Why does llhe do this? Is it a power thing?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Deedee75 on Sunday, February 2, 2020 and has 7 replies.

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14 Years

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

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14 Years

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

I wouldn't worry about it, I do it too.

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I have a tendency to overanalyze.

Why do you do it?

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14 Years

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

I wouldn't worry about it, I do it too.

I have a tendency to overanalyze.

Why do you do it?

Because I've got shit to do as well, the world doesn't revolve around needy people all the time.

Contrary to popular opinion here but some people have lives.

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Harsh

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14 Years

Posted by Mesquite

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Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

I wouldn't worry about it, I do it too.

I have a tendency to overanalyze.

Why do you do it?

Because I've got shit to do as well, the world doesn't revolve around needy people all the time.

Contrary to popular opinion here but some people have lives.

Harsh

...but honest and necessary.

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I can appreciate that

Needy would be me actually saying this stuff to him.

Instead, I whine to you guys so he doesn't know that I am going over every detail in my head

But seriously though.....we are long distance which makes things tough. I would really appreciate a good morning and/or goodnight. We don't have to chat every day but a 3 second text would be nice. I don't think that's asking too much.

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14 Years

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

I wouldn't worry about it, I do it too.

I have a tendency to overanalyze.

Why do you do it?

Because I've got shit to do as well, the world doesn't revolve around needy people all the time.

Contrary to popular opinion here but some people have lives.

Not only that but after 5 days I’d need a reprieve

Like the fuk you want me to say hello for

Let me breathe

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We are in a serious enough relationship where a quick daily text or phone call is appropriate. If we weren't so far apart, things would be different. We would do our thing and meet up at home later. Long distance is tough.

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14 Years

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

I wouldn't worry about it, I do it too.

I have a tendency to overanalyze.

Why do you do it?

Because I've got shit to do as well, the world doesn't revolve around needy people all the time.

Contrary to popular opinion here but some people have lives.

Harsh

...but honest and necessary.

I can appreciate that

Needy would be me actually saying this stuff to him.

Instead, I whine to you guys so he doesn't know that I am going over every detail in my head

But seriously though.....we are long distance which makes things tough. I would really appreciate a good morning and/or goodnight. We don't have to chat every day but a 3 second text would be nice. I don't think that's asking too much.

Then ask him to do that for you and let it go from there.

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He knows how I feel which is what my post was about. It's almost like a power thing.

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14 Years

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by Deedee75

So my Sag and I spent a perfect five days together. But now that I'm home, I've barely heard from him. Thursday called but nothing yesterday or today. I sent a few messages that have been read.

He is very busy moving this weekend so I wasn't expecting much but a hello would be nice.

I don't doubt his feelings for me but this drives me crazy and he knows it. This isn't the first time. Now, I'm just choosing not to say anything. It feels like a power move. Almost like was too sweet so now he needs to pull back and reclaim his manliness (if that makes sense). He's very alpha, masculine and likes to dominate.

And yes, I notice the typos but too late now

I wouldn't worry about it, I do it too.

I have a tendency to overanalyze.

Why do you do it?

Because I've got shit to do as well, the world doesn't revolve around needy people all the time.

Contrary to popular opinion here but some people have lives.

Harsh

...but honest and necessary.

I can appreciate that

Needy would be me actually saying this stuff to him.

Instead, I whine to you guys so he doesn't know that I am going over every detail in my head

But seriously though.....we are long distance which makes things tough. I would really appreciate a good morning and/or goodnight. We don't have to chat every day but a 3 second text would be nice. I don't think that's asking too much.

Then ask him to do that for you and let it go from there.

He knows how I feel which is what my post was abutl. It's almost like a power thing.

Everyone has free will. But only you can judge if he's really doing that to screw with you.

I'm just being honest that usually I've got stuff to do and need to focus.

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I like your explanation much better than where my mind was going so I'll take it