Do You Think Age

Matters when getting married?

Nope as long as you both are emotionally mature about it. Its not a fantasy. Just as doctors "practice" medicine and attorneys "practice" law, married people practice and act like theyre married before the "I do's" are exchanged. No working both sides of the street as in doing the committed to having multiple people because youre afraid to take a chance on a serious and healthy relationship. At that point, you're ready and age wont matter as long as yiu find someone who is the same way

YOLO

Nope as long as you both are emotionally mature about it. Its not a fantasy. Just as doctors "practice" medicine and attorneys "practice" law, married people practice and act like theyre married before the "I do's" are exchanged. No working both sides of the street as in doing the committed to having multiple people because youre afraid to take a chance on a serious and healthy relationship. At that point, you're ready and age wont matter as long as yiu find someone who is the same way

Yes... it has an effect on people's path... People have to be realized like said above with there expectations. If they account for this and understand it... it will be fine but 99% of the time they don't...

I have seen many men marry women that are 1/2 their age... normally it never works out how they expect it to... Most of the time they have really two different ideas of what they want... and as life goes on they realize it more and more...

PM

No it don't matter to me as long as it's a reasonable age. I'm willing to marry 30 something people. Either way marriage shouldn't be pressured. You don't have to get married to be happy or have a long lasting love life. The media loves telling people what to do lol. Not me 😉

In some cases, yes. In other cases, no.

Getting married at 18? Not a good idea. Too immature. Your brain isn't even done growing yet.

I think a marriage has a realistic chance at lasting (REGARDLESS OF AGE)IF both people:
-Have brains that are done growing lol
-Have enough dating experience to know what's out there, & what they do/don't want
-Have matured
-Are getting married to the right person, at the right time for the right reasons
-Have gotten all of the "single life style " out of their system (this is why experience is important)
-Are emotionally/financially/psychologically stable & secure
-Know and love self unconditionally 1st before attempting to love the other unconditionally
-Have truly taken out enough time to get to know each other, thus leading them to feel confident in emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, etc. merging themselves as one

Whatever age 2 people have accomplished that is when 2 people are ready to get married lol If you've done all of that by 19, good for you, go for it lol If it takes you until you're 52, then so be it.

Posted by piscesmoon2
Yes... it has an effect on people's path... People have to be realized like said above with there expectations. If they account for this and understand it... it will be fine but 99% of the time they don't...

I have seen many men marry women that are 1/2 their age... normally it never works out how they expect it to... Most of the time they have really two different ideas of what they want... and as life goes on they realize it more and more...

PM

Agreed... women half their age don't have the same life experience.

They're a different generation-- so on some (or many) things, they can't relate.

I love this point, PM.


+1

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by piscesmoon2
Yes... it has an effect on people's path... People have to be realized like said above with there expectations. If they account for this and understand it... it will be fine but 99% of the time they don't...
I have seen many men marry women that are 1/2 their age... normally it never works out how they expect it to... Most of the time they have really two different ideas of what they want... and as life goes on they realize it more and more...
PM

Agreed... women half their age don't have the same life experience.
They're a different generation-- so on some (or many) things, they can't relate.
I love this point, PM.
+1

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yeahhhhh i get what ya all mean.....but... if the man wants a younger piece, and she just makes his day happier, than someone who is older /same age range, but makes him feel like another buddy, then...he's going to go for the younger woman who makes him feel alive. Or he's going to cheat, because he was desiring that woman and someone forced him to marry or be with a woman he didn't want. Ok ok, that was a bad scenerio but you get what i mean. 😛

besides, falling in love is not logical you know....that is how it is. You don't sit around analyzing and thinking too much into it. When you feel something very strong, you can't help yourself. It is how it is people.

Posted by lisabethur8
besides, falling in love is not logical you know....that is how it is. You don't sit around analyzing and thinking too much into it. When you feel something very strong, you can't help yourself. It is how it is people.

I don't disagree-- but it can still be a pitfall, sometimes.

If you're madly in love, it can be overcome.

And just because they're older does NOT mean they're more mature-- I can testify. o.O

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by lisabethur8
besides, falling in love is not logical you know....that is how it is. You don't sit around analyzing and thinking too much into it. When you feel something very strong, you can't help yourself. It is how it is people.

I don't disagree-- but it can still be a pitfall, sometimes.

If you're madly in love, it can be overcome.

And just because they're older does NOT mean they're more mature-- I can testify. o.O

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lmao 😆 i don't know why i'm in such a giddy happy mood...It's sickening. Sorry about that.

well being madly in love is one thing, but long lasting love is another....and a couple can still be in love into their old age. It's a strong bond/love.

Posted by LilyTree
@NotYourAverageAquarius That's a dangerous lie.

I thought it was rather appropriate for the subject.
😄

What difference does an age gap make if both people act the same age, & are on the same level— If a 25 year old woman & a 45 year old man have the same maturity level, then their age gap isn't the problem & shouldn't matter.

Maturity needs to match & be similar in level, not age.

Age can def. give you a glimpse of the level of maturity someone is most likely to have, but even then those assumptions aren't always correct. Plenty of elders act like children & plenty of our youth have more common sense/street smarts than their parents.

The "2 people should be close in age" theory is only accurate IF all people who are close in age share the same maturity level.

That's not always true.

If a 25 year old woman & a 45 year old man share the same maturity level, they deserve each other! If a man who's older has the maturity/mind of someone much younger, then he's not doing anybody justice by only getting with women his age or older than him.

That's why teenage love is often so powerful & memorable even 50 years later. It's b/c teens are the only age group where 99% of them most likely share the same maturity/mental level, thus when 2 teens get together, they're usually madly in love & fit in with each other just fine!

But if you see that same 17 year old try to be with a 29 year old who's a bit more advanced in maturity than she is, then of course they'll be incompatible.

Posted by LilyTree
Actually, falling in love isn't as "out of our control" as we like to think it is. There are many more logical steps to the process. Many of them happen in our subconscious mind, so we're not actively aware of them. However, simply knowing what the processes are will help you understand and recognize when and why you are choosing (yes, CHOOSING) to fall in love with a specific person.

AGREED! +1000

You don't just meet someone & fall in love with them the same day. That's not how cognitive psychology regarding love works.

It takes communication (CHOICE)
It takes effort (CHOICE)
It takes engaging in conversation or activities that encourage subconscious & emotional connection (CHOICE)
It takes time (CHOICE--No one made you sit there & keep entertaining them)
It takes a willingness to listen, be open & believe that what they're telling/showing you is as good as you want to believe it is (CHOICE--you have 100% control over what you choose to/not believe)

And the list goes on & on.

It takes several conscious CHOICES before falling in love. Now hey, once you fall in love & wanna pretend like you have no control of yourself, fine. But don't skip over the fact that before you gave up your panties & your heart, you def. made a series of conscious CHOICES that lead you to that moment

Whether or not you made the right CHOICE in the long run is a different story, but nonetheless, let's be clear, you landed in their arms by CHOICE