If A Guy...

Did what I'm about to suggest, what would you think ladies?

Here's the situation -


I've been tutoring a family friend part-time this paast year. I usually meet him up at the college library, then we head to the lounge to work. That's for my benefit, in case I dont have reading material, there's computers to use in there. So it gives me something to occupy my time when waiting for him.

Anyway, I was sitting down in a two chair seat in the study center area of the library. Across from me is another two chair seat. I had been waiting for him going maybe 10 minutes when this really gorgeous blonde sat down across.

I had no plans of approaching at first. But now and again out ofhe corner of my eye, I caught her blatantly checking me out more than once. There was no one else behind me she was looking at, cause my chair is up against a wall. Due to the fact we were in a study area I couldnt approach her like normal. After about 10 more minutes, she got up and left.

The thought didnt occur to me until after the fact about slipping her a note.


Her's my question girls. You're in a study area where talking is frowned upon, but there's a guy you like. If he slipped a note saying something like this -

"I dont mean to scare you, but I noticed you coming in earlier. But I couldnt come and say hello since we're in a study area. If you ever want to talk like maybe what you were working on, feel free to email me at blabla@hotmail.com
Sincerely,
My Name"

And then left, what would you think? Is it still too weird for you even though talking isnt necessarily allowed in a environment like that?

I figured leaving an email addy is better than a number. Cause most girls are too shy to make a call. Just want to if a note is still out of bounds even though its a special circumstance.

^^^ i third that. xoj

I'd rather you approach me. A note would probably turn me off, if I'm being honest.

Kicking game in a place where you aren't allowed to makes it all the more HAWT! 🙂

Well if you explained to her why you felt writing to her would be more beneficial, then I don't see the problem. If you don't explain to her exactly why you chose to write her vs. actually saying something to her face to face, she might assume that you weren't man enough to directly approach her. In other words, she might see the written approach as a passive/aggressive approach. You writing her that small note sounds fine, especially if you keep it short, sweet & to the point. She already gave you the eye contact & spoke to you through her body language so I don't see why she'd all of the sudden reject you. Now if you write her the note & keep chosing to communicate with her in such a fashion, THEN there might be a problem. Another suggestion would be to signal for her (quietly) to follow you to another room where talking isn't such a distraction to others. If you pull her to the side & to another room and THEN start talking to her, your chances of getting a good reaction/response from her are just as good. Just go into this situation with confidence. Personally, I would hate for the beginning of my connection with someone else to start through email chatting (b/c I'm a face to face kind of person) but then again, you've gotta do what you've gotta do & if getting her attention through writing her a note is the only way you feel you'll get her attention, then do what you've gotta do. If she's really interested in you & if her staring at you meant what you thought it meant then technically you shouldn't have any problems. Remember though that women sometimes have too much pride to contact the male period, regardless of the method of contact. If a woman is too afraid to contact the male 1st through the phone, then she'll probably hesistate just as much if she has to make the 1st move through an email.

i wouldn't think a note from a guy at the library was creepy. buuuuuuuut i would never ever email him or innitiate contact even if he was hot and i was attracted to him. if he talked to me first and got my email i would probably talk to him

The only reason I would have put "I dont mean to scare you" is to defuse what would potentially come off as a weird and uncomfortable act in her eyes. Till she reads the rest of the note. I do use "I dont mean to scare you but I noticed you earlier and I would have been kicking myself all day if I didnt say hello bit when I cold approach a girl during the day. But its always carried with strong tone and body language from my end. It took a while for me to get that point, but I can at least that is successfully pulled off

I aint going to lie, there was some approach anxiety on my part. But had I not been in a quiet environment, that would have been overcome. The problem with approaching her in that kind of setting is how small it is. There were at least 5 people sitting in close proximity. And that factor might make her self-conscious, thus not being as receptive to a normal approach.

Its good to know a note can work though. But I promise you, try talking out loud ifor more than a minute in a study area of a library and see how fast you'll get thrown out.