ZenArcade
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Having time to think about it, being in a relationship would not be the best thing for me right now. Due to a recent family member's medical crisis that happened at the end of last week.
This situation I am now in needs to be the sole focus, nothing else. I have to man up and take on more responsibility as this family member is going to need the help. Anyway, sorry for the segueway. Just had to vent with that previous post. As I do get pangs of loneliness from time to time. This current nightmare might have brought out the stress.
Oh well, am used to handling things on my own. So when in depression or doubt, turn to music...
This situation I am now in needs to be the sole focus, nothing else. I have to man up and take on more responsibility as this family member is going to need the help. Anyway, sorry for the segueway. Just had to vent with that previous post. As I do get pangs of loneliness from time to time. This current nightmare might have brought out the stress.
Oh well, am used to handling things on my own. So when in depression or doubt, turn to music...
Yes.
Story of my life.
Yes. Absolutely. I've already dated my entire town. 6 million people. Dated them. All of them.
😉
The person that's truly meant for you may live in Austrailia, 500 miles away or may be in certain circumstances that you swore you'd never put up with/accept.
Same goes with people who don't wanna be with someone who already has kids. The person that may be right for them may actually have 5 kids!
Some people swear they wouldn't date someone who doesn't have a job, house or car. But yet the very person that's meant for them may be temporarily down & not have any of those things right now.
So what does a person do? I think our soulmates not being in the most ideal situation we wanted/imagined them to be is actually a GOOD thing b/c it teaches us how to be flexible & how to accept curb balls. It teaches us how to gain the skill of going after what we want regardless of what obstacles/setbacks are in the way.
Some may feel the person is worth it & go for it, others may stick to their standards/guns & give up, all the while hoping to find someone who can match that person or be a better match
Human can be so arrogant in assuming that everything will naturally & perfectly fall into place & the truth is that reality never really happens that way.
On 1 hand, if you really want someone, you'll do what you've gotta do to make it work even if there are extra challenges (distance, for example) that may get in the way & complicate things a little bit.
But on the other hand, you've gotta have enough faith in yourself to believe that if things don't work out with 1 person, there's ALWAYS gonna be ANOTHER person who is just as great, but yet doesn't come with all the complications.
If you're completely unwilling to deal with or accept the distance, that's fine, BUT don't falsely convince yourself that there isn't another great girl out there that actually lives closer to you.
Same goes with people who don't wanna be with someone who already has kids. The person that may be right for them may actually have 5 kids!
Some people swear they wouldn't date someone who doesn't have a job, house or car. But yet the very person that's meant for them may be temporarily down & not have any of those things right now.
So what does a person do? I think our soulmates not being in the most ideal situation we wanted/imagined them to be is actually a GOOD thing b/c it teaches us how to be flexible & how to accept curb balls. It teaches us how to gain the skill of going after what we want regardless of what obstacles/setbacks are in the way.
Some may feel the person is worth it & go for it, others may stick to their standards/guns & give up, all the while hoping to find someone who can match that person or be a better match
Human can be so arrogant in assuming that everything will naturally & perfectly fall into place & the truth is that reality never really happens that way.
On 1 hand, if you really want someone, you'll do what you've gotta do to make it work even if there are extra challenges (distance, for example) that may get in the way & complicate things a little bit.
But on the other hand, you've gotta have enough faith in yourself to believe that if things don't work out with 1 person, there's ALWAYS gonna be ANOTHER person who is just as great, but yet doesn't come with all the complications.
If you're completely unwilling to deal with or accept the distance, that's fine, BUT don't falsely convince yourself that there isn't another great girl out there that actually lives closer to you.
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