Insecure about my boyfriend’s ex.

Almost a week ago, I saw my boyfriend’s ex on his instagram’s search history when I was using his phone for something. Since then, I’ve been feeling all kinds of insecure which is leading me to overthink and is taking a toll on my everyday life. I was always a bit like this in the beginning of the relationship since his most recent ex is his longest relationship. I have never forced him to stay away, block her or like not talk about her because that would make no difference if he himself doesn’t decide to wipe her away from his life. I heard they had a great relationship and the girl broke up under a huge misunderstanding and both stayed single for a few months, depressed and shit, sometimes talking to each other.

I do trust how strong our relationship is and that no ex is going to come and break it but i don’t know what’s wrong, recently he hasn’t been giving me as much time and attention he used to. That makes me worry about all the bs way more than I should. I’ve discussed about this to him and he thinks he hasn’t changed anything and has been spending time with me, etc.

We used to always talk to each other at night but that stopped, he kept giving excuses about being too tired, busy. I didn’t push him any further and went along with my life. One day, I was talking to a guy friend and he happened to call “at night” which he stopped doing because he saw me online on Facebook. He got really pissed about that and I understand that. He thinks that’s a form of cheating when I think following every move of an ex while in a relationship is also cheating.

That's what IG is for. Stalking people. They stalk you back. I stalk my ex lovers too. Exsp my pisces. He posts hot pictures of himself building things of course I look lol. Doesn't mean we are hooking up though. Everyone does that.

I wouldn't take it personal.

The distancing may be a concern though. Maybe he is really upset by the male friend?



Emotional cheating is real but a gray area. Everyone has a different Idea what that looks like. From your post sounds like other men talking to you at night isn't okay by him.



And maybe him checking up on his ex isn't okay with you?



You'll have to talk it out with each other and find out what boundaries are for your relationship.