Uninterested? I guess not.

Every now and then I pop in here to update the details on my long-winded adventure with a Virguy I met some 10 months ago. I would occasionally ask a question regarding the psyche of the Virgo male. I have little experience with them and I had never been attracted to one (that I knew of) until this guy came along. Most of the time the responses I received were usually along the lines of that he was not that interested in me. The explanations were reasonable, and I believed them to an extent, but now I have a new tale to tell...

I believe I said in my last post regarding him that the next time I saw him (November 18th at his last show; his band broke up so he could earn his masters) that I would finally confront him. Well, I did. Wait, I guess I didn't. There was a confrontation however. He saw me first when I walked in. He managed to say,"hi! how's it goin'?". His body language said it all. There he stood, in the middle of a semi-circle of his onlooking friends, his eyes wide with excitement, hand over his heart, looking taken aback. That message seemed pretty clear to me. I had never seen a man clutch at his chest like that. He still seemed pretty aloof but friendlier the rest of the night.

Then I hit him up on the ol' FB. I told him I was tired of the scenario and offered an olive branch. He took it. He's not on there often but we have slowly begun to talk to each other. The unfortunate part is that I've had to initiate everything. That's normally a problem for me but he is eager and excited when I do. I found out through his best friend (a female; she messaged me via FB) that he's been consistently interested this entire time but felt rejected. Her exact words were: "He's a total chicken shit when it comes to you". So, I wrote to him that I wanted him to come out to a show with my friends and to get to know him better. He gave me his number and wants to get together.

It just goes to show that I should trust my intuition. I always got the impression that he was cautious of me for he seemed to have a strong emotional reaction, which led to avoidance, when I was around. He knows I have a bf. He knows I'm committed. Yet he's still interested in pursuing a friendship with me. A breakthrough at last!

oh i just can't resist...

ninjamu is a Leo who likes attention. Her Leo pride blinds her to the fact that not everything is all fine and perfect between her and the Cancer bf. If she thinks the bf doesn't know she's flirting with a Virgo... she's fooling herself a second time.

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I was tired of the scenario and offered an olive branch. He took it. He's not on there often but we have slowly begun to talk to each other. The unfortunate part is that I've had to initiate everything.

Posted by ninjamu
EHe knows I'm committed. Yet he's still interested in pursuing a friendship with me. A breakthrough at last!

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It looks more like you're the one pursuing something. Not only that, he probably sees your attraction to him by reading into your body language and behaviour the way you do to him and thinking that even though you are committed you are still coming after him. Maybe you are confusing him.

Some of you can't read I suppose but I expect such things here so I'm not upset. not everyone knows, of course, but i've been trying to be friends with this guy for a while because WE WORK IN MUSIC TOGETHER.

when i first met him last february, yes, i was interested in possibly pursuing something more if it went that way. i was single then.

yeah, he probably likes me but just working on the friendship. not even flirting. my cancer knows and sees nothing wrong with it so whatever. hell, i even let him read this and he finds it hilarious because he knows what i've been through. everyone involved knows everything about the other and what's really going on. so, nice try guys.

i'm an opportunist to a degree and this guy is someone who is worthy of getting to know because of his experience and connections in our field.

as for the leo thing... it's somewhat true. i don't like to be the center of attention but i like some now and then. who doesn't? how am i fooling myself? things are absolutely great between my cancer and i whether you believe it or not. shit just keeps getting better!

i was mostly pointing out that my gut feelings were spot on the entire time and i constantly deny that inner voice. that's all. the rest is irrelevant really. it was just good fodder for my actual point.

anyway, i love you guys! persevere and stay consistent!

hey ninjamu it's all good, thanks for not freaking out

you know your situation and yes, people can only go by what you post. I'm just saying that all the boyfriends I left thought things were fine and dandy... until I walked out the door.

Everyone's intuition can be spot on if they don't let their logical reasoning get in the way of it.

I can read dammit!

:O Ian? Is that avatar what I think it is? Its beautiful.

haha 🙂

it's a Leo thing/

Nothing wrong with networking, especially in the industry you're in, Ninj.


Don't let the haters get to ya 🙂 Who doesn't like to know someone is interested in you, whether you have a man or not? It feels good. So what.


And regardless, if you were in here crying because your man doesn't pay you attention, everyone would be coddling you, but how dare you have something else to say but a sob story!!

😛

Come to the evil side Ella the capricorns await you.

Lol. just lol. I love it.