Please help me understand this guy and possibly even myself lol.

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​So I've been dating this guy for a little over a month. And of course in the beginning things were great. Things were cute etc. We've seen each other quite a few times since. He's an aquarius and I'm a taurus. Not compatible , yes I know but I try to give everyone a chance regardless of their sign. So I originally met him on a dating site. After meeting him he would barely log on there. But recently I've noticed that he has been. We still talk and he texts me every morning , well , he would text me every morning almost first thing "good morning" , but recently he texts me in the afternoon. Might be later in time than he started but still , he texts me. But things just seem different. Sometimes he even logs on to the date site first thing in the morning before even texting me. We talk everyday but it seems like his mind is somewhere else. He still shows signs hes into me by calling me sweet names but now its starting to feel moreso just like words and not like he really WANTS to call me those sweet names or likes me on that level to call me that. If it makes any sense. I just feel like now he calls me those names just to call me it. I've never dated an aquarius male before so im not sure how they are but things just don't feel the same like they did in the beginning. I can take criticism very well so don't hesitate to be blunt with all responses bc I need some advice. He just has some moments here and there were he seems so dry towards me but he does still communicate. I just need some relationship advice bc guys can be so hot and cold at times and me, I personally like consistency so it throws me off and makes me feel so though hes getting bored with me.
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Posted by goldrockett
​So I've been dating this guy for a little over a month. And of course in the beginning things were great. Things were cute etc. We've seen each other quite a few times since. He's an aquarius and I'm a taurus. Not compatible , yes I know but I try to give everyone a chance regardless of their sign. So I originally met him on a dating site. After meeting him he would barely log on there. But recently I've noticed that he has been. We still talk and he texts me every morning , well , he would text me every morning almost first thing "good morning" , but recently he texts me in the afternoon. Might be later in time than he started but still , he texts me. But things just seem different. Sometimes he even logs on to the date site first thing in the morning before even texting me. We talk everyday but it seems like his mind is somewhere else. He still shows signs hes into me by calling me sweet names but now its starting to feel moreso just like words and not like he really WANTS to call me those sweet names or likes me on that level to call me that. If it makes any sense. I just feel like now he calls me those names just to call me it. I've never dated an aquarius male before so im not sure how they are but things just don't feel the same like they did in the beginning. I can take criticism very well so don't hesitate to be blunt with all responses bc I need some advice. He just has some moments here and there were he seems so dry towards me but he does still communicate. I just need some relationship advice bc guys can be so hot and cold at times and me, I personally like consistency so it throws me off and makes me feel so though hes getting bored with me.
I would pull back. For your sake. If he was interested he would show it in actions. You don't want to just be kept on the string for hard times. You can do better. It doesn't mean that you can't be friends with him because friends first is where it's at. But that will also take you to pull away from those feelings first. Focus on yourself and what's around you.

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Posted by goldrockett
​So I've been dating this guy for a little over a month. And of course in the beginning things were great. Things were cute etc. We've seen each other quite a few times since. He's an aquarius and I'm a taurus. Not compatible , yes I know but I try to give everyone a chance regardless of their sign. So I originally met him on a dating site. After meeting him he would barely log on there. But recently I've noticed that he has been. We still talk and he texts me every morning , well , he would text me every morning almost first thing "good morning" , but recently he texts me in the afternoon. Might be later in time than he started but still , he texts me. But things just seem different. Sometimes he even logs on to the date site first thing in the morning before even texting me. We talk everyday but it seems like his mind is somewhere else. He still shows signs hes into me by calling me sweet names but now its starting to feel moreso just like words and not like he really WANTS to call me those sweet names or likes me on that level to call me that. If it makes any sense. I just feel like now he calls me those names just to call me it. I've never dated an aquarius male before so im not sure how they are but things just don't feel the same like they did in the beginning. I can take criticism very well so don't hesitate to be blunt with all responses bc I need some advice. He just has some moments here and there were he seems so dry towards me but he does still communicate. I just need some relationship advice bc guys can be so hot and cold at times and me, I personally like consistency so it throws me off and makes me feel so though hes getting bored with me.
I would pull back. For your sake. If he was interested he would show it in actions. You don't want to just be kept on the string for hard times. You can do better. It doesn't mean that you can't be friends with him because friends first is where it's at. But that will also take you to pull away from those feelings first. Focus on yourself and what's around you.

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Well he does, its just hot and cold. He wants to come see me this week and thats him showing hes interested I suppose but when we're apart, he still communicates with me throughout the day, he just seems dry. I don't understand what thats about.
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Posted by goldrockett
​So I've been dating this guy for a little over a month. And of course in the beginning things were great. Things were cute etc. We've seen each other quite a few times since. He's an aquarius and I'm a taurus. Not compatible , yes I know but I try to give everyone a chance regardless of their sign. So I originally met him on a dating site. After meeting him he would barely log on there. But recently I've noticed that he has been. We still talk and he texts me every morning , well , he would text me every morning almost first thing "good morning" , but recently he texts me in the afternoon. Might be later in time than he started but still , he texts me. But things just seem different. Sometimes he even logs on to the date site first thing in the morning before even texting me. We talk everyday but it seems like his mind is somewhere else. He still shows signs hes into me by calling me sweet names but now its starting to feel moreso just like words and not like he really WANTS to call me those sweet names or likes me on that level to call me that. If it makes any sense. I just feel like now he calls me those names just to call me it. I've never dated an aquarius male before so im not sure how they are but things just don't feel the same like they did in the beginning. I can take criticism very well so don't hesitate to be blunt with all responses bc I need some advice. He just has some moments here and there were he seems so dry towards me but he does still communicate. I just need some relationship advice bc guys can be so hot and cold at times and me, I personally like consistency so it throws me off and makes me feel so though hes getting bored with me.
Okay two things here...

One you met only a month ago. Your still in the getting to know each other stage. Don't attempt to dissect his feeling for you this early on. Don't worry about what the relationship status is. Just relax and get to know him...see if he's right for you.

Secondly you met him through a dating app. Mostly dudes are just looking for hook ups, not relationships. He's still on the dating app so you have to assume that he is dating other women, not just you. The sweet things he texts you he may very likely be texting a multitude of women.

What does this mean for you?

You need to detach emotionally. Take a step back out of your feels and see things for what they are. Date him and wait for a confirmation of exclusivity before you fuck him.