Very true. So many people have this "IMAGE" or perfect picture of what they want their ultimate partner to be/look like. And hey that's fine. The problem though is that some might have an image that is far too unrealistic, so much so that they become unwilling to accept anything less than the perfect image in their head. And when people get like this, they assume that pushing away those who are "less" than what they want, that they are saving themselves from some sort of settling or heartbreak. BUT, that's not true. So many people have forgotten the simple things like how a person naturally makes you feel when you're around them. How calm your spirit feels when they're around you. No, nowdays, people have this big list of what their perfect person is supposed to be like, whether that list involves what kind of car, job or appearance that person should have. And all the while, they'll have good & devoted people all around them the whole time that they're not fully focusing on. So many people can use what they already HAVE & make the perfect love from it. So many people don't understand why they're still single OR atleast why their relationships/friendships never seem to work out. And it's b/c we can spend so much time writing out an "image" list that we naturally forget to cherish the ones we already have in our lives. Some people won't settle for less than a 10 or for less than what their image portrays. Well that's all good & well, BUT if the best you're going to get is an 8 (in which that person might already be in your life) but yet we skip over that person & act as if that 8 isn't good enough, it's no wonder why we're all still "searching."
It may not be planed my lov but I tend to keep a tight restraint on my sex life believe it or not I have turned down a romp in the sack from some very attritive women because I thought they got to drunked up and slept around a bit to much.
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