do you often judge people's characters?

here is a list online, that shows a person's character.

however i think that many people just can't live up to this kind of thing...and we're not all perfect for sure..

but there are potentials to see/how a person's character can be scary..

look at the list and see for yourself if you often look at people and judge them up and down, like when you work with someone, you are around them alot, day in and day out so you get a feeling of what type of individual you are dealing with.

do you often fail at this list? Do you think you are a bad person if you even 3 out of 10 don't fit?

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-proven-ways-judge-persons-character.html

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace

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5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition

Frequent errors may indicate apathy

Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you

Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality

Too many question marks can show anger

Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of people still use them.



O_O

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity! Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

Envy or jealousy

Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends

Complaining about their own lack of success

Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure

Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

seems like a long list just to be near perfect...jeeez.

are you any of these above? do you fit all 10?

and if not....are you going to start?

edit over the past lots of people do the blaming alot...blaming others...blame blame...

that's something that is common though. that i notice.

Posted by LovingSeraphina
Jesus Christ.

i know ...i pretty feel like a piece of crap if i even have one flaw. jeeeezzz. 😢

we can't have flaws.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Long list i definitely fit one. Especially on dxp

I didn't read everything else.

I'm going to go now and stab someone

i saw the photo of the ISOLATION...

they say that if you isolate yourself it's BAD!!



then i was..."whew!!✨ i'm not isolated after all, i live with neighbors. (edit - next to them i mean) and talk to them..

that house out in the wildnerness..... supposedly scary people live there.

Posted by LovingSeraphina

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by LovingSeraphina
Jesus Christ.

i know ...i pretty feel like a piece of crap if i even have one flaw. jeeeezzz. 😢

we can't have flaws.

Hey you're pretty perfect 😉

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hmmm dont feel like it.



but you're the more perfect one!!! (notices exclamation points) >__>

@lisabethur

My glasses fogged and I couldn't read all this I suspect...nonsense!

Just saying...so you know I was there for first 5 seconds...

i'm normally too lazy to judge lol

until i am given a reason to

Posted by LovingSeraphina

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Long list i definitely fit one. Especially on dxp

I didn't read everything else.

I'm going to go now and stab someone

i saw the photo of the ISOLATION...

they say that if you isolate yourself it's BAD!!



then i was..."whew!!✨ i'm not isolated after all, i live with neighbors. (edit - next to them i mean) and talk to them..

that house out in the wildnerness..... supposedly scary people live there.

Set in Ireland. Typical Irish rural town. Happens every day! ;P

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or living out in Iceland or something. that's even worse.

we have relatives over there right now, and had family members vacationing there last year as well.

Iceland is the place to go these days. lol