MiaSangria
@MiaSangria
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Men, how do you feel about kissing/making out?
i'd rather cuddle/kiss/talk than have sex. it's not that i don't like sex but it's just not as important to me as some of the other stuff.
i feel like sex actually distracts me from getting closer to someone....i don't know why i feel this way....i'm pretty sure i'm straight and i'm 100% physically attracted to my wife but...i sometimes feel like i'm objectifying her if i demand sex from her....i don't want her to think i'm a pervert and stuff...and she's not the type to initiate it either...i don't know what the hell is wrong with me lol
sun-aries (march 22)
moon-gemini
anyhow,
kissing/cuddling shouldn't feel any less special after you've had sex with that person...if kissing and cuddling start to feel like a chore or a boring process that you have to go through in order to get the ''big prize'' (sex)...then maybe it's a sign that he/she doesn't genuinely enjoy being with you...you need to find a guy who cherishes the time he gets to spend with you. every minute, every second of your time together. he needs to feel like it's a privilege to have you as his gf/wife/whatever. he shouldn't demand or expect sex from you every single time you're together if he truly loves you.
i hope ive answered ur question haha
i feel like sex actually distracts me from getting closer to someone....i don't know why i feel this way....i'm pretty sure i'm straight and i'm 100% physically attracted to my wife but...i sometimes feel like i'm objectifying her if i demand sex from her....i don't want her to think i'm a pervert and stuff...and she's not the type to initiate it either...i don't know what the hell is wrong with me lol
sun-aries (march 22)
moon-gemini
anyhow,
kissing/cuddling shouldn't feel any less special after you've had sex with that person...if kissing and cuddling start to feel like a chore or a boring process that you have to go through in order to get the ''big prize'' (sex)...then maybe it's a sign that he/she doesn't genuinely enjoy being with you...you need to find a guy who cherishes the time he gets to spend with you. every minute, every second of your time together. he needs to feel like it's a privilege to have you as his gf/wife/whatever. he shouldn't demand or expect sex from you every single time you're together if he truly loves you.
i hope ive answered ur question haha
by the way what i wrote up there isn't an indication of how other aries guys will act because most of them LOVE sex. lol i'm just weird like i said so don't take my example seriously.
Well it depends on my mood really. Eye contact/kissing/flirtatious gestures are all good. And sometimes this Is used as a tool if sex is 90% on the table and needs a little push. But If that isn't my aim then being close or occasionally kissing is sufficient enough. But I have to feel a connection and comfortable enough to enable any of this as far a truly intimate and just not superficial.
I think it all depends on each man's level of comfort with affection (especially PDA) as well as the level of importance they place on it.
Of course the men who don't place a high level of importance on affection may only engage in kissing when they have ulterior motives OR when they need to do it just to get certain "benefits"
But for the guys who want AND need affection regardless, I think these types of guys will probably measure how much they feel the need to kiss alot based on how strong their feelings are for each woman they're dealing with.
I can def. tell though the difference b/w a man whose kissing the woman he's using/isn't too serious with vs. the girl he's madly in love with. Idk, there's just something different & more intense in the kisses he'll give to the woman he actually cares for, vs. the chick he's just putting on a front for all b/c he wants sex or something else.
Of course the men who don't place a high level of importance on affection may only engage in kissing when they have ulterior motives OR when they need to do it just to get certain "benefits"
But for the guys who want AND need affection regardless, I think these types of guys will probably measure how much they feel the need to kiss alot based on how strong their feelings are for each woman they're dealing with.
I can def. tell though the difference b/w a man whose kissing the woman he's using/isn't too serious with vs. the girl he's madly in love with. Idk, there's just something different & more intense in the kisses he'll give to the woman he actually cares for, vs. the chick he's just putting on a front for all b/c he wants sex or something else.
I love to just make eye contact and kiss, nibble and be playful and sensual but I guess its also a 'given' that if you're already having sex in the relationship that is where its going to lead b/c its so hot and enjoyable your passions rise and thats where you end up wanting it to go.
I also agree w/ you krysrenee that it does depend a lot on the individuals level of comfort w/ intimacy and affection and a lot of men arent in touch w/ that.
HOWEVER, I've been pleasantly surprised by the answers the men have given here 🙂
I wonder if the need/desire for that decreases w/ age or the length of the relationship. It doesnt for me but I've experenced the decline from a partner even when in a solid loving relationship. Maybe some people feel its not "necessary" after a point? Maybe I want too much of it!
I also agree w/ you krysrenee that it does depend a lot on the individuals level of comfort w/ intimacy and affection and a lot of men arent in touch w/ that.
HOWEVER, I've been pleasantly surprised by the answers the men have given here 🙂
I wonder if the need/desire for that decreases w/ age or the length of the relationship. It doesnt for me but I've experenced the decline from a partner even when in a solid loving relationship. Maybe some people feel its not "necessary" after a point? Maybe I want too much of it!
Kissing is a gateway to sex .... men know that. They will tell you they like it for other reasons, in fact, they will tell you anything you want to hear ... so long as the gateway to sex is open.
Posted by wineauxPosted by QLIbraMale
Kissing is like a doorway to emotions, Hugging is like a doorway to comfort, Holding Hands is like a doorway to connections, Lusting is like a doorway to dat Ass.
this is AWESOME!click to expand
HA! LUV IT! 🙂
Posted by MiaSangriaPosted by wineauxPosted by QLIbraMale
Kissing is like a doorway to emotions, Hugging is like a doorway to comfort, Holding Hands is like a doorway to connections, Lusting is like a doorway to dat Ass.
this is AWESOME!
HA! LUV IT! 🙂click to expand
Lol I know I awwed and then laughed too 😆.
Posted by 69virgoPosted by P-Angel
Kissing is a gateway to sex .... men know that. They will tell you they like it for other reasons, in fact, they will tell you anything you want to hear ... so long as the gateway to sex is open.
Is it a gateway to your flower p?..😛click to expand
😆! Virgo knows how to rub P's bottle. Work that angle, she likes it! Otherwise she wouldn't be so obsessed with it.
Posted by QuietSt0rm
I like to kiss but not that much. :/ I'll admit the only time I want to tongue kiss is either before or during sex.
Otherwise, a peck on the lips will suffice.
For some reason its nice to see a female who thinks of it as 'functional' 😉
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