He's just not that into you

I loved his book & the movie

He got so much backlash for it though b/c there's always that 1 person who was the exception. He wasn't talking about the exception to the rules. He's talking about the majority of cases. He's talking about the fact that 95% of the time, if a guy doesn't call you for a month, it's b/c he's not that into you. But yet there was some woman in Spain claiming, "Well that's not true b/c my now husband didn't call me for a month 1 time 5 years ago." lol It's like that's great, but most women won't and DON'T have that outcome.

Telling someone to be "realistic" doesn't mean that there's never gonna be anybody who defied the odds. Plenty of people defy the odds, but most people don't! It's when you can do the math & realize objectively that the chances of something being the result is highly unlikely (or likely) that defines what being realistic is all about

He's like the person who writes a book about how you shouldn't leave your doors unlocked. There's always gonna be that 1 person who comes along & says, "Nuh uh! I leave my doors unlocked all the time & I've never been robbed before." That may be true, BUT is it responsible or even rational to then go start advising people that leaving their doors unlocked is a good idea? Hell no!

So I agree with him. Certain signals or red flags usually breed certain realities or results. Not necessarily "always" but "usually." I like paying more attention to what happens the majority of the time vs. what happens only 1% of the time

@sunshine222

17 Years

Who the h*ll cares what he called his kids..I just wanna hear what he has to say. He might be right and frankly I can use all the knowledge I can about how men think...they confuse the h*ll out of me...

Posted by thescepter

Posted by krysrenee7
But yet there was some woman in Spain claiming, "Well that's not true b/c my now husband didn't call me for a month 1 time 5 years ago." lol It's like that's great, but most women won't and DON'T have that outcome.

just because he's not into you, doesn't mean you can't get him.

^damn i should write this book. the art of slaying.
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If you wanna go around advising women to keep chasing after a man who's showing that he's not interested, then be my guest. There's already a lot of broken hearts going around b/c women are doing this already smh

Posted by thescepter
yes i do coz i'm totally a writer!

omg the poor clueless wimminz with their broken hearts! 😭

lol

There's already too many women doing this as it is & the reason they're still F'd up 5 relationships later is b/c they've been conditioned to resorting to solutions that don't even work & actually cause more damage/hurt than the initial rejection from the guy did!

Behavior speaks volumes! It's much better for a person to go into any situation automatically assuming that if a person really wants something bad enough (keyword is ENOUGH), they'll do anything to get it. There's nothing irrational about a woman no longer wanting to entertain/chase a man that is clearly giving her signals that he doesn't want her enough or at all.

There are over 7 billion people on this earth. To sit & wait on or chase the person who can't decide whether or not you're worth anything is a mistake & a waste of time; not only that, but waiting just to come up empty handed & be upset with them AND yourself at the end of it all is damaging to the self-esteem & to the person's sense of how to effectively go about dating & getting the partner they want AND deserve.

Who you want & who deserves you are 2 different things!

Posted by thescepter

Posted by krysrenee7
But yet there was some woman in Spain claiming, "Well that's not true b/c my now husband didn't call me for a month 1 time 5 years ago." lol It's like that's great, but most women won't and DON'T have that outcome.

just because he's not into you, doesn't mean you can't get him.

^damn i should write this book. the art of slaying.
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Lmao. Sometimes i feel that Krys is playing with us w/ her wordplay. Confusing us poor folks.

this is how i imagine listening to Krys after a long talk:

a Reallllllyyyyyy realllyyyyy lonnnnggg taallllkkkkkk.....

^_~

It is as if you guys think my sole purpose on this earth or on this website is to impress you or gain your approval lol

I'm just like everybody else. I say how I feel, say what I want & express both in the way I f'ing want to. You don't have to like it. You're just another anonymous faceless internet user behind a computer screen somewhere in the world. Doesn't make a difference to me *shrugs*

@sunshine222

17 Years

Oh yea yea I know all that stuff already too. Just wanna watch out of curiosity. And in spite of

knowing all that stuff already...men still confuse me.

Posted by soultalk
i think i have this book, don't remember

http://www.catchhimandkeephim.com/

Do these self-help books actually help?

It's very suspiciously similar to the one, "Men marry bitches."

Posted by Arielle83
i read that book and it honestly just teaches a woman to take care of herself first, and to do what's right for her without the OBSESSING over a guy who is too busy to include you in his life...

Women over-analyze shit too much...he just breaks it down that men are simple and chicks need to chill and do more for themselves...if your build up ur self-esteem and life, he will come

i've never read one of these books but i have peeked on the online quotes and summaries.

All women need is a good couple glasses of wine, or a good chardoney, pinot, or maybe some extra strong whiskey, a good tote, and she doesn't have to do all that ridiculous analyzing that will drive anyone up the ying yang.