Aqua Ex

These stories are hard to keep concise, pardon this rendition of War and Peace. I am a Taurus male who was with an Aquarius woman for 8 years. If I could describe our relationship, I would say it was like best friends with great sexual chemistry. We enjoyed each other's company, had good conversation and were compatible in the bedroom. We had arguments like most relationships, but nothing serious or toxic. However, the most consistent theme in our arguments was her lack of motivation and her family. She had little desire to pursue anything she thought worthwhile and her sister was involved in a lot of our conflicts no matter how big or small. And most were small.

Often in the past, her sister would instigate fights between us that would drag out conflicts way past their expiration date. This was mostly due to her sister projecting from her own, abusive relationship, which we had little knowledge of at the time. About 4 years ago, after such an argument took place; over a miscommunication; her sister gave her an ultimatum; "if you contact him I will never speak to you again."

Mind you we lived together at this time.

That May I graduated with my masters and her sister's abusive boyfriend leaves her. Abruptly a shift happens right around this time, no fight triggers it, and it wasn't a gradual build up either.

The week after my graduation (which she did not attend); we stop being intimate. One day while laying in bed she accused me of fucking some anonymous person at work. I was confused about the accusation and told her no. She was cold for months, but you could tell she was putting a conscious effort into it. We were very social and others would pick up on it. Mutual friends would later confess that she would complain about things that didn't seem prevalent in our relationship.

Everything was so left-field I thought she was trying to test me at first, see how faithful I was before we actually married. It all dragged out until November of that year. She told me she was moving out the same weekend my mother was undergoing a serious surgery. She reassured me that she wasn't cheating, but the reasons for ending weren't clear at all at that time. Anyhow, we had to spend 6 more months together to wait for our lease to be up.

During those months she was inconsistent with her behavior. About 3 months in we started becoming intimate again. She began opening up to me again saying "I feel more comfortable talking to you than to anyone else I know." She lingered two weeks after signing her new lease (she moved within walking distance).



About a month later we spoke, she told me she resented me because I got my masters and she wasn't pursuing anything. At this point, I thought we could still at least be amicable. But after that conversation, anytime I see her in public, she does not acknowledge me at all. And she continued going to the same places I used to take her. Once, she sent me a picture of herself on IG then blocked me a few days after. About 9 months after, she spoke to me after seeing me with another woman at a bar.

I asked her about the picture she sent, she told me that it was by accident, she meant to send it to her sister. A blatant lie.The conversation was the first sign of at least a cordial relationship. About a week or two later she saw me with another woman and made a failed attempt at avoiding crossing our paths. We didn't say anything to each other. The next day I reached out to her via text and briefly mentioned it. She became angry and sent me a long angry rant. We didn't speak again until 6 months after that.

I found some of her belongings and messaged her about them. She then told me she had my bachelor's diploma in her possession, for the past 18 months. When I saw her to exchange, we didn't speak nor did she look me in my face. The following week, I was out on a date and dancing and didn't realize both her and her sister were right in front of me. My date and I moved away from them. I know she saw us before I saw her, she was a few feet away with no one in between us, but she her back to us while her sister was not too shy about glancing at us. We had been dancing for 10 minutes before we noticed them.

That's where everything left off. Although we had good years together, I wouldn't want to be with her again, I don't even want to be friends really. But still, all those years feels like a waste when you don't have respect for one another afterward. I've often heard aqua's are flighty, aqua's change their minds. But what's up with the year and a half of bitterness and silence?