancer in person and be ok with the lack of communication we have, or whether i should just make him feel "safe" and "comfortable" in a non-threatening environment and then eventually just say it/do it soon? Don't wanna give up on him but sometimes i feel like he kinda has (he's so hard to read) 😢

Thank you!

He isn't "over" you. If he really loves you, which seems most likely, he is hoping, wishing, dying for you to acknowledge that you are interested. As I said before, your move/gesture doesn't have to be grand, it doesn't have to be bold, it does have to be sincere and pretty clear. Live in the edge, and send the poor sap a clear message, for heavens sake!!!

What is there to be afraid of? He already said it and if you really love him then say it and don't worry about his reaction. Take a chance. He did.

we have finally had some contact and are supposed to get together soon.
My emotions are so confused. How can someone just say "I love you" and then pull away? I get it, I didn't say it back, but the only reason I didn't say it back is because I felt like his actions didn't match his words. In person, he would say it, "I like you this much" and open his arms as wide as they would go...but I have told him so many times that sometimes his actions DONT match what he's saying...and thats all I needed. I just needed him to prove in actions (i.e.: calling me more than he did and volunteering info about his life, rather than me constructively having to get it out of him).

I will give you a perfect example. Over the weekend, he was telling me that he is going to watch a movie with a few friends and go to dinner. He asked me what I was up to and what not. He then had the opportunity to say "oh why don't you come too" but didn't. Then the next day, made small talk again and when I Askd him how the movie was, he told me I should have come too...like wtf, why did u not ask me? Its just so confusing and making my brain hurt.

Maybe I am too sensitive being a pisces and all, and i know that Aries kind of need things their way. I just think he has a fear of rejection. I will say him how i feel just not yet. Waiting for the time to be right

If you wait to long, he will be gone. It seems as though you are expecting him to be someone he's not. Although I think you did the right thing in telling him what you need from him, having it as an expectation is difficult. He clearly doesn't think the same way you think, or feel the same way you feel about things. His personality might be to hard for you to understand, and that will stress you out. Although aries seem blunt and to the point about things they can be sensitive, especially if they feel they've given too much and received no reciprocation....in my experience anyway. I guess the part that confuses me is the I love you part. You mentioned it took him 9 months to say this to you, and that you didn't say it back...and still have not? 9 months is a long time, especially for a man to build something with a partner. And now you're saying you'll wait? Do you really love him? If you can't even say it now that you might loose him why are you trying to keep him? By now you should know what you want and he has made it clear to you that he loves you and if you don't feel the same way he's not waiting around for you to bruise his ego some more. All you need to do is figure out if you truly love him and if you do, tell him. Good luck!

So I have been following your advice which has been quite helpful in understanding this guy who has consumed my thoughts and I thank you for your responses.

I have made a decision and I am going to tell him I love him. Its just, my mind has been distracted with these classes (just finishing up a very hectic program at university). Anyways, I have been texting him and talking slowly and what not. The next time I see him, I want to just clear the air. I feel awful about how things ended between us and I think about it every day. Truth is: I do love him and I too feel that if I don't tell him, it will distance us - its bad enough that we are both trying not to be awkward towards one another. At this point, I really have nothing to lose right

right !

I feel like I'm wasting my time. Fine, I MAY have hurt him but he hurt me more by disappearing out of my life. I just think I am going to get hurt in the long run. Maybe he just isn't emotionally connected to me the way I wanted him to be? I don't know anymore but I suppose I should probably see him and tell him. I am over thinking and am wanting it to be perfect but I don't know if it could be. I fell in love and the words can't even come out of my mouth to tell him because of the fear i have him saying them back to me.

**him NOT saying them back to me

Is he acting differently, like he doesn't care anymore?

Its just really awkward...like very formal and not fun. We did agree that we should get together next week. I just feel awful about how things ended. There were tears in his eyes and he kept saying how he has disappointed me. And it seems like he doesn't care anymore. we have not spoken about the relationship, the ending or anything else, just been talking about random stuff, one of which us trying to figure out when we are going to get together next week. I dunno. Words can't even describe the weird emotions i am feeling

aww I hate this because yall both have feelings for each other. Dont let awkawrdness ruin it.

I think once you see him in person you'll know what you'll want to say. I feel for you, that's the worst feeling.

Its the worst feeling ever your right...especially because I have the tendency to over think everything and think the worst. He is consuming my thoughts and I have to wait until my projects and deadlines are met to even schedule anything with him because I don't know how to handle the potential rejection (even though he said we should do something next week). All I keep thinking is what if he doesn't feel the same way. I am scared that its too late but I need to be sincere and tell him to his face because then I can get a better understanding. I still think my theory that he is afraid of rejection and being vulnerable is what pushed him away. Now I don't want to smother him, but I just wanna show him the person he "fell in love with" - the fun and carefree person that I usually am.

Thank you for your support and help. I appreciate any type of suggestions.

I can't fucking believe this!
Just tell him you love him and you want to be with him.
It will be enough.
He already told you his feelings. It won't be too late. He closed to you cuz he felt vurnerable, and to be frank I think that missing him made you realize you're in love too.

if you want him back, this is what you need to do. Ignore him and pretend to move on, Aries needs a CHALLENGE, point blank. Period. If you do this I guarantee if there is still that connection deep, he will be back. Anyways you don't want to win anything. Aries man will win this one and never come back if you chase him. Good luck

Do not ignore him!!!!! The last thing you want to happen now is for him to feel like you aren't interested. He said he loved you, and you didn't respond immediately, and that scared him. You remark about how formal your interactions have been since then. This is a reflection of how skittish he is feeling around you. If you start to ignore him, this will simply reinforce his perception that you don't care that much for him.

I will repeat myself. He is feeling very vulnerable, and probably a bit frightened. He is thinking he has set himself up for a great deal of pain. Seriously, just take his hand, look into his eyes, and give his hand a nice warm squeeze. That is something he will understand. I also expect he will be hugely relieved by that quite small gesture.

Another way to look at this is, Don't make it hard, or complicated. Just make it "real." That is all you have to do.

^True story!

Posted by straightup888

Everything was fine and then he told me he loved me...did not say it back..only because I wasn't fully there yet. He then turned all awkward and suggested that he needs space from life and goes on vacation for 10 days.

... he tells me he is still overwhelmed with life and ended the relationship.

My theory is he pulled away after I bruised his ego by not saying it back but i just needed his actions to match his words.

Obviously, you said nothing back. It's one thing not to say, "I love you", if you don't .... it's an entirely different thing to say nothing in reference to it. If he left, stewed, then came back to break up ... then that means you had no response, which is you blowing his heart off.

That makes you a fucking bitch.

Posted by straightup888

.... sad because I don't even know how to begin to tell him that I love him back.

What game are you playing? Why are you now whining for attention about being sad because you can't tell him you love him when in your first breath above you stated that you deliberately didn't tell him you loved him because his actions aren't matching his words.

so, you did love him but acted like you didn't ... so, now we have it .. it's your words that aren't matchign your actions.

Posted by straightup888

.... i can't comprehend how you can throw out the L word and then disappear or say you're overwhelmed with life?

He told me i should contact him when I'm not so angry

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You put him on tilt on purpose and then act innocent and confused?

And you present yourself to him as if angry?

Again, your actions don't match your words.

Posted by straightup888

... because I don't know how to handle the potential rejection

so, you will just ignore him.

You didn't mind putting him in a tailspin and rejected him ... but, you think you're suppose to be coddled because now you might have to face what you did to him?


Seriously ...... bitch, I hope he runs so far away from you. Women like you fuck men's heads up, and maybe, just maybe he got the fuck away from you before you did any real damage.

i'm also an aries with a gemini moon and i think whatever you do get him back fast have a deep conversation with him try to understand him open yourself tell him how you feel or else he will move on because aries are already quick to move on and with the gemini moon it just intensifies it they get bored easy and want something new a change all the time. But also he's fallen quick since you were taken a back and i dont trust people that get intimate so fast because they haven't built the connection yet and if he has done this it could also mean that you're just a fixation atm and once he's got what he wants he will shut u out and move on .