not talking much but still thinking?

For the men: when you are talking with some girls (friends) more than with others, does it always mean you are not thinking that much about the one you are not talking to? do you have to talk to think about that person? why is it easy for you to talk to one friend on a daily basis but the other once in a blue moon? it sucks when neither make an effort to initiate contact but yet think about them. what is it, is it ego? or just one waiting for the other to initiate or one scared to contact for fear of imposing?

I honestly think it is like any other relationship. It is not rocket science, people proritize what and who are important to them and that if always based on a mesningful connection.

Posted by malloryor
I honestly think it is like any other relationship. It is not rocket science, people proritize what and who are important to them and that if always based on a mesningful connection.

This. It may be that he has a deeper/different connection with the other girl or they just have a lot in common and so they share a lot more with each other. At the end of the day people talk to who they want to when they want to without much thought to it.

i get it, but for me personally i won't call even if i want to when i am not sure if the other person is interested in talking with me. maybe when emotions are not involved or it is pure friendship it is easier to pick up the phone and call. that's why thinking what if both sides are not calling because they are not sure if the other wants to talk?

If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

Posted by UTFanatic15
If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

agree.

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Posted by UTFanatic15
If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

Can a guy's interest disappear overnight?

Like he's talking to you day and night for 2 months no joke and then he stops. Is it like he forgot all that and it meant Nothing?---it was all just to fill a time gap

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yes, don't know how guys go from hot to cold overnight. they must not have any emotions involved if there is no cause to go cold.

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Posted by UTFanatic15
If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

Can a guy's interest disappear overnight?

Like he's talking to you day and night for 2 months no joke and then he stops. Is it like he forgot all that and it meant Nothing?---it was all just to fill a time gap

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This one can be tricky. He could very well be busy or in a bad mood based on nothing you've done. If it's a couple of days or a week and he comes back then it was probably that (I experienced that with and Aries - one track minded folks). If its a slow fade and doesn't ever get any better then his interest is probably waning.

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Posted by UTFanatic15
If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

Can a guy's interest disappear overnight?

Like he's talking to you day and night for 2 months no joke and then he stops. Is it like he forgot all that and it meant Nothing?---it was all just to fill a time gap

yes, don't know how guys go from hot to cold overnight. they must not have any emotions involved if there is no cause to go cold.

I can't understand that. Investing so much time and just seemingly doesn't care

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Not everyone values their own time.

Posted by puhleeze
i get it, but for me personally i won't call even if i want to when i am not sure if the other person is interested in talking with me. maybe when emotions are not involved or it is pure friendship it is easier to pick up the phone and call. that's why thinking what if both sides are not calling because they are not sure if the other wants to talk?

Yeah but that isnt really what you asked in the orig. question, you asked if a man has multiple women and is texting one more than the others does that mean he does not care for or think about the other ladies as much.

So that scenario is totally different than just simply not reaching to someone because you dont know if they want to talk to you or not.

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Posted by UTFanatic15
If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

Can a guy's interest disappear overnight?

Like he's talking to you day and night for 2 months no joke and then he stops. Is it like he forgot all that and it meant Nothing?---it was all just to fill a time gap

yes, don't know how guys go from hot to cold overnight. they must not have any emotions involved if there is no cause to go cold.

I can't understand that. Investing so much time and just seemingly doesn't care

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But let's be real how much time is really be invested in a text message or a phone call? Not much. You cannot put much weight on texting.

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Posted by UTFanatic15
If a guy is interested in talking to you he will find a way to do it. He may be thinking "I wonder if she wants to talk to me" but eventually he will make the effort with either a call or text if he is more shy. If you find you are the one who always has to initiate conversation then his interest is probably elsewhere.

Can a guy's interest disappear overnight?

Like he's talking to you day and night for 2 months no joke and then he stops. Is it like he forgot all that and it meant Nothing?---it was all just to fill a time gap

yes, don't know how guys go from hot to cold overnight. they must not have any emotions involved if there is no cause to go cold.

I can't understand that. Investing so much time and just seemingly doesn't care

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That's easy...that person was a placeholder to pass time. That's reality in this day and age. People can talk to you endlessly and then disappear without notice like nothing happened.