Ex's not giving closure.

Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship with an aquarius woman who did not give me closure and refused to speak to me about certain issues relating to our break up. She has a cancer moon. Recently a friend of mine who was dating an Libra (moo
Hello everyone,

I have been in a relationship with an aquarius woman who did not give me closure and refused to speak to me about certain issues relating to our break up. She has a cancer moon.

Recently a friend of mine who was dating an Libra (moon and Aqua sun) has broken up with his Mrs and she has also done the same.

So it got me thinking, based on Signs (both sun and moon) and just general personality traits habits a person has, why do some people not have the decency to actually have a conversation to end the relationship making it easier for both parties to move on.

Is it due to selfishness, cowardice or some people just not accepting the break up for months or years and deciding moving on and ignoring it is the best option.

This is open to all signs - suns and moons.

AquaScorpio9
♏☼ ♑☾
In your case, the Aquarius's moon sign will have a stronger influence than her sun as Cancer's ruling planet is the moon. This means she's very emotional, sensitive and thinks with her heart instead of her head. Cancers are brooders and it's normal for them to give you the silent treatment after you've hurt/broken up with them. It will take them a long time to process the emotions and the reality of a break up and during that time, they're not keen on talking it out. This is because it's too hard for them to put their feelings into words. She's probably having a tougher time than you can imagine.

With the Aquarius-Libra case, Aquarius takes the reins and with an Air-Air combo, they really do "go with the wind." So it's actually a different attitude altogether. It's not uncommon for them to be done with a relationship and move on without acknowleding you or giving the time for closure.

Everyone reacts differently to a situation like yours so it could be any of the reasons you've given. It depends on so many factors such as the reason for breaking up, how serious the relationship was, who broke up with whom etc. This is just what I think.
Biboroon
♎️ sun, ♓️ moon, ♏️ ascendant
I think it's cowardice - they don't have the balls to break up face to face so they leave you guessing. treetrunk those people. It's way more humane to just break up with someone, even if it's through text. The longest it took me to get over someone is when he ghosted me.
Biboroon
♎️ sun, ♓️ moon, ♏️ ascendant
Oh and he was a leo with virgo moon and rising, venus in cancer
@Aquascorpio9

In your case, the Aquarius's moon sign will have a stronger influence than her sun as Cancer's ruling planet is the moon. This means she's very emotional, sensitive and thinks with her heart instead of her head. Cancers are brooders and it's normal for them to give you the silent treatment after you've hurt/broken up with them. It will take them a long time to process the emotions and the reality of a break up and during that time, they're not keen on talking it out. This is because it's too hard for them to put their feelings into words. She's probably having a tougher time than you can imagine.

True - does it take a year though - we recently started to talk again on a plutonic level and she kept telling me how amazing I am and how I have changed and she has noticed it etc.
Then one day she needed a shoulder and reached out to me to tell me about a problem she has with her boyfriend, and it was exactly the same problem I had with her. I told her what she did to me and how it affected and she started to cry. She said she wants to hear more and then a few days later told me she wanted to be friends after I said I wanted to try again.

That was the last straw for me, I sent her an email asking for answers to questions and she refused to give them to me. The last time we spoke I asked her on her nephews life if she had feelings for me and she didn't swear on his life but said "I don't have any feelings for you" At that point I said I don't think we can be friends and she said fine then and blocked me again.

She is 26 and I fail to understand even after a year and her moving on, why she cant seem to give me answers. So I decided now I need to give up because I don't want any negativity in my life. She will realise one day and it will be too late because I would have stopped caring by then. I am caring by nature and sometimes my biggest asset is my biggest flaw.
AquaScorpio9
♏☼ ♑☾
Posted by MrR78
@Aquascorpio9

In your case, the Aquarius's moon sign will have a stronger influence than her sun as Cancer's ruling planet is the moon. This means she's very emotional, sensitive and thinks with her heart instead of her head. Cancers are brooders and it's normal for them to give you the silent treatment after you've hurt/broken up with them. It will take them a long time to process the emotions and the reality of a break up and during that time, they're not keen on talking it out. This is because it's too hard for them to put their feelings into words. She's probably having a tougher time than you can imagine.

True - does it take a year though - we recently started to talk again on a plutonic level and she kept telling me how amazing I am and how I have changed and she has noticed it etc.
Then one day she needed a shoulder and reached out to me to tell me about a problem she has with her boyfriend, and it was exactly the same problem I had with her. I told her what she did to me and how it affected and she started to cry. She said she wants to hear more and then a few days later told me she wanted to be friends after I said I wanted to try again.

That was the last straw for me, I sent her an email asking for answers to questions and she refused to give them to me. The last time we spoke I asked her on her nephews life if she had feelings for me and she didn't swear on his life but said "I don't have any feelings for you" At that point I said I don't think we can be friends and she said fine then and blocked me again.

She is 26 and I fail to understand even after a year and her moving on, why she cant seem to give me answers. So I decided now I need to give up because I don't want any negativity in my life. She will realise one day and it will be too late because I would have stopped caring by then. I am caring by nature and sometimes my biggest asset is my biggest flaw.


In the end, it all depends on the individual. Some people can move on and bounce back quite quickly while for others, the emotions attached to the break up fester and go back and forth for a long time. Aquarians are quite independent and can usually bounce back without too many scratches but with a Cancer Moon, it's a longer process. She won't like showing her emotional vulnerabilities during that time and even if that means avoiding your questions or you altogether, she'll do it. She just really needs her space.

Aquarius can be hot and cold but they don't like it when the reverse happens to them. She wants a clean break up while she has the opportunity to filter out her own emotions in private. Hearing words suggesting you want to get back with her after she's found a new boyfriend will make her quite nervous and frustrated as she's assumed that now that she's moved on, so have you (Aquarians tend to assume a lot instead of asking). Sounds like she waited until she thought she was ready before reaching out to you in hopes of being friends but has now withdrawn because she doesn't know how to best handle the situation.

Us ladies have a expectation of being the more emotionally mature one in a relationship but that's not always the case - especially after a break up from the one we developed strong feelings for. I know it must be frustrating for you to be on the receiving end of her hot/coldness. Since she's already made efforts to move on and has a boyfriend, maybe it's best if you do the same

Out of curiousity, what's your Sun sign?
@Aquascorpio9 - My sun sign is Leo and I have a Libra moon.

Its quite a complicated story but the bottom line is that we have an age difference and her parents disapproved hence why we broke up. They thought I was too old for her. Our relationship was great and she admits that too. She says I am amazing etc and she was saying it a lot recently.

After we split she went back to her ex, and his parents refused her. It turns out that when she went home to speak about him, her parents said no again. She admitted realising she is too reliant on her parents opinion.

Now she is with someone else and they seem to be having difficulties and she reached out to me. What annoyed me was the fact that she hardly made and effort as it is and when she needed a shoulder to cry on I was the one. I felt emotionally used and sent her an email asking her why she finds it hard to speak to me about how we broke up, how I felt she disrespected and me and if she has any emotional issues that are unresolved and we can talk about it and clear the air. We work together so it would make things easier.

She ignored it as well as all the attempts I have made to communicate in the past. I had moved on too but when she brought up her issues, it brought back emotions for me and I did ask her to reconcile. She said I gave her lots to think about and she wanted to talk again but she didn't. She just sent me an email saying "lets be friends."

I have an expectation in friendships too, they are a 2 way street where respect is given. I feel she cant give me that, that's what annoyed me and that's why I said we cant be friends.

I have since broken up with my cancer girl because I don't feel its right to be with someone when I still have unresolved feelings for someone else. I think she is also in the same situation but is trying to move on to forget me. I fail to understand why after a year it is so hard for her to open up to me, considering she is now seeing someone else. If the feelings have gone, it should be easy to speak about unless I am wrong.
Capmercury87
28 years old female
Aquari-ass
As an Aquarius if we broke up that's that.
I'm not sure what you want from her sense she already communicated that she doesn't have feelings. She can probably sense that you, despite her not having feelings, continue to have feelings. Who wants to stick around for that?
I wouldn't.
Andalusia
Phat Lisa Loeb
Posted by MrR78
Hello everyone,

I have been in a relationship with an aquarius woman who did not give me closure and refused to speak to me about certain issues relating to our break up. She has a cancer moon.

Recently a friend of mine who was dating an Libra (moon and Aqua sun) has broken up with his Mrs and she has also done the same.

So it got me thinking, based on Signs (both sun and moon) and just general personality traits habits a person has, why do some people not have the decency to actually have a conversation to end the relationship making it easier for both parties to move on.

Is it due to selfishness, cowardice or some people just not accepting the break up for months or years and deciding moving on and ignoring it is the best option.

This is open to all signs - suns and moons.



In each of the two instances above - who broke up with whom?

We're you and your friend the dumpers or the dumpees?
@Capmercury87 - Yes I agree and I no longer have feelings for her. I would have liked to have had some closure because that's what mature people do, who can have an emotional conversation and draw a line under it. Maybe its just me, but whats done is done.

@Andalusia - in both cases, my friend and I were the dumpees
dracula
Sun: ♏️, Moon: ♒️, Rising:♏️, Mars: ♏️
my ex Aqua did the same, she couldnt face an aqua mooner's cold insensitive eyes. So she ran away and hid, i could of found her. At the end, closure shouldnt be forced, it should be mutual. So a year later still no closure, i been over it; as you should too.. Low key they will stalk you for months, social media mainly lol
AerialView
male from Arlong Park
dude you sound pathetic, it's been too long you keep longing on her.
AerialView
male from Arlong Park
Posted by Astrology101
Posted by AerialView
dude you sound pathetic, it's been too long you keep longing on her.


He's in pain. Y u have to be so mean?
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i don't understand you guys.
AerialView
male from Arlong Park
Posted by Astrology101
Posted by AerialView
Posted by Astrology101
Posted by AerialView
dude you sound pathetic, it's been too long you keep longing on her.


He's in pain. Y u have to be so mean?


i don't understand you guys.


Hmm. He's trying to move on. He's just stuck.
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people in aqua board been telling him to move on for months. this isn't new.
AerialView
male from Arlong Park
cut your losses and move on. don't let this girl mess with your head. you're a man ffs
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