CreepyPants
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Posted by tiziani
1. Who is going to answer anything other than 10? 10, of course.
well honestly, the last 3 of my relationships (current included) fluctuated.
right now i'm at a 10 with my sweetheart. undeniably. but i didn't start out that way with him. i was a little timid and shy. probably started out as a 5 or 6 really. but now we know each other a lot better physically.
seems lily tree went through different phases as well.
i wonder if certain trends can be found between men and women. hrmmm
Posted by CreepyPants
scale of one to ten... one being uninterested, five being idly indifferent and ten being nearly addicted??_ where do (did) you fall in your sexual lust for your s.o.?
Talking raw, carnal, no higher thought processes need apply lust, most of my relationships have started out with 5s or lower. But I've found that my perception of attraction and sexual appetite for my partners grows steadily over time. Things may be slow to heat up in that department but the longer we're together the hotter and crazier it gets. There's only been one in all the world I've known thus far that's hit a perfect hot under the collar 10 right out of the gate.
Posted by CreepyPants
and how far along are you (were you) in your relationship?
The two longest relationships I've ever had ran about one year and five years respectively.
*shrugs*
Posted by CreepyPants
if you've been in multiple diff relationships, do you find that you've been equally physically attracted to those you've called yours? or some more so than others?
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Some more than others. That's dependent on how long the relationship lasted, how it operated during, and how amicable the separation was. As much as my interest grows over time it can also take a nose dive because of a bad attitude.
In the beginning, my interest is around about a 7 or 8. i.e. they're attractive enough for me to have an initial interest in them that gives me an incentive to keep getting to know them.
However, attraction grows the more they open up & expose an amazing personality that compliments mine. I won't allow my attraction to someone to be at a full 10 until I feel confident enough that I have genuinely gotten to know them.
It's kind of like when someone's attraction level goes DOWN the minute you start seeing flaws, ugliness or incompatibility later on down the road.
My attraction level with my husband is at a 10. I love him so much and enough that even when he's getting on my last nerves, I'm still fully attracted to him physically & emotionally. But that's b/c I've fully accepted him & know him fully. After you get to a certain point with someone, you take all the goods with the bads & THEN make a final decision on their overall level of attractiveness. I think level of attractiveness will constantly shift up & down until you've got a full blown foundation & commitment with them.
Any final decision on attractiveness before the foundation is set or commitment is made is primarily based on lust. When you're in the lust or honeymoon phase of attraction, the person you're entertaining will always be a 10!!! Move in with them though!!! And then you'll notice that "10" is really a 7 or 8 or 9
However, attraction grows the more they open up & expose an amazing personality that compliments mine. I won't allow my attraction to someone to be at a full 10 until I feel confident enough that I have genuinely gotten to know them.
It's kind of like when someone's attraction level goes DOWN the minute you start seeing flaws, ugliness or incompatibility later on down the road.
My attraction level with my husband is at a 10. I love him so much and enough that even when he's getting on my last nerves, I'm still fully attracted to him physically & emotionally. But that's b/c I've fully accepted him & know him fully. After you get to a certain point with someone, you take all the goods with the bads & THEN make a final decision on their overall level of attractiveness. I think level of attractiveness will constantly shift up & down until you've got a full blown foundation & commitment with them.
Any final decision on attractiveness before the foundation is set or commitment is made is primarily based on lust. When you're in the lust or honeymoon phase of attraction, the person you're entertaining will always be a 10!!! Move in with them though!!! And then you'll notice that "10" is really a 7 or 8 or 9
Posted by tizianiPosted by CreepyPantsPosted by tiziani
1. Who is going to answer anything other than 10? 10, of course.
well honestly, the last 3 of my relationships (current included) fluctuated.
right now i'm at a 10 with my sweetheart. undeniably. but i didn't start out that way with him. i was a little timid and shy. probably started out as a 5 or 6 really. but now we know each other a lot better physically.
seems lily tree went through different phases as well.
i wonder if certain trends can be found between men and women. hrmmm
That, surprisingly, makes sense. Not to me as a man, but I suppose I can see it from a woman's perspective here. Security and comfort go a long way, I'm guessing.click to expand
yea i had this very discussion with the bf, using the scale and everything, and he answered just like you and ands. i definitely shouldn't be surprised, lol. i guess i'm a lil surprised at myself for not expecting it. 😛
he was a tad upset at my own response. lol. being a guy, he def didn't immediately understand it, but after i explained that my sexuality, as a female, runs a bit differently, he let go of the hurt ego.
i can be attracted sexually to any guy in theory, but when it comes down to actual sex and sexual desire??_ a lot of different factors play into that for me. the biggest of which are self image and sexual confidence. id like to think i have a healthy amount of both, but when you develop feelings for someone, the stakes are so much higher.
prob why it's so different for women
Posted by strudelPosted by CreepyPants
(OR that has ever been in) a relationship??_
lol too many inexperienced people replying to threads these days huh?
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lol no, i didn't want anyone who has been in a relationship, but not currently in one, to feel left out
1. Ten
2. Two years
3. I have never been as sexually attracted as I am to this aqua.
2. Two years
3. I have never been as sexually attracted as I am to this aqua.
I'm rarely sexually attracted to a man on sight.
I would say my sexual nature is rather primitive for a woman. I don't require much external stimuli, it just is. I wake up horny in the middle of the night. I usually stay at about a 7 but, not just anyone would do...terrified of bad sex; successful in escaping it. So, I suss a man out. I would even say, "I don't think you'll be good." Ten for me is the enjoyment of being enjoyed most times.
Now, with my husband I was so nervous it was a 1 for two related reasons: he was the most dreamy specimen, (my uterus way like, "YAY!"); but, because he was such an unbelievable dream come true, I thought he was going to be a one night stand.
So, I was terrible nervous which lowered my normal drive (even though our first date lasted five days - he being a Mars in Taurus). After, I realized it was real, when he called, it was a ten.
When we started over again, it started over again in the same way and for similar reasons.
Now, when I hit 33, my goodness... my regular hum went to up.
I would say my sexual nature is rather primitive for a woman. I don't require much external stimuli, it just is. I wake up horny in the middle of the night. I usually stay at about a 7 but, not just anyone would do...terrified of bad sex; successful in escaping it. So, I suss a man out. I would even say, "I don't think you'll be good." Ten for me is the enjoyment of being enjoyed most times.
Now, with my husband I was so nervous it was a 1 for two related reasons: he was the most dreamy specimen, (my uterus way like, "YAY!"); but, because he was such an unbelievable dream come true, I thought he was going to be a one night stand.
So, I was terrible nervous which lowered my normal drive (even though our first date lasted five days - he being a Mars in Taurus). After, I realized it was real, when he called, it was a ten.
When we started over again, it started over again in the same way and for similar reasons.
Now, when I hit 33, my goodness... my regular hum went to up.
Posted by noname
for most men whom i was/am not attracted to, it would be -1000000. mission impossible
😛 this makes me giggle. i know the feeling!
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and how far along are you (were you) in your relationship?
if you've been in multiple diff relationships, do you find that you've been equally physically attracted to those you've called yours? or some more so than others?
hope my scale and q makes sense!