Pisces shut. Off

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Librascorp80
@Librascorp80
7 Years

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I have been losing my mind the past 2 months !

Let me try & explain ~ Me & my pisces guy has been together for 4 years & have 3 yr old twin boys together . He was my dream come true . We both fell hard for each other . Things was good for awhile , but he began his drill Sargent duties ( we are a military family ) which made him stay away from home a lot with the brutal hours he worked & I am left to raise my twins . Stress kicked in .. on both our parts & we began to fight a lot but always made up, but in Jan we began to fight more & he started sleeping in the other bedroom we haven't had inimacy since Jan ..I have tried to make up with him but he shut it down . Last night I tried I come out and ask him do you want to end this do you not love me anymore tears starting swelling in his eyes and he shut Down and will not tell me anything .. I need advice here desperately ... why is he so withdrawn and why does he refuse to talk about what he wants or anything to do with our relationship. I am about to go nuts !!what can I do ?? How do I make it better ?
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DarkIsTheNight
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7 Years

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Asking him if he wants to end it and if he loves you anymore is going to make it worse. At least that was my experience with a Pisces male I dated for about five years. I would give him time and space. You should try focusing your energy on taking care of the kids and just continue to be supportive, to try to take your mind off, instead of freaking out and going nuts. That could be contributing to his withdrawal and refusal to speak.
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Stargurl
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8 Years

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I would try this too.

Give him space since you live together, but don’t take away acts of service. Still leave him breakfast then lunch if you guys do that.

Still cater from a distance, just let him the space.

Doesn’t he have friends you know? You could ask what went wrong out there, it’s a lot to handle and i respect you for wanting to try to fix it.

Don’t lash out until you know at least something, 🤷🏽‍♀️

Sometimes its projecting, you could be upset about having to raise the boys yourself because of that and he could be upset about that and other things. I think you should put the love to one side for a bit and just be his friend (i mean, don’t say the do you want this over , do you not love me bit)

I feel you could just be there for him without reminding him of those and then you can eventually talk about things without fighting