3 somes with who?!

SO, for those of you that ARE for 3-somes in relationships, do you think it'd be a SMARTER move to engage in a 3-some with:
1. A person you & your partner BOTH mutually know?
2. Or someone you guys don't know, but just randomly picked out?

I've noticed that alot of people are actually down for 3-somes. They just don't start arguining or changing their minds about it UNTIL it comes to WHO the 3-some will be with!

Some argue that having a 3 some with a close mutual friend is a recipe for disaster simply B/C that person is a close friend (friendships can get ruined, jealousy, etc.)

While others argue that 1 or both people randomly picking out the 3rd party is the best way to go...that way they won't ever have to see that person again or worry about extreme jealousy, etc.

What do you guys think?!
If you ever were to have a 3-some WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP, would you want the 3rd person to be someone you or your partner ALREADY KNOWS or someone neither of you knows?!

That would be an extremely short conversation. "Honey, ...I was thinking...shouldn't we get another woman ( because it's never another man, eh? ) in on our sex life?" *AWWWW HELL NAW✨ would ensue.

I'd tell him i'm choosing, its going to be his best friend, and I will compare notes on the two after. Then its up to him if he still wants to go ahead with it lol

Thats one of two things I will never do.

@LibraSun: Bahahahaha! I love what you said! That gives me an EXCELLENT idea for the next time a man asks me to have a 3some!

Rules: 1. I AM picking the person (his dad, brother or best friend/man)
2. The person I pick can ONLY touch me! Cough: Not even my man can touch me! He better sit in silence & watch!
3. There will be NO protection against pregnancy or stds!
4. And lastly, unless my man agrees to 1-3, there WILL be NO 3-some!

HA! That oughta make him think twice about having the 3-some in the 1st place! Librasun you're my hero!

I've been in one years ago when I was single. Actually everyone involved was single, we were all (still are) friends. Although inside of a relationship, as much as I love women I just wouldn't be able to handle sharing my man. I'm far too possessive for that. I have a Sag friend who has an open relationship with his gf, they've been together for a few years now and from what I understand they engage in threesomes quite frequently. They both seem to be happy with the set up but those two are incredibly open sexually anyway.

Threesomes are just straight up worthless and dumb. Less so if all three are not involved with a significant other, but still a bad idea overall in my opinion.If one was in favor of a threesome... psychologically speaking, it would make more sense for a couple to pick an unrelated person as the third wheel to avoid jealousy, etc.

Really though. What are people trying to accomplish or prove with threesomes? I don't get it. Wouldn't someone rather have full attention from one other person? Just seems really unappealing and less satisfying compared to sex with one person.
It's my bet that people who are all into threesomes probably have some emotional/psychological baggage they need to sort out. I say that because wouldn't a normally functioning mind prefer to feel that their sexual partner wants only them? Sex has the potential to please the mind and body, most people prefer both don't they?? I mean, sure sex feels good physically, but there's a psychological dimension too... which is lost when you add someone else into the mix. I think an extra person in bed changes the vibe from "I want you"... to "I want sex, from whoever". If you're cool with that, then I guess go for it, but I think it would change the whole experience and not for the better.

Let's examine this a little further :

1. MMF - A girl just may wanna whore it out and get double teamed. Whatevs. Her decision. Two dicks sliding around and bumping into each other? Ew. Mad gross. What kinda normal guy would want his cock near another dude's? That's weird. IDC how hot you think the girl is. SIMPLY WRONG, get real. The only one coming out a winner in that situation, is the girl. And even then... I really hesitate to call her the "winner" lol.

2. FFM - LOL. Come on folks. Let's be serious here. LOTS of guys barely know how to please ONE lady, let alone two at once! I think the male population should concentrate on correctly fucking one person at a time, lets not get ahead of yourselves. Plus. Unless the guy has the gift of a double penis... There's always going to be one vagina getting bored. Right though? What's the odd one out have to do in the mean time? Weird, random shit, that's what. While one girl is getting laid... the other is licking asses, biting nipples, rubbing genitals, etc.

3. MMM or FFF - Not going there.

Conclusion. Quit your weird ass, Greek orgy loving ways and go have some good 1-on-1 sex with someone you're legitimately attracted to. Pfft.

Hm well you also should keep in consideration people who are in a committed relationship who've always been curious about hooking up with someone of the same sex and would like their partner to explore that with them.

Posted by cancergem
Hm well you also should keep in consideration people who are in a committed relationship who've always been curious about hooking up with someone of the same sex and would like their partner to explore that with them.

Great point, you're absolutely right. My original post was just me broadly speaking from my own personal views and preferences, without any regard to other people's feelings on the matter. I was purposefully sounding a bit harsh in good fun, but I only meant to reflect my personal opinions. I'm willing to concede that threesomes aren't "wrong" by any stretch. I just don't think they're healthy and def. aren't my thing.

Posted by ellessque
@zjv

i'm curious. what is your sign?

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Posted by cancergem
Hm well you also should keep in consideration people who are in a committed relationship who've always been curious about hooking up with someone of the same sex and would like their partner to explore that with them.

Great point, you're absolutely right. My original post was just me broadly speaking from my own personal views and preferences, without any regard to other people's feelings on the matter. I was purposefully sounding a bit harsh in good fun, but I only meant to reflect my personal opinions. I'm willing to concede that threesomes aren't "wrong" by any stretch. I just don't think they're healthy and def. aren't my thing.

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It's funny, I used to get approached by my female friends about being in a threesome with their bf's and I always declined. Mostly because I wasn't interested, and secondly it was painfully obvious their bf's put them up to it. The only couple I ever considered was one with two lovely ladies, but by then I was already happily taken 🙂

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Posted by cancergem
Hm well you also should keep in consideration people who are in a committed relationship who've always been curious about hooking up with someone of the same sex and would like their partner to explore that with them.

Great point, you're absolutely right. My original post was just me broadly speaking from my own personal views and preferences, without any regard to other people's feelings on the matter. I was purposefully sounding a bit harsh in good fun, but I only meant to reflect my personal opinions. I'm willing to concede that threesomes aren't "wrong" by any stretch. I just don't think they're healthy and def. aren't my thing.

It's funny, I used to get approached by my female friends about being in a threesome with their bf's and I always declined. Mostly because I wasn't interested, and secondly it was painfully obvious their bf's put them up to it. The only couple I ever considered was one with two lovely ladies, but by then I was already happily taken 🙂

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Ha, yeah. I'd imagine it's often the case that dudes are the ones who most try talking their partners into threesomes. With me, I just can't be intimate with someone unless I have an emotional connection with them. Also, I've never found myself to be interested in more than one person at a time - I've got a really focused heart. Maybe it's as ellessque says - My Mars in Libra at work. Who knows.

So you're down for the ground pound without any emotional ties necessary? Interesting. That probably has it's perks.

LOL. That's funny. That actually wouldn't phase me much. Though porn is pretty cheesy and wouldn't do much for the atmosphere IMO.

Posted by ellessque
i would probably never go all the way thru with it but it is an ever occuring fantasy of mine.

if i were, we'd have to fly at least 1000 miles away and set it up with a complete stranger. i want a clean bill of health but i want no names, phone numbers, addresses, nil.

lol

everything she says lol

Posted by krysrenee7
@LibraSun: Bahahahaha! I love what you said! That gives me an EXCELLENT idea for the next time a man asks me to have a 3some!

Rules: 1. I AM picking the person (his dad, brother or best friend/man)
2. The person I pick can ONLY touch me! Cough: Not even my man can touch me! He better sit in silence & watch!
3. There will be NO protection against pregnancy or stds!
4. And lastly, unless my man agrees to 1-3, there WILL be NO 3-some!

HA! That oughta make him think twice about having the 3-some in the 1st place! Librasun you're my hero!

LOL good rules, im sure men will be lining up to do it with you 😉

Seriously though I dont think I would ever do it, although it is a bit of a fantasy of mine to be with two guys. But after speaking to all my guy friends that had done it, they all said they only do it with ho's to disrespect them, and they could never do it with someone they cared about.

So I think this will remain a fantasy, dont think I would ever get over the shame if I actually went through with it!

Posted by zjv
LOTS of guys barely know how to please ONE lady, let alone two at once! I think the male population should concentrate on correctly fucking one person at a time, lets not get ahead of yourselves.

You. Are. Awesome. 😄