krysrenee7
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Dancing with the opposite sex when...
As long as the guy isnt grinding on her then I am ok with it. He could dance with the same girl all night for all I care aslong as he isnt grinding on her and if she is grinding on him, he tells her to stop.
When I go out and I am in a relationship I dance with guys all the time, some people I dont even know there name a certain song comes on an you catch someones eye and there doing the same dance as you you have a boogie then both go your seperate ways. All just in good fun.
I stick to the rule of "you can do what you would you would be doing if your partner was there".
When I go out and I am in a relationship I dance with guys all the time, some people I dont even know there name a certain song comes on an you catch someones eye and there doing the same dance as you you have a boogie then both go your seperate ways. All just in good fun.
I stick to the rule of "you can do what you would you would be doing if your partner was there".
Good rule of thumb =)
Very true. If my partner is getting down on the dance floor with chicks when I'm not there but yet he's completely to himself when I am there, that's a problem. If I trust him & if he trusts that I trust him, his behavior/actions should be the same both behind closed doors & when I'm around
Very true. If my partner is getting down on the dance floor with chicks when I'm not there but yet he's completely to himself when I am there, that's a problem. If I trust him & if he trusts that I trust him, his behavior/actions should be the same both behind closed doors & when I'm around
I mean i'm not the type that worries about what she's doing when she's out because there's nothing you can control when your partner isn't around. People know when they are doing wrong or right but as far as answering the question:
I wouldn't really care if she's dancing with a guy when she's out as long as it's not the Lambada or nothing.. lol I mean as long as she's not dry humping some dude to death/grinding i am cool with it. But i'm not the type to ask "we're you dancing with any guys tonight" when she gets home or "how many dudes try to get your number" or "what happened" etc etc
I Just like I think girls that are in a relationship or not will accept drinks from guys when they are out. Doesn't mean they are trying to cheat just means they taking advantage of the free drinks. Some girls will accept the free drinks and just deal with the dude annoying her for the rest of the night... I think most women have accepted drinks from dudes that they knew from the door had no shot IN LIFE! lol with her
I wouldn't really care if she's dancing with a guy when she's out as long as it's not the Lambada or nothing.. lol I mean as long as she's not dry humping some dude to death/grinding i am cool with it. But i'm not the type to ask "we're you dancing with any guys tonight" when she gets home or "how many dudes try to get your number" or "what happened" etc etc
I Just like I think girls that are in a relationship or not will accept drinks from guys when they are out. Doesn't mean they are trying to cheat just means they taking advantage of the free drinks. Some girls will accept the free drinks and just deal with the dude annoying her for the rest of the night... I think most women have accepted drinks from dudes that they knew from the door had no shot IN LIFE! lol with her
@Nov: Well, idk about the whole accepting free drinks thing. Sure, some guys will offer to get a girl a free drink even if they know they're not going to get any "play" buttttt, let's just be honest, by the time a man is ready to offer a woman a free drink, he should've ALREADY been made aware that she was taken. And a good man who has respect for women won't try to "game" or "buy" a woman whose already taken. After all, why invest in someone whose already taken? That kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it?
I think women should absolutely make it clear that they are taken. There is absolutely a way to go to ANY place & yet still carry yourself as a married/taken woman. And if a woman is giving off the signal that she's available (regardless of where she's at), that's not cool.
Anytime I see a woman grinding hard on the dancefloor with a bunch of guys throughout the night, I automatically assume she's single. There is nothing "relationshipy" (lol) about a woman whose been oodled/fondled all night (& yes I said fondled b/c let's just be real..the kind of dancing that goes on nowadays is basically dry sex!)
It's not to say that people in relationships shouldn't go out and/or dance at all, BUT there should def. be a fine line & some boundaries though.
If a million guys are still hitting on & willing to invest in a woman even AFTER she's already told them she was taken, that's a problem. It means she either needs to go dance with some guys who CAN respect the fact that she's taken OR it means she's not doing such a good job pointing out that she's taken. Both can be a potential problem
I think women should absolutely make it clear that they are taken. There is absolutely a way to go to ANY place & yet still carry yourself as a married/taken woman. And if a woman is giving off the signal that she's available (regardless of where she's at), that's not cool.
Anytime I see a woman grinding hard on the dancefloor with a bunch of guys throughout the night, I automatically assume she's single. There is nothing "relationshipy" (lol) about a woman whose been oodled/fondled all night (& yes I said fondled b/c let's just be real..the kind of dancing that goes on nowadays is basically dry sex!)
It's not to say that people in relationships shouldn't go out and/or dance at all, BUT there should def. be a fine line & some boundaries though.
If a million guys are still hitting on & willing to invest in a woman even AFTER she's already told them she was taken, that's a problem. It means she either needs to go dance with some guys who CAN respect the fact that she's taken OR it means she's not doing such a good job pointing out that she's taken. Both can be a potential problem
I don't care if he goes out with friends, or if girls dance with him.
I just wouldn't want to see it.
That's weird. :/
& if I were to go to the club with him, we're dancing together. The end.
Or I'm dancing with my friends and he's standing at the bar with his friends.
There will be none of that us being in the same club, dancing with other people.
Yes, there are people who do this and are okay with it. I think it's strange.....
A Taurus friend takes her bf to the club and then dances with other guys and he dances with other girls.....
sickos.
I just wouldn't want to see it.
That's weird. :/
& if I were to go to the club with him, we're dancing together. The end.
Or I'm dancing with my friends and he's standing at the bar with his friends.
There will be none of that us being in the same club, dancing with other people.
Yes, there are people who do this and are okay with it. I think it's strange.....
A Taurus friend takes her bf to the club and then dances with other guys and he dances with other girls.....
sickos.
HA! On 1 hand, I've seen couples go to clubs together; idk maybe they feel that if they're both there together, neither of them will have to be at home worrying about what the other person is really doing.
However, I've seen this go horribly wrong too.
However, I've seen this go horribly wrong too.
Posted by krysrenee7
@Nov: Well, idk about the whole accepting free drinks thing. Sure, some guys will offer to get a girl a free drink even if they know they're not going to get any "play" buttttt, let's just be honest, by the time a man is ready to offer a woman a free drink, he should've ALREADY been made aware that she was taken. And a good man who has respect for women won't try to "game" or "buy" a woman whose already taken.
I "good" man wouldn't try to get with a women who's already taken? Really? lol You are mistaken sweetheart. Men by nature are gonna try and take what they want since day 1 ma. It doesn't mean a man is not a good man, now if she's saying no and he keeps pressing her, yes that is disrespectful but otherwise if there's a chance a mans gonna take it. We are hunters by nature and men lose their women to other men all the time. If a man is drawn to a women he sees and she's taken, if she continues to entertain him in anyway, he's going to take his shot/cast his webb. I'm sure there are women who ended up dealing with another guy when they were already in a relationship. They are all not horrible women, or ho's or whatever. I'm sure there are girls who had no intentions of cheating or messing around still ended up doing so.
There is a such thing as a magnetic like connection between a man and a women that's damn near unavoidable. Now should u remove yourself from your current situation before indulging? Sure - but we all know that it doesn't happen like that all the time.
a good friend of mine (who's actually a Writer, check out his 1st Novel "The Corrupt Gene") would say to you... and i quote "he's not gonna apologize for being a man" LOLLLLLLLLL
The dancing thing depends on my partner. If he is the type to be inclined to dance then it's not a big deal. If I saw him dancing with someone knowing full well that he does not "do" dancing then I'm probably gonna have a problem with it.
Now, as for the drinks... Men buy me drinks often. Especially gay ones! I won't lie. I do take advantage of it but I carry myself with class and they do eventually become aware that I am taken. I don't come right out and advertise that I am not available but if he starts throwing the sexy signals out, getting too touchy-feely, etc. then I say it outright but politely. Usually it doesn't even get that far. They tend to ask me soon after a few words are exchanged. The end result is the same though. They will still gladly buy me the drink and just be happy to talk. It has happened to my bf a couple of times by females. My initial reaction is to be a little put-off but it's only because I'm not used to him being pursued. However, I know better than to get mad. I think it's cool if either of us can score free drinks. It's expensive to go out!
Now, as for the drinks... Men buy me drinks often. Especially gay ones! I won't lie. I do take advantage of it but I carry myself with class and they do eventually become aware that I am taken. I don't come right out and advertise that I am not available but if he starts throwing the sexy signals out, getting too touchy-feely, etc. then I say it outright but politely. Usually it doesn't even get that far. They tend to ask me soon after a few words are exchanged. The end result is the same though. They will still gladly buy me the drink and just be happy to talk. It has happened to my bf a couple of times by females. My initial reaction is to be a little put-off but it's only because I'm not used to him being pursued. However, I know better than to get mad. I think it's cool if either of us can score free drinks. It's expensive to go out!
Posted by nov5malePosted by krysrenee7
@Nov: Well, idk about the whole accepting free drinks thing. Sure, some guys will offer to get a girl a free drink even if they know they're not going to get any "play" buttttt, let's just be honest, by the time a man is ready to offer a woman a free drink, he should've ALREADY been made aware that she was taken. And a good man who has respect for women won't try to "game" or "buy" a woman whose already taken.
I "good" man wouldn't try to get with a women who's already taken? Really? lol You are mistaken sweetheart. Men by nature are gonna try and take what they want since day 1 ma. It doesn't mean a man is not a good man, now if she's saying no and he keeps pressing her, yes that is disrespectful but otherwise if there's a chance a mans gonna take it. We are hunters by nature and men lose their women to other men all the time. If a man is drawn to a women he sees and she's taken, if she continues to entertain him in anyway, he's going to take his shot/cast his webb. I'm sure there are women who ended up dealing with another guy when they were already in a relationship. They are all not horrible women, or ho's or whatever. I'm sure there are girls who had no intentions of cheating or messing around still ended up doing so.
There is a such thing as a magnetic like connection between a man and a women that's damn near unavoidable. Now should u remove yourself from your current situation before indulging? Sure - but we all know that it doesn't happen like that all the time.
a good friend of mine (who's actually a Writer, check out his 1st Novel "The Corrupt Gene") would say to you... and i quote "he's not gonna apologize for being a man" LOLLLLLLLLLclick to expand
Pretty much. It seems everyone on DXP are super human saints though 😛
Posted by nov5malePosted by krysrenee7
@Nov: Well, idk about the whole accepting free drinks thing. Sure, some guys will offer to get a girl a free drink even if they know they're not going to get any "play" buttttt, let's just be honest, by the time a man is ready to offer a woman a free drink, he should've ALREADY been made aware that she was taken. And a good man who has respect for women won't try to "game" or "buy" a woman whose already taken.
I "good" man wouldn't try to get with a women who's already taken? Really? lol You are mistaken sweetheart. Men by nature are gonna try and take what they want since day 1 ma. It doesn't mean a man is not a good man, now if she's saying no and he keeps pressing her, yes that is disrespectful but otherwise if there's a chance a mans gonna take it. We are hunters by nature and men lose their women to other men all the time. If a man is drawn to a women he sees and she's taken, if she continues to entertain him in anyway, he's going to take his shot/cast his webb. I'm sure there are women who ended up dealing with another guy when they were already in a relationship. They are all not horrible women, or ho's or whatever. I'm sure there are girls who had no intentions of cheating or messing around still ended up doing so.
There is a such thing as a magnetic like connection between a man and a women that's damn near unavoidable. Now should u remove yourself from your current situation before indulging? Sure - but we all know that it doesn't happen like that all the time.click to expand
I would never pursue a woman who was taken. Period. I have been pursued by them before and it is such a turn off to me. Yes you can talk to them, but trying to get with them... why? A little while back I had a woman at the bar (married and wearing her wedding ring) try to kiss me. I dodged her and told her to go home and talk to her husband.
Go ahead and have your magnetic connection that you cannot avoid. It'll last one night. You'd never be able to trust her after meeting her like that. I'd expect more from anyone I wanted a relationship with. And no, not everyone who has ever cheated is a whore or horrible person, but at the least they have some sketchy values and I wouldn't trust them.
Posted by nov5male
a good friend of mine (who's actually a Writer, check out his 1st Novel "The Corrupt Gene") would say to you... and i quote "he's not gonna apologize for being a man" LOLLLLLLLLL
God gave us two heads but only enough blood supply to operate one at a time? Having a dick doesn't make someone a man.
I agree with Librasid. We can dibble dabble on the definition of what a "good man" is but where I come from, a man that's worth a damn won't spend all his time all night trying to fondle/game the 1 girl in the bar/club whose already taken. Out of all the dozens (sometimes even hundreds) of other women in the club who are just as sexy & just as appealing, I find it hard to believe that a man can't hear "I'm taken" & move on to the next one who isn't taken.
The only time a person is ok with gaming someone who is taken is b/c they don't have good intentions. Since they're already taken, you already know there's no chance in a relationship with them (hell they're already in one!). 2. You already know they must not be the most honest/loyal/faithful person since they're willing to cross the line with someone else, even if crossing the line simply means having an inappropriate convo with someone else and/or taking inappropriate gifts.
To me, a man buying drinks for women he's not really interested in is just as pointless as me giving my number to someone I have no intention on speaking to again. So if a man hears "I'm taken" from a woman & yet keeps pursuing her the same way he would persay that very same woman was single, he's a scumbag. End of story.
The only time a person is ok with gaming someone who is taken is b/c they don't have good intentions. Since they're already taken, you already know there's no chance in a relationship with them (hell they're already in one!). 2. You already know they must not be the most honest/loyal/faithful person since they're willing to cross the line with someone else, even if crossing the line simply means having an inappropriate convo with someone else and/or taking inappropriate gifts.
To me, a man buying drinks for women he's not really interested in is just as pointless as me giving my number to someone I have no intention on speaking to again. So if a man hears "I'm taken" from a woman & yet keeps pursuing her the same way he would persay that very same woman was single, he's a scumbag. End of story.
Posted by krysrenee7
I agree with Librasid. We can dibble dabble on the definition of what a "good man" is but where I come from, a man that's worth a damn won't spend all his time all night trying to fondle/game the 1 girl in the bar/club whose already taken. Out of all the dozens (sometimes even hundreds) of other women in the club who are just as sexy & just as appealing, I find it hard to believe that a man can't hear "I'm taken" & move on to the next one who isn't taken.
The only time a person is ok with gaming someone who is taken is b/c they don't have good intentions. Since they're already taken, you already know there's no chance in a relationship with them (hell they're already in one!). 2. You already know they must not be the most honest/loyal/faithful person since they're willing to cross the line with someone else, even if crossing the line simply means having an inappropriate convo with someone else and/or taking inappropriate gifts.
To me, a man buying drinks for women he's not really interested in is just as pointless as me giving my number to someone I have no intention on speaking to again. So if a man hears "I'm taken" from a woman & yet keeps pursuing her the same way he would persay that very same woman was single, he's a scumbag. End of story.
Well everything you're saying has a neat little bowtie on it and it's sounds real good and correct and how a love men/women expert would like to draw it up in the instructional but back in reality it doesn't always go like that. Look I understand everything you're saying but it's not always that simple. Even if it doesn't relate to you (as it doesn't relate to me) i think in your heart of hearts you know that.
I never mentioned anything about spending all night etc, if you read what i said i just said if a girl entertains a guy he may continue to pursue because he feels like he has a chance. I also think I said it was in fact disrespectful for a guy to continue and press a girl who already shot him down. What do you mean gaming? A man that's trying to holler at a women he's attracted to or likes for whatever reason doesn't have to be gaming sis. He may be just sincerely trying to get with a girl he has a strong attraction to. Don't assume it's got to be bad intentions- maybe he thinks the door cracked - if she didn't shut him out. I don't think you can't just paint everyone with a broad brush
Posted by krysrenee7
I agree with Librasid. We can dibble dabble on the definition of what a "good man" is but where I come from, a man that's worth a damn won't spend all his time all night trying to fondle/game the 1 girl in the bar/club whose already taken. Out of all the dozens (sometimes even hundreds) of other women in the club who are just as sexy & just as appealing, I find it hard to believe that a man can't hear "I'm taken" & move on to the next one who isn't taken.
The only time a person is ok with gaming someone who is taken is b/c they don't have good intentions. Since they're already taken, you already know there's no chance in a relationship with them (hell they're already in one!). 2. You already know they must not be the most honest/loyal/faithful person since they're willing to cross the line with someone else, even if crossing the line simply means having an inappropriate convo with someone else and/or taking inappropriate gifts.
To me, a man buying drinks for women he's not really interested in is just as pointless as me giving my number to someone I have no intention on speaking to again. So if a man hears "I'm taken" from a woman & yet keeps pursuing her the same way he would persay that very same woman was single, he's a scumbag. End of story.
Well everything you're saying has a neat little bowtie on it and it's sounds real good and correct and how a love men/women expert would like to draw it up in the instructional but back in reality it doesn't always go like that. Look I understand everything you're saying but it's not always that simple. Even if it doesn't relate to you (as it doesn't relate to me) i think in your heart of hearts you know that.
I never mentioned anything about spending all night etc, if you read what i said i just said if a girl entertains a guy he may continue to pursue because he feels like he has a chance. I also think I said it was in fact disrespectful for a guy to continue and press a girl who already shot him down. What do you mean gaming? A man that's trying to holler at a women he's attracted to or likes for whatever reason doesn't have to be gaming sis. He may be just sincerely trying to get with a girl he has a strong attraction to. Don't assume it's got to be bad intentions- maybe he thinks the door cracked - if she didn't shut him out. I don't think you can't just paint everyone with a broad brush
.... futhermore lol in a lot of circumstances, a lot of these things are a case by case thing.
sht i'm not even speaking for me, i'm just playing devil's adv (which maybe i like to do lol)and speaking because i know men. You never really wanna prejudge period. if I prejudged or used that broad brush... i wouldnt like white people just because of the actions of a few. You know? You said yourself you wouldn't give a guy your number knowing you have no interest right? makes sense to me too... but girls do it all the time. I can't count how many times i heard a guy say something like: "you know that silly a $ $ girl gave me the wrong number?!". So every girl may not be as logical as you with some of this stuff or maybe they handle things differently.
BOTTOM LINE is 1 + 1 doesn't always equal 2 when it comes to girl/guy relations.
Librasid, He says that about a whole lot of things in life. I don't think he means it as just an excuse to try and get a $ $ by all means necessary. That would be selling his little saying a little short.
sht i'm not even speaking for me, i'm just playing devil's adv (which maybe i like to do lol)and speaking because i know men. You never really wanna prejudge period. if I prejudged or used that broad brush... i wouldnt like white people just because of the actions of a few. You know? You said yourself you wouldn't give a guy your number knowing you have no interest right? makes sense to me too... but girls do it all the time. I can't count how many times i heard a guy say something like: "you know that silly a $ $ girl gave me the wrong number?!". So every girl may not be as logical as you with some of this stuff or maybe they handle things differently.
BOTTOM LINE is 1 + 1 doesn't always equal 2 when it comes to girl/guy relations.
Librasid, He says that about a whole lot of things in life. I don't think he means it as just an excuse to try and get a $ $ by all means necessary. That would be selling his little saying a little short.
I also dont understand why couples go to clubs together. They are either stood all night kissing in the corner (cant they do that at home?) Keeping an eye on eachother (ruining both their nights) or arguing about what they thought the other one was doing (once again ruining everyones night).
I remember my friend once was leaning over to a guy and telling him in his ear that she was taken, her boyfriend thought she was kissing him, all hell broke loose! I do not go out to clubs with couples, more stress then its worth!
I remember my friend once was leaning over to a guy and telling him in his ear that she was taken, her boyfriend thought she was kissing him, all hell broke loose! I do not go out to clubs with couples, more stress then its worth!
Posted by nov5male
sht i'm not even speaking for me, i'm just playing devil's adv (which maybe i like to do lol)and speaking because i know men. You never really wanna prejudge period. if I prejudged or used that broad brush... i wouldnt like white people just because of the actions of a few.
Devil's advocate is very fun.
I don't think that "judging" specific people based on specific actions is using a broad brush at all. It is holding a person accountable for their actions. No one said all guys are jerks because of what some of us do.
Posted by nov5male
You know? You said yourself you wouldn't give a guy your number knowing you have no interest right? makes sense to me too... but girls do it all the time. I can't count how many times i heard a guy say something like: "you know that silly a $ $ girl gave me the wrong number?!". So every girl may not be as logical as you with some of this stuff or maybe they handle things differently.
This is very true. I have a couple female friends who used to carry around a number to a rejection hotline. They would pass it out when they weren't interested. While it is mean, it's also very funny.
Notice that I'm not is saying all women are immature just because some of my HS friends were.
Posted by nov5male
Librasid, He says that about a whole lot of things in life. I don't think he means it as just an excuse to try and get a $ $ by all means necessary. That would be selling his little saying a little short.click to expand
What wouldn't I say trying to get a piece? I mean... um...
What do I say about a lot of things? I didn't really say much in this thread.
@Nov: It's not about pre-judging. Matter of fact, I take that back. Pre-judging may suck BUT like you said, reality is reality. If I see a woman out at a bar giving her number out to diff. guys and/or accepting drinks, there is NOTHING about her actions that suggests she's taken. She may be the most married person in the world, BUT if she's not giving off that impression, she can't really fault anyone for "getting it wrong" if that's how she's carrying herself.
True enough, some "taken" women/men give their numbers out (fake or not) to others at clubs/bars. But if you notice, their partners are never really ok with that nor do their relationships usually last long-term.
The word "game" has a bad stigma attached to it. By "gaming" I literally & simply mean someone who is trying to get in with someone else. Doesn't mean their intentions are bad/crooked. Just means they DO have intentions & will use whatever charm (real or fake) to accomplish whatever goal they have in the moment. And if I see a guy continually hitting on a woman whose made it clear she was taken, it tells me more about HIM than it does her. He may have wishful thinking all day, BUT let's be real, what man REALLY (I mean REALLY) wants a woman long-term whom he ONLY has b/c she betrayed her real partner? HE might succeed in getting the digits, getting her in bed or hell, even getting her to be his girlfriend/wife, BUT there is NOTHING good that can come from 2 people hooking up all b/c they crossed the line/boundaries with their real partners at home.
True enough, some "taken" women/men give their numbers out (fake or not) to others at clubs/bars. But if you notice, their partners are never really ok with that nor do their relationships usually last long-term.
The word "game" has a bad stigma attached to it. By "gaming" I literally & simply mean someone who is trying to get in with someone else. Doesn't mean their intentions are bad/crooked. Just means they DO have intentions & will use whatever charm (real or fake) to accomplish whatever goal they have in the moment. And if I see a guy continually hitting on a woman whose made it clear she was taken, it tells me more about HIM than it does her. He may have wishful thinking all day, BUT let's be real, what man REALLY (I mean REALLY) wants a woman long-term whom he ONLY has b/c she betrayed her real partner? HE might succeed in getting the digits, getting her in bed or hell, even getting her to be his girlfriend/wife, BUT there is NOTHING good that can come from 2 people hooking up all b/c they crossed the line/boundaries with their real partners at home.
Posted by libra sun
I also dont understand why couples go to clubs together. They are either stood all night kissing in the corner (cant they do that at home?) Keeping an eye on eachother (ruining both their nights) or arguing about what they thought the other one was doing (once again ruining everyones night).
I remember my friend once was leaning over to a guy and telling him in his ear that she was taken, her boyfriend thought she was kissing him, all hell broke loose! I do not go out to clubs with couples, more stress then its worth!
Some couples can't handle it. No different than how some couples can't really handle having an open relationship. They think they can but once they're in deep, they realize they couldn't "hang."
I don't think there's anything wrong with a couple going to the club together AS LONG AS they can handle it, know what to expect from the other & are fully aware of the "rules" or boundaries. If even 1 person in the relationship is insecure, yep, going to the club together is a bad move. BUT, not all relationships are filled with 1 or 2 insecure people who can't handle a little competition.
Some couples go out just to get some fresh air. Just to dance together. Technically, none of us really NEED or have to go to the club. We can dance, get dressed up, get freaky and/or listen to music at our own damn houses, BUT we go b/c there's an extra thrill/rush about doing those things in front of dozens/hundreds of other people. So there's nothing wrong with an actual couple wanting that same rush/thrill & experiencing it together. It's whether or not they can actually "hang" that counts! And I must admit, most can't!
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by libra sun
I also dont understand why couples go to clubs together. They are either stood all night kissing in the corner (cant they do that at home?) Keeping an eye on eachother (ruining both their nights) or arguing about what they thought the other one was doing (once again ruining everyones night).
I remember my friend once was leaning over to a guy and telling him in his ear that she was taken, her boyfriend thought she was kissing him, all hell broke loose! I do not go out to clubs with couples, more stress then its worth!
Some couples can't handle it. No different than how some couples can't really handle having an open relationship. They think they can but once they're in deep, they realize they couldn't "hang."
I don't think there's anything wrong with a couple going to the club together AS LONG AS they can handle it, know what to expect from the other & are fully aware of the "rules" or boundaries. If even 1 person in the relationship is insecure, yep, going to the club together is a bad move. BUT, not all relationships are filled with 1 or 2 insecure people who can't handle a little competition.
Some couples go out just to get some fresh air. Just to dance together. Technically, none of us really NEED or have to go to the club. We can dance, get dressed up, get freaky and/or listen to music at our own damn houses, BUT we go b/c there's an extra thrill/rush about doing those things in front of dozens/hundreds of other people. So there's nothing wrong with an actual couple wanting that same rush/thrill & experiencing it together. It's whether or not they can actually "hang" that counts! And I must admit, most can't!click to expand
yeah i did say in my initial post that the person should get out of whatever situation they are in before starting another one. I just try to take everything case by case, i will admit it's very hard to do sometimes. But i do. For instance if i girl sleeps with a guy that she hasn't known that long or look really quick, I wouldn't automatically assume she was a slut/ho. When i was younger I probably would have but now I realize that it could just a strong energy between two people that can make them skip 1st, 2nd and 3rd and go straight home, make that executive decision lol Just 2 people doing what they want to do.
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And some of you are completely ok with your partners going out as long as they keep the number of times they go to a certain limit.
For those of you who are ok with your partners going out to the clubs/bars for a drink every blue moon, how do you feel about your partner dancing with the opposite sex?
-Are there certain "rules" or "Don'ts" you feel your partner must follow in order for you to be comfortable with them going out?
I've heard it ALL! I've heard people say,
1. "Well as long as he doesn't touch her butt or get too freaky while he's dancing with another woman, I don't care."
2. "I don't mind if he dances with another woman as long as he already knew her."
3. "As long as he only dances with a woman once, I won't care."
4. "I don't mind as long as he tells the other woman about me 1st/introduces me as his girlfriend to the other woman."
5. "As long as the other woman isn't 'his type' or atleast someone I don't think he'd ever cheat on me with, I don't mind."
6. "As long as I can see everything (them dancing), I won't mind."
7. "Why would my man want to dance with another female? Why would he even have the desire to touch/sex another female on the dance floor?"
I'm just curious...for those of you who feel that your partner dancing with the opposite sex at a nightclub is a big NO-NO period, why?
And for those of you who are ok with it, are you generally ok with it as a whole w/o any rules OR are there certain boundaries?
SPILL THE BEANS!