Friendship Breakup

For the context. I (32F, Libra sun, aries moon and sag rising) have been friends with him (30M) for over 10 years. We have had our fare share of great times, memories and fights too. But we were always there for each other. For me he is the closest person (almost like a best friend) because I hardly have friends and im an introvert and I like my solitude. I enjoy his company and nobody else's.

We had our ups and downs where we disliked each other during phases, again got back to being normal because we were always strong.

We recently had an argument where he called me bad things and later apologized and I did too and we mend up things and even met and spent time. After a week, he blocked me from everywhere (literally everywhere).

I have been trying to reach out to him since over 2 weeks but no success. Whatsapp, ig, phone everwhere im blocked. Somehow I wasn't blocked on FB and so I messaged there. Finally he replied today and this is what he wrote.

"Its nothing personal. I just dont want this friendship. Its a choice and I think I can make it. Its only because you have been trying to reach out to me for so long im even texting back. If you had any respect for me kindly dont reach out to me. I appreciate it. You will not get a response."

Im so deeply hurt and idk what to do. I have no idea why he would hurt me like this even though he knows everything about me. Also, he is leaving the country in November and he just ended everything without giving any proper explanation.

I am literally dying every single moment and its killing me. He means a lot to me and I don't wanna lose him.

How to cope up with friendship breakup? Please lord help me.

It's kinda weird for someone to break off a friendship over 10 years and not give any explanation. Makes me think there's more to the story? What was the fight about?

Maybe the friendship was one-sided? Or it has something to do with him leaving the country. He likes you more than a friend and see no future and doesn't want to be friends anymore and move on?

More details needed.

Otherwise, this is closure. Grieve however you need to, take your time and slowly let it go.

Are you guys just platonic friends or have you been sexually/romantically involved?

Friendships break because people change. Or maybe there was a side to him you never knew. Even though it hurts now, it won’t be that way forever.

Friends are those who live close enough to meet up from time to time.

But he's leaving the country in November!!

Also, your relationship was kind of broken. He called you "bad things" recently. We need more info about what really happen between you two, to be able to form an opinion.

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Posted by Undine
Friends are those who live close enough to meet up from time to time.

Not necessarily. My two closest friends are from childhood that are basically my brother and sister, and live on the other side the world and one is an ocean apart.

Real friends have no distance or feel that time hasn't passed and can pick up where you have left off.

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Not everyone has the time and energy to keep long distance friendships.

Friends are for visiting each other, going out with, eating and drinking with, doing activities with. They are not just an image on a screen. Or some bla bla bla twice a year.

Posted by rnbsoul92
For the context. I (32F, Libra sun, aries moon and sag rising) have been friends with him (30M) for over 10 years. We have had our fare share of great times, memories and fights too. But we were always there for each other. For me he is the closest person (almost like a best friend) because I hardly have friends and im an introvert and I like my solitude. I enjoy his company and nobody else's.

We had our ups and downs where we disliked each other during phases, again got back to being normal because we were always strong.

We recently had an argument where he called me bad things and later apologized and I did too and we mend up things and even met and spent time. After a week, he blocked me from everywhere (literally everywhere).

I have been trying to reach out to him since over 2 weeks but no success. Whatsapp, ig, phone everwhere im blocked. Somehow I wasn't blocked on FB and so I messaged there. Finally he replied today and this is what he wrote.

"Its nothing personal. I just dont want this friendship. Its a choice and I think I can make it. Its only because you have been trying to reach out to me for so long im even texting back. If you had any respect for me kindly dont reach out to me. I appreciate it. You will not get a response."

Im so deeply hurt and idk what to do. I have no idea why he would hurt me like this even though he knows everything about me. Also, he is leaving the country in November and he just ended everything without giving any proper explanation.

I am literally dying every single moment and its killing me. He means a lot to me and I don't wanna lose him.

How to cope up with friendship breakup? Please lord help me.

What was the fights about in detail.

What he said, what you said in chronological order.

Then you can give your emotional responses.

Then about your previous spats and any that relate to this final confrontation.

Because people don't just do this...ever

There is a reason and being a guy with female friends, I can tell you it's got to be a undermining issue that's been recurring you don't realise or a issie you didn't take seriously that was that big of a issue.

Posted by rnbsoul92
For the context. I (32F, Libra sun, aries moon and sag rising) have been friends with him (30M) for over 10 years. We have had our fare share of great times, memories and fights too. But we were always there for each other. For me he is the closest person (almost like a best friend) because I hardly have friends and im an introvert and I like my solitude. I enjoy his company and nobody else's.

We had our ups and downs where we disliked each other during phases, again got back to being normal because we were always strong.

We recently had an argument where he called me bad things and later apologized and I did too and we mend up things and even met and spent time. After a week, he blocked me from everywhere (literally everywhere).

I have been trying to reach out to him since over 2 weeks but no success. Whatsapp, ig, phone everwhere im blocked. Somehow I wasn't blocked on FB and so I messaged there. Finally he replied today and this is what he wrote.

"Its nothing personal. I just dont want this friendship. Its a choice and I think I can make it. Its only because you have been trying to reach out to me for so long im even texting back. If you had any respect for me kindly dont reach out to me. I appreciate it. You will not get a response."

Im so deeply hurt and idk what to do. I have no idea why he would hurt me like this even though he knows everything about me. Also, he is leaving the country in November and he just ended everything without giving any proper explanation.

I am literally dying every single moment and its killing me. He means a lot to me and I don't wanna lose him.

How to cope up with friendship breakup? Please lord help me.

What was the fights about in detail.

What he said, what you said in chronological order.

Then you can give your emotional responses.

Then about your previous spats and any that relate to this final confrontation.

Because people don't just do this...ever

There is a reason and being a guy with female friends, I can tell you it's got to be a undermining issue that's been recurring you don't realise.

Whats his sun & moon sign

I personally think a friendship is 100 times harder to end then a physical relationship. I honestly have no real answer. For me if a close friend stopped responding to me I would be extremely upset, and feel deeply betrayed. At the same time if you're over the age of 30 you have to force yourself to be an adult in those type of situations. If they don't want to be in your life anymore, fuck them. If they come around a few months later and act like an adult, refuel the old friendship. I personally don't feel like if things go silent for a bit the friendship is instantly over. Maybe they just need some time and space. If they never come around and stay silent, I would consider that deep betrayal and enough to cut them out of my life indefinitely. It sucks especially when 30+ because real friends truly take years to develop. At the same time your personal time a life is more important than some person who randomly wants to be petty.

He's been watching yt videos about how men and women can't be friends

Posted by Liminalspace

Posted by Undine

Posted by Liminalspace

Posted by Undine
Friends are those who live close enough to meet up from time to time.

Not necessarily. My two closest friends are from childhood that are basically my brother and sister, and live on the other side the world and one is an ocean apart.
Real friends have no distance or feel that time hasn't passed and can pick up where you have left off.
click to expand

Not everyone has the time and energy to keep long distance friendships.
Friends are for visiting each other, going out with, eating and drinking with, doing activities with. They are not just an image on a screen. Or some bla bla bla twice a year.


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Rather have real friends twice a year and occasional phone calls when needed, than fake friends who only want to do fun things and will drop someone at moments notice without explanation. Who needs enemies with friends like these.

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People having fun are not fake. Relaxing or being active together are good for both mental and physical health.

Friends are those actively present into our life. The rest are acquaintances. Or former friends we barely keep in touch with.