Self Confidence And Believing In Yourself

For a long time I never had confidence in myself.
I never thought i was good enough or that anyone would be interested in me, certainly not as a partner.
There was no special reason for this, it was just how I was.

Then someone persuaded me (after a long time) to make a profile of myself and attach some pics, then put it on one of those "Matchmaker Sites"
I was horrified at the thought, but went ahead very tentatively.

Ive never looked back :-)

That was only MY experience but "Thank God For The Internet"
It worked for me, I got some really good friends from it.

For anyone who doesnt have much confidence in themselves, I say "Just Give It A Go"

That's great DB 🙂 i've never really used the net to make new friends, i've always been really cautious about it and i've never had a profile up on a dating site or anything like that. So I don't really know what that's like...Just personal preference really, I find it much easier to meet new people in person from the very beginning.

I never used to think I was anything special, but I liked the person that I was on the inside and that was the most important thing to me. I never really placed a very high value on a person's physical appearance, so long as they were healthy and reasonably well groomed, that was good enough for me coz personality always came first.

I did freelance modelling for a few years, which helped build the confidence in my physical appearance. Nowadays I am happy to accept that other people can have their opinion about me, and I can graciously take a compliment haha (before I used to respond with "what? I don't think so..." and a frown lol!) With time, i've become even more confident in who I am as a person, and to this day I still value that above everything else.

It's good to see a positive post on here!! 'twas a refreshing change 🙂

This is something that has to be home-grown for it to have real value .. like many things in life, such as self-esteem, respect, consideration, etc ..... self-confidence comes with having the awareness of self for measurement >>>> to grow into being.


That's great dogs, that you found a building block to bring you to where you are today ... what's even greater is that you were aware of yourself enough to know you had to be found.

Personally, I suffer from an over-inflated ego, which I rebel against constantly .. unfortunately, this ego makes me think I can do anything without much realization of failure = the failing, in itself.

I was similar
Very confident as a child, great family life, then in my teenage years my confidence plummeted. I only started believing in myself again in my early 20s, now im 36, i know im as good as anyone else.
I think the age factor plays a part as well, with age comes knowledge,experience and wisdom.
To be older and wiser, you first have to be yound and stupid !
I once heard someone say; "the older you get, the less you care"
maybe that plays a small part as well LOL

From what I've been told in the past I'm the unlegitimate child of Sean Penn, Viggo Mortensen and Gary Oldman. Not too bad for the ego, huh. Altough I don't look like any one of them, it's more like bits and pieces LOL

I wish I looked more 'different', I think beautiful or normal looks are boring. I like character. But some people confuse character with 'ugly'.

If you look at the film and tv industry today for instance, a lot of these young stars look too normal ... too beautiful ... lifeless. I'm talking about "Gossip Girl", "O.C." and other similiar shows. Look at the actors in all those stupid Hollywood horror movie remakes. Their hair is always the same, their bodies, their faces. How do you tell them apart? It's like Barbie and Ken. I am so bored. I like character when it comes to looks. Beauty is kind of ugly to me.

Dogsbody, that almost read like a cheap advertisement for SSRIs.

it is true wit cappys. i was ready me full scope. about my siign moon yata yata. and it said to me that i swore to myself was not gnna happen. it said that i would find happiness in the second half of my life, for that is when i will have the confidence and courage to truly be loved. that really bothered me cause im only 24 so does that mean that im not gnna find happiness till im 50 or 40. thats a long time. but then i read it again and it said BECAUSE thats when ill have the confidence in myself... So I decided that in order for neone to love, trust, respect u u have to do all those things urself. i realized that i believe and have courage in myself business wise but on a personal level(relationships, friiendships) i lack it. I think self confidence is something u attain overtime. every trail and tribulation u overcome makes u a stronger person.

Self Confidence comes with accomplishment of personal achievements/goals, increased self-knowledge, and sadly sometimes the way people "see" you. Regarding the third one, yeh, you care less as you grow older, so that helps. The first two happen at any age really.

Thats it, knowing who you are!!
A lot of people out there have yet to find out!
I was one of them (still am to a point) but as i get to know who i really am, i am becoming more confident in myself.
I know im a good,kind,friendly person and that certainly goes a long way to acceptance of myself.