Why do i suck with women

OK so my rising is Scorpio my sun in Capricorn moon in Taurus Mars in cancer and Venus in Aquarius and my north nod is in Sagittarius. I'm shy surfer from horrible anxiety protective easily jealous romantic dark humor yada yada. So what my question is am I just over thinking it or is there some deeper subconscious aspect at play that holds me back. I don't get it I just suck with women in general can't flirt can't talk can't get a girl to go on a date or find interest in me to save my life. I'm a Capricorn I'm very goal oriented but can't obtain one for shit.... It's the only thing in my life I can't get or get right I'm only 22 but a girl is on thing I want and crave is a real relationship but just can't seem to get it together I've tried really hard and other times not hard at all just don't get it.

Worry less and it will come when you least expect it!

Same here, Scorpio rising too

Something that could help, is to imagine someone the girl would fall in love with, and then look at yourself without judgement.
What do you lack, what can you change about it, and what can you be proud of?
Don't be disappointed about yourself, instead see it as a chance and improve yourself in the way you want to.

And what madmarchram said is very true. Worrying less is easier said than done, but worrying less will give you space for many things, including a woman. This anxiety is a barrier to our openness, I've had moments where (after a lot of work) I didn't have it and magic things happened.

And if it's subconscious or not? Well, it could be very deep rooted but in both cases you should really take the time to analyze it, where it comes from, what in your life or mind right now could be causing it. Just some thoughts, hope it helps, I'm not an expert but.. I am experienced.. 😉

Posted by P_Ands
i'm probably the purest scorp asc on the board. my asc is at 0 degrees that means my decan and duad are still scorpio. also my pluto is conjunct asc exact.

Yeah you have an interesting chart!

Yes I am a pessimist that's for sure. It's so hard for me to just go with the flow cause I'm a I want to have everything planned out. I want to have everything figured out so if I hit a road block I know what to do and how to over come it. Going with the flow slows that down. As for my dark sense of humor I'm a very sarcastic person to the point I'm a border line ass hole but in a fun way I tease my friends a lot like a brother would. I have four older brothers tbough so it's what I grew up with. But I only let my friends see this side of me. Most people don't understand I'm just playing around and think I'm a dick when in reality I just want you to say something witty back. Hardly ever plays out like that but this is one reason of my anxiety I know that. I over think it before I say it. Like oh man this person's gonna think I'm a Jack ass probably should just keep to myself

Sorry it should have said I am a Capricorn^ haven't figured out how to change a post here yet

You need ro tame the Social Mammoth

I'm also every ocd if that says anything . I mean extremely thorough but I've been told that's cause of my Capricorninis

It's just so much easier said then done : /

P_ands yes that's me as well with the fantasy daydream imaginative thoughts running through my head all the time but I sort of enjoy it sense the world is so dull and that comic is spot on as well. As for the group of people it depends on the group and where the group is the anxiety is social and I'm a loner type so I don't do concerts, bars, spot events, etc there's just too many people for my liking. The more people the less active in conversation I don't want to fight to be heard. I'm an attention whore though but I'll never straight come out and ask for attention or go out of my way for it but strive to earn it almost I suppose

I'm an ocd freak type of guy that needs everything planned out too.. But it doesn't work, you need to be equipped for any surprise and spontaneity. And that's something very close to confidence.

I don't like surprises and I'm not spontaneous I'd rather sit and plan something out which makes me pretty boring really

Posted by Damnata

Aww, I loved this 😆

@ impulsv that's really cool Š I love bmmeeting people with similar charts because no matter how similar we're still so different.
@ koniucha that's a relief I'm glad to know there are women out there that like that kinda stuff I guess there is hope if I'm just patient enough to wait. I'd just rather plan out a date then pick some one up and desperately find something to do on short notice

@impulsv (again) I'm actually a very feminine dude. I mean I don't like sports I don't like tailgating I don't like a being out in nature (I live in Arkansas) I mean I'm a city boy to a t. I'll get pissy if my shoes get dirty. I mean I don't want to so anything that will make me feel like I need to shower after except work because I'm getting paid to do a job I'm not their to look pretty. As well as sex that's the only dirty activity I enjoy lol

Posted by starlover
Humour diffuses tension

Make a woman laugh and you have her
halfway into bed

^^^^ ya never know

Well at least I'm not alone then! As for making them laugh thing I've been told that for years and I don't want sex I want a relationship you did notice I'm a Capricorn right lol

@dwellingonmove your right I do attract women their just all whores I don't want tanything to do with. Being shy dressing decent and having a sports car does that I guess

Also how late is it? 22 years isn't late already

Posted by DwellingOnMove
shy men need not to do anything. girls will talk to them.

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@starwars I understand what you're saying but I do care what people think for the most part. I mean I'm an attention whore I want people to like me but if they don't then I'll feed off the hate and just piss them off for the negative attention in some cases. But I'd rather it be positive of course. Although as much as I like the attention I'll never ask for it

@frechkprciorn ya I'm not that kinda guy bro I don't have sex out side of a relationship. Actually if she wants to have sex on the first date I'm going to tell her to leave and never talk to me again that just screams whore in my eyes there's more to life then pussy and I'd like to experience those things but it's what a relationship brings that I want the intimacy more or less and just to experience the world with some one you cherish just seems like some kind of fantasy damn near.

On a side note I'm really mature if not overly mature I don't like most people my own age I actually get along better with people in their late 20s and up. It's like I can't have a serious conversation with people my own age they want to well I guess act their age and I find it annoying and very frustrating cause I'm the only one in my circle of friends that takes life as serious as I do. I refuse to take life any different immaturity is a step back not a step forward in my eyes. I may tease and be sarcastic but it's not on a 22 year olds level most of the things I say goes over my friends heads or they just can't relate to what was said which is why I'm considered an ass

The longest relationship I've had lasted six years other then that just a few months

are you the best version of yourself atm—

How can I answer that if I can't meet myself. I mean I don't know I've made mistakes I've made great decisions but the things I do know is what I've already said

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by David93
... whores ... dressing decent and having a sports car ...

Posted by David93
...22 years isn't late already

it's too early. believe me.

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oops, I forgot that you are a Capman.