Breaking Up

What do you do when your heart is broken?

What I do might sound strange but I push all the feelings into a song. Like, I'll come across a song on the radio that's about love that feels like the right one. And then I'll stay in bed during free days, wonder around in my pj's and listen to that song while thinking about my heart breaker. Slowly I'll tell myself that it was better off this way, that I'm not going to drop dead without them in my life. And then I'll remember good moments too. The things I liked and the things I didn't like. And I continue to keep that song around me for a long while. And then day by day I play the song less and less until it's all gone. So, in a way, that person becomes nothing but a sad love song to me.


What are ways you guys cope with heart break and move on??

I used to do exactly the same! My friends never understood why as they always say im just making myself more miserable lol and I ended up with a lot of great songs that I could no longer listen to because of the memories 😢.

These days I usually put something cheesy on like this haha

Some people don't really find ways to cope with sadness/loss. Theres no exit strategy. Sounds like you''ve got an exit strategy and I think thats smart. You've found what works for you...nothing else matters.

I like to take a big piece of paper and write down allllllll of the negative things about the relationship. Qualities I didn't like, mean things they may have said, bad memories of things they did. I also include all of the stuff that I won't have to deal with anymore. I leave that paper somewhere that I can see it often.

I also get rid of EVERYTHING I can that reminds me of them...just to get it out of my sight.

I'll avoid going places where I have some good memory of them.

Then, during the extra low times when all of the above does not work (which is will at some point), I put on the saddest song imaginable and just cry as hard as I can for as long as I can. I ALWAYS feel much better (even cleansed) after that.

Then the routine starts over again. Eventually, I feel healed and I am able to see what I learned from the relationship, I can remember the good times and be grateful for them, and I can wish them the best.

Posted by Dianasart
What do you do when your heart is broken?

At first, absolutely nothing. I turned off everything. I needed peace and quiet to sort things out in my head. Emotions are raging and if you don't step back you can do things you regret, stupid comments, lashing out in anger, who knows.

Posted by Dianasart

What are ways you guys cope with heart break and move on??

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The first thing I had to do was accept that is was really done. Fresh after a break up, get away from the person. Don't see them or talk to them. Split your stuff and go. When it is done, let it be done.

Then, keep your mind occupied while it is forgetting.

Big picture, I stated taking care of myself. Eating better and exercising (great for pent up anger/frustration). I also turned more attention to work.

Day to day... survive.

I have a bunch of songs that I listen(ed) to. I didn't actually title my playlist depression, but it's the same concept. On a really bad day, I'd loop songs over and over and just get lost in my mind for hours. Just don't stay in that mindset. Go out with friends some, even if you don't really feel like it. Try to find something to laugh about, sign up for daily jokes or whatever. Browse peopleofwalmart or failblog. Google image search for "bad tattoos" or "ugly people". I also wrote everything down, and painted. Just be nice to yourself.

There are good days and bad but gradually the bad ones get fewer and further apart. Then one day you remember something from before and it just doesn't feel the same. You can have the good memory and that's all it is. There is no more aching or wanting.

It's the past and can stay there 🙂

If it's a break up song you gotta go with Weird Al...



Or maybe this one...

Love Cee Lo!

Heres one for you guys who love the depressive songs 🙂

and another



I'll stop now because im always heartbroken I could post these all night haha

Posted by ellessque
I hang out here and irritate a select few of you for shits and giggles until I feel better. 😛

haha so mean!

Posted by Shadows
I put on the saddest song imaginable and just cry as hard as I can for as long as I can. I ALWAYS feel much better (even cleansed) after that.

Then the routine starts over again. Eventually, I feel healed and I am able to see what I learned from the relationship, I can remember the good times and be grateful for them, and I can wish them the best.

"even cleansed" exactly! that's how it feels. There's no denying the pain so might as well force it out right? And then get over it in your own new ways, surround yourself with the new...

Posted by spiritualized
1. collect every tangible thing that reminds you of them, place the items in a box, and discard of it. you may light it on fire, throw it off a cliff, however you may choose.
2. go find a new partner. you may call an escort service, try online dating, however you may choose.
3. repeat cycle until you're dumb enough to get married.

Perfect! The smartest advise I've ever heard! 😉

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Posted by Dianasart
What do you do when your heart is broken?


What are ways you guys cope with heart break and move on??

1) Stay mentally busy and physically active. Physical activity = endorphins = naturally good feelings

2) Surround yourself with family and good friends. Being alone gives you too much time and opportunity to dwell on the past.

3) I don't like to listen to sad music, because it just amplifies the negative feelings. I like upbeat and/or angry music when I'm sad.

4) Go out dancing. This usually equals instant smiles and good times. Well, for me at least. 🙂

5) Getting rid of the person's stuff is OK, but I like to hold on to at least one important memento.


I'm sentimental like that.


Good luck. 🙂

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Thanks but you didn't have to wish me luck lol I haven't recently had a heard break. But I was curious to see if I was alone with turning an ex into just a sad song I can easily put away and feel like life's good and the break up never happened. Like a dream you know. I personally don't like keeping busy. Because one way or another they come spilling out. I remember trying not to think of an ex once after a break up but it would pop out into my head every now and then and bother me. SO I forced it all out and got it over with 🙂
I don't know how the next break up will affect me though. Time will tell.

^^^^^^^
ScorpioDreamer - shame on you. A gemini is not worth it. Next time just drive right over him.
Oh, that's right - he disappeared. (G is for Gutless.)
Nevermind - someone will finish the job for you one day.


Play "The Break Up Song" by the Greg Kihn Band...although I am not convinced I would waste this on a gemini either.

hi could any cancer men help me about how i can get my cancer man back? all in my life that is the first time that i am really so inlove with and that is so deep and i lost him,..i dont know what to do and how i can get him back,..i did many silly things.First i did a mistake than he gave me an other chance and i did an other stupid mistake😢(( now i am so sad cause i lost my real friend,my love,..i hurt him with my words however i pleased him to forgive me and trying to say sorry but i really dont know how to say sorry to him because now he even doesnt wanna see me i think,..i pushed him so much and i did a big mistake,..we talk different language -he is italian and now i can speak italian,..he helps me so much and since last week he was keeping to help me about speaking this language but because of i am so inpatient i asked him again what he wants from me,if he wants me or not and he didnt reply than i got crazy cause i dont like to be in the middle.if i need an answer i have to get it in time,i have white and black however he is really my lesson now,..i tried to talk with him but he didnt want than i tried to sent him sms (that i really hate of it and he eighter) tried to say sorry in some way cause i told him that i am going to date with someone else if he wouldnt show me if he wants me or not and stupid me asked him that''ok if you dont wanna tell than show me by your behavings and come to party " how stupid lazy crazy thing that was'' offcourse he didnt come even he didnt reply even he didnt call me back than i was so so regret what i did and tried to tell him why i did but he didnt say anything,..now i am so sad that i made him so hurt and made him so under pressure however i got my lesson so please help me what should i do? we are going to same gym but nowadays even he doesnt come to gym or he changes his times,..i dont know,..i just want him back and show him how much i love him,..he doesnt let me to show it now and he just escapes from me and yeah he has rights now,..so i decided to leave him to himself and dont call him or say him anything more,..i really dont wanna loose him however i think this time i lost him already cause he ve never done something like that before,..now i am sure that he thinks i am really crazy and even he gave me the second chance to be friends i pushed him again,..he makes me so happy and we were so happy but the problem is i count on him so so much so does he come back to me,can i get him back?

Posted by Dianasart
What do you do when your heart is broken?
What are ways you guys cope with heart break and move on??

I take out a sheet of paper, write "The bullshxt I'll have to go through if I CONTINUE dating/being with this person" at the top & them boom!..I start listing out all the things I'd have to go through if I continue to invest energy into that person. You'd be surprised at just how LONG your list might be. Every time I think about going back, I get out my list.

2. Half of what makes break ups so hard is that the other person almost always attempts to wheel you back in again, thus further stirring up any turmoil/conflict, therefore to prolong healing. Since this is the case, I'll suck it up & throw away everything that person gave to me, I'll delete their contact information & try my best to avoid them. That way I won't/don't have to worry about them trying to manipulate me back into their web. This especially helps when you're feeling tempted to contact them again...w/o their info, you can't!

..I might even write down all my feelings & all the things I wished I could/DID say to them, & then burn the paper afterwards. Having the last word OR wanting to remind them of your "feelings" just 1 more time is quite tempting. Welp, if you raise hell & go off on a piece of paper vs. the actual person, it's alot easier to feel relief afterwards

I also remind my friends NOT to keep asking me "OMG Are you ok?!!!" b/c when they do that, it only encourages you to think about that person all over again! Ugh

I am not sure I have had my heart broken as much as I felt broken because someone left me.

I get insanely angry at first than

I usually try to find the sliver lining in the whole thing. Than just agree with their decision cause what else can you really do?

Than they come back and I say " yea ok " hang out with them treat them like crap so they won't ask me back "seriously" than wait for something better to come along

Simple. Think of all the worst things you can do during a breakup (beg for them back, sit around all day & cry, listen to sappy/sad love songs, retreat into a shell of darkness, cuddle with your ex's stuff all night, etc.)...then try your hardest NOT to do them!