@missscorp
15 Years500+ Posts
Time To Turn The Tables.....
*playing with fire*
Yeah I think you said it... its because they feel you're missing from their life and they go "oh yeah... why isn't she talking to me" hmmm then they wonder.
It really is about wanting the unattainable.
@dreamingPisces...it truly is..we always want what we can't have, what we haven't conquered...the challenge, the chase...but when someone has you (not by gun point or anything!) Wait for soooo long...when and if that time comes do you think you will appreciate them more or have resentment and then not want it at all? And so if the tables turn...do you then give them a taste of their own poison?!
Posted by missscorp
@dreamingPisces...it truly is..we always want what we can't have, what we haven't conquered...the challenge, the chase...but when someone has you (not by gun point or anything!) Wait for soooo long...when and if that time comes do you think you will appreciate them more or have resentment and then not want it at all? And so if the tables turn...do you then give them a taste of their own poison?!
haha I think it depends on the person for me... sometimes I do give them a taste of their own medicine. If i don't like them that much.
But if I really do care about them i'm just like "omg hes talking to me again, yay" and then the whole cycle starts again :/
Posted by missscorp
@dreamingPisces...it truly is..we always want what we can't have, what we haven't conquered...the challenge, the chase...but when someone has you (not by gun point or anything!) Wait for soooo long...when and if that time comes do you think you will appreciate them more or have resentment and then not want it at all? And so if the tables turn...do you then give them a taste of their own poison?!Depends on how much effort they've made.
I make the effort, if they don't pffff
No-ones that shy imo.🙂click to expand
yeah, exactly. shy's a good excuse for inaction? or just plain old rudeness.
@dreamingP....the yay! He's back part an the cycle starts all over...thus time to turn the tables! @starlover..I did correct my typo!!!I too think if done for the right reasons and not to join the game truth will prevail..it may not be the outcome we desired but none the less the answer to our question
It depends on what methods a person uses to "turn the tables." Manipulation always backfires & only offers temporary gain.
However, I think it's quite natural for people to want even more what they can't have OR what they lost. And this theory is relevant in other areas of life (i.e. we always miss our dead loved one even more when they die---doesn't mean we didn't love them when they were alive...no, humans period hate losing something, especially if it was their fault or when they know they could've taken care of it better when they had it (i.e. guilty conscious)
Men love a challenge before, during AND after the relationship. The hunter in them doesn't go away just b/c they've finally gotten you. They like their women to be a challenge during the relationship too & this instinct in them especially kicks in when they're borderline losing the woman they love. Same thing goes for the ladies.
BUT I do agree that turning the tables can actually help relationships. Some people don't learn until they lose something. Some don't naturally have empathy, until the same thing happens to them. Some don't want you unless you've made them work for you.
Taking a way a child's toy in the moment b/c you want them to learn a lesson is 1 thing b/c there's no long-term manipulation involved & b/c the outcome can be beneficial for BOTH people in involved.
BUT using the "turn the tables" method on someone you deep down don't care about or using it & it not working b/c the other person could really care less about you, happens all the time, especially if only 1 person can gain from it.
I've turned the tables on someone before. But not b/c I had my own selfish intentions or b/c I wanted to see someone suffer. No, I recognized that this particular person choose to learn by way of losing something 1st before cherishing it, so I decided to make myself unavailable to them so that they'd finally "get it." And it worked. And I wanted them to "get it" not just for me, BUT also for themselves so that they wouldn't have the same problems in future friendships/relationships
@Elle..and so the tables turn...it is true what come around goes around..I think when you truly love someone...truly such things should not be necessary..its unfortunate how things work sometimes...*sigh*
Just a few! The silent treatment...what's with people doing that anyway? Is like some type of punishment for someone who has verbalized something they just didn't want to hear? What's the point if they come back around anyway? Liking Clairs point of view...the kinda been there done that and just don't have time...who has time for bs rite?!
You live & you learn.....such is life
Oh yeah!
@starlover....exactly!!!!!scorp*
You guys totally turned the tables on me!!!! Hahahaha =)
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The 5 T's!!! Why is it when you disappear from someones life completely they start coming around more often? It is because they truly care and don't like the feeling of not having you there? Is it because you then become more of a challenge that needs to be conquered?...in a relationship point of view...why have you turned the tables and why? What reactions did you get?....was it worth it or is it kind of laying with fire? Have the tables been turned on you? How did you like it and what was your reaction? Tit for tat!....