Posted by P-Angel
He's a truck driver .. while he was away across country, I moved his stuff into my place .. when he returned and went home, his mother told him ... You don't live here
He called me .... and I told him where his home is.
That was in 1982 .. he's still here
Posted by krysrenee7
I would never move in with someone UNLESS I was atleast engaged to them. I can love my man to the ends of the earth; that doesn't mean that I have to move in with him just to prove that. I don't believe in "playing house" unless there's OFFICIALLY going to be a "household" coming soon where we'd both live in it as a MARRIED couple.
I've seen more HORROR stories than I have success stories. Plus, I pay more attention the statistics/facts moreso than anything. The statistics on this kind of stuff speak for itself.
So many people think that simply "loving someone" is enough grounds for moving in with them. And I personally believe that this is the WRONG mindset. After all, we can all love 10 people in our entire lifetimes; that doesn't mean that we should've moved in with all 10 of those people simply b/c we loved them.
People have this mentality that moving in with someone well help them to weed out all the bad in the other person. Seems like the only reason people want to live together before marriage has more to deal with trying to "find" something out (usually negative). There's more ways to finding out someone's "TRUE COLORS" other than just living with them.
Some (NOT ALL) women get more controlling, jealous, possessive & insecure when they move in with their partners; they no longer understand or accept their man's need for privacy. They convince themselves that the relationship is def. "official" & that they no longer have to work for the relationship all simply b/c they've moved in with their boyfriends.
Some men (NOT ALL) are the same way. When a man (or person PERIOD) REALLY wants to conceal/disguise something, they WILL, whether you live with them or not.
Posted by ninjamu
Holy crap... you're asking for a short novel from me. I've lived with 2 of my bf's so far.
BF #1: Ages: Me - 19, Him - 21. Length of time: 7 years.
We were typical youngsters. We moved in together way too fast but it was mostly circumstance. I needed to leave my home and he needed a new roomie because his was moving in with someone else. It was either that or move back home with his mom across the country until he got back on his feet. We were actually very compatible roomies for a long time. It cut the costs of living way down, I was able to finally purchase a car, and I had regular sex at my disposal. We were pretty much like a married couple the entire time. The only bad thing was toward the end when we grew apart and communication ceased. I received the worst end of the stick financially. Being as we lived like a married couple, we went in on joint material ventures as well. I had a harder time saving enough money to move out on my own and he ended up with most of the stuff.
BF #2: Ages: Me - 27, Him - 31. Length of time: 4 months - present.
I'm living with my current bf. He's been my friend for quite a while so even though our intimate relationship is fairly new it was not something we just jumped into. My circumstances had changed as did his. I decided it was no longer an option to keep living by myself, for it was not cost effective being as I have a kid, and he also needed to be saving money. Right before we became official I moved in with him. This was after months of me staying at his house sometimes anyway. So far it's been pretty awesome. He and I are also very compatible in a living arrangement and it's brought us even closer. The only downside is having to endure his occasional bouts of moodiness but they're very short-lived and never directed at me. We've both been "married" before (he actually is divorced) so we fell into the arrangement easily with prior experience.
I personally like these types of living arrangements. I've never been one that is worried about marriage (on paper) but I like that type of relationship. However, I'm not against getting married either. If events lead to getting legally hitched then I want to know what it's like to live with my partner first. One may never know absolutely everything about a person but you sure do learn a hell of a lot more about them once you live together.
Posted by calthrope
I'm going to say unless you are over 35 DO NOT DO IT. Why would you want to do it? Stop, think, and don't do it. You have plenty of time to be 'committed' in a relationship, where you have to answer to someone, you don't need to flee the coop just to fall into another. I'm presuming you're early/mid twenties, therefore don't do it. It's better to live on your own or with friends. Relationships work out better that way. If you want to keep him don't live with him! Even when you're married-still don't live with him! Men are messy and stink and are just too troublesome to live with for more than two days/nights in a row. Oh and the arguments. Silly petty arguments. Men and women should live separate until they get their first gray hairs then they can cohabitate and colour each others heads in Mahogany or whatever.
Think of the excitement of not seeing each other EVERY DAY and EVERY NIGHT. And not having their morning breath all over you. Pfft. Not my cup of tea.
You're asking this question because you want someone to say NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
Posted by trifles light as air*
i'm currently living with my boyfriend. we were dating for 8 months before we decided to get an apartment together. we believed the decision to be positive because of many reasons:
- we were always at each other's place anyway, so why pay for separate places? plus we had been staying with roommates, which can be an obvious inconvenience at times.
- we stayed with each other for a week at a time about two times a month (and ate, slept, showered, all of those usual things that ppl do when home) before moving in, so we each got a picture of how the other lived. we knew what to expect in terms of household compatibility.
- cost of living has decreased dramatically, making it easier to save money.
- sex whenever we want it.
- the relationship was stable...if it hadn't been, moving in would not have gone nearly as smoothly as it has.
- neither of us have ever felt suffocated by the other. if there was a risk of this, moving in together would have been an awful decision.
we aren't around each other all of the time, we each have separate things going on, and that's important.
nothing bad to relay as of yet.
Posted by FeistyAquarian
I haven't lived with my Aries yet, per se. I did stay at his house quite a bit for about 7 or 8 months, but I also had an apartment with a few old friends and when his parents would come out, I would go back to my apartment for a week or so. Then after I got my house, he stayed at my place a lot for about 6 months but as our wedding was getting closer, we decided to back off on that and just hold out.
The main reason we didn't move in together was because his parents really look down on cohabitation before marriage (blehh) but all the same, I'm glad we've held out 🙂 And in less than two weeks, he'll be moving in with me anyways! I'm a little worried because he's so effing messy and then I go through periods of time where I'm crazy clean freak and then where I don't feel like doing much so that should be interesting. Getting him to do housework is next to impossible :/ But other than that, we give each other a good amount of space when need be and he's excited because he gets one of my extra rooms for a "mancave" lol
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