How do you respond?

Lets say someone has been distant with you so you take a few steps back as well & when you do finally talk with them they comment about you not contacting them? Is it too forward to say that you are not going to put your time and energy in where it is not being reciprocated? Or do you just tell them you've been busy & leave it at that? Or other suggestions? Or on the flip side....how would you want to be told if you were the one who was being distant?

If they comment about me not contacting them I'd comment back saying i am contacting you now yes? Is that too much for you to handle?

It wouldnt be too much to say that I wouldnt put my effort and energy into someone who isnt there for me

I would tell them that if i were and maybe leave it at that depends on how they are really

suggestions on what? being distant? By the other person being honest about how they feel about 'distant'
and talking to me about it and how do you respond? Like this sitting down and talking it over with them although its abit hard to do that over the internet not the same thing

Ugh...those yo-yo games. They can be very exhausting if it continues to be a pattern. Tis up to you if you're up for that.

Agree w/dj - best to say hey been busy what's up.

Don't think I would mind someone pointing out to me that I've been distant. We Tauri's have a tendency to become fixated on one thing at a time 😛 ...unless they did something to piss me off then I'm deliberately being distant = pissed.

Might depend on who initiates the first contact after the distance.

If it were them who initiated contact first and they confronted me: If the reason I was distant was because they were being distant and they confronted me about it, I probably would say something along the lines of "it appeared as if you needed space, so I gave it to you".

If it were me who initiated contact and was confronted: Then I would say "been silly crazy busy".

Nothing ever wrong with being honest. Might lead to a clearing of the air conversation, would clear up misunderstandings and could make things better.

It jsut difficult to understand where the other is coming from half the time and once this cleared up then its ok

Posted by scorpgal76
Lets say someone has been distant with you so you take a few steps back as well & when you do finally talk with them they comment about you not contacting them?

That sounds like projection...or they are deliberately being distant to see if you'll chase them. It's usually all downhill from there, assuming this is relationship related.

Posted by scorpgal76

Lets say someone has been distant with you so you take a few steps back as well ...

To start this off with, "Let's say" .... suggests a hypothetical situation.

If you're talking about yourself, and addressed it hypothetically, then it means you also likely embellished.

Second ... considering that you're a Scorpio, this person being distant could actually be equivalent to a mere few minutes of your demands not being met.

We all know Scorps, and we all know that once you become entrenched in your own feelings .... you become extremely irrational .... so, his being distant could very well mean he has gone silent for an hour, AND taking into consideration that you haven't presented the situation, rather made a hypothetical one, it becomes obvious that there's probably very little truth in what you say.