Is This Reason Ok For Women for Why A Guy is a 40 Yr Old Virgin...

I have a unusual reason of why I am still a virgin at 40 years old. I have been on dates gotten as far as kissing and fingering.

Almost was even in a committed relationship without sleeping with the girl.

So, heres what happened with that girl This was back in my 20's. We were about to get intimate for the first time but as soon as she saw my neither regions it was downhill from there. All of a sudden her mood changed and told me she had to bounce.

For a few days I heard nothing from her and assumed I got ghosted. Then I got an apologetic email from her explaining she couldnt date me as I was too small for her. Which was obvious from when she looked at it. And she cant be in a relationship with someone that has that kind of size.

It was brutal but honest which I respected. After that I measured my size when erect and it was 5 inches barely.

I got interest from other girls but would panic when we would get intimate and break it off. Assuming they would with me when seeing it. Fretting over my size pretty much screwed up dating to where I stopped and assumed I was going to be alone forever due to my size.

For whatever misguided reason I've decided to try dating again, but I am very anxious. I feel like now if I get physically intimate with a girl I need to do a confessional regarding my size a head of time.

Is that too awkward to do even if you already kissed? I am really reluctant to get what remaining self esteem I have ripped to shreds.

I am getting interest from attractive younger women but have been reluctant to seal the deal for getting a date

I dont want to end up being a subject of a joke like Ali Wong did about a guy she dated who was smaller.

Im starting to wonder if using an escort who wont judge me and just be resolved to a life of no dating is the best way to go.

BTW Im new here and had to bump to see if my post is showing in the forum