Have few things in common w/ someone you dated?

Have you ever dated someone who you had few things in common with?

How did it work?
Do you think it could work if there were other elements in the relationship making the relationship work?

we had sex incomon it lasted about three months I guess you could say we had drinking also.

I think it all depends on what you do/don't have in common. It's always best to have similiar hobbies or interests in common but if you don't, it's not like your relationship is doomed. I say this b/c hobbies/interests change all the time, thus there's no way to keep up for ever.

Having similar personality traits in common is more important though. There should always be similarities in morals, goals, opinions, core beliefs, values, character.

My husband & I had nothing in common when we 1st met. In the beginning, he'd be dragging on about something that I had NO idea about & vice versa. BUT, over time, I grew to appreciate the things he had a passion for, thus I started taking interests in certain things that he liked eventually & vice versa. In other words, after being together for so long, NOW we have alot more in common than we did when we 1st started dating.

Wow Tate, as long as all that?

Yeah I have very little in common with the Libra I've been on & off with for 8 years now...


I'm from a small suburb - nothing really happens here - was just a little cow town most of it's history.
He's from big cities - born in Trenton, raised in Camden/Cherry Hill, NJ.

I was a good christian girl, overachiever, etc.
He was kind of a bad boy, always in trouble, his mom had no control over him, steps away from being in jail/boys home all the time.

I'm artistic, he's athletic.
I'm a little on the quiet and reserved side, he's very loud and outgoing.

He'll talk to anyone, he's very good at small talk.
I am too awkward for small talk - I suck at, and don't typically care to, talk to strangers.

I'm all about finishing my degree and getting into a career I love - money is not a huge issue for me.
He's all about working for himself, making papaaaahh - has very little desire to finish his education (I'm the only reason he's going to school.)

He's kind of ghetto,
I'm kind of not at all. Lol


The list could go on and on... 🙂


It works because we balance each other. We make a good team. What I lack, he's got, and vice versa.
It's not always a bad thing. Having a lot in common is great for friendship...but it doesn't always mean they're a good partner/match for you. Some people NEED someone different from them.

Also, what Bling said. 😛

I like some sense of familiarity as far as culture is concerned, but having your own identity in a relationship is always good.

The important thing is compromise. He has weird music tastes, is not a "people" person. He loves hanging out in his "man cave". I am more outgoing and affectionate than he is. But he will go see a movie with me that I like. He will watch a TV show with me that he hates...lol. I will listen to HIS music and sometimes enjoy it. We both like the same restaurants. We can talk to each other through the night.(Amongst other things 😉). He is one of those rare men who keeps in communication with me daily. Listens to me talk about my bad day. I am learning patience through him. We balance each other.

Posted by krysrenee7
I think it all depends on what you do/don't have in common. It's always best to have similiar hobbies or interests in common but if you don't, it's not like your relationship is doomed. I say this b/c hobbies/interests change all the time, thus there's no way to keep up for ever.

Having similar personality traits in common is more important though. There should always be similarities in morals, goals, opinions, core beliefs, values, character.

My husband & I had nothing in common when we 1st met. In the beginning, he'd be dragging on about something that I had NO idea about & vice versa. BUT, over time, I grew to appreciate the things he had a passion for, thus I started taking interests in certain things that he liked eventually & vice versa. In other words, after being together for so long, NOW we have alot more in common than we did when we 1st started dating.

I like this one. Really great insight. Sounds like my parents 🙂

In the beginning it doesn't matter, you are crazy about each other and you don't see the others faults or if you do you gladly overlook them .... But as the relationship wears on, the honeymoon period fades and maybe you even have a family... You start to see things differently and the fact that you have nothing in common or like the same things end up being the wedge that drives you further and further apart!