Cancer guy. My ex-gf (sag) just got into a new relationship. I'm so devastated.

Hey everybody, first post here.

So I was in a relationship with a sag girl for almost 2 years. She ended it about a year ago. I begged her to come back but she said she was pushed too far and hurt to do so. Eventually I gave up because I too was too hurt to keep trying. A year and a bit went by and to my surprise, she told me she missed me a lot and that my love made her feel safe unlike anything else. I was hopeful that I'd be able to work something out as I honestly care for her with all my heart. But within 2 months of her saying that, she has found a new bf (who appears to be a Libra). When I found out about this, it absolutely killed me - it was like living the breakup all over again. While I am trying my best not to be too hung up, I still do love her so much, as I always have. I'm not here to ask for advice on how to break them up or anything stupid. But I would like to know, if they do breakup, would she still have the same feelings for me, or would her new relationship bury them? If she still does, what can I do to make things work? It hurts so much, because I never meant for her to get hurt, but it happened anyway as I was completely unaware as to what was actually hurting her. What are your thoughts on my situation? Any advice would be appreciated.

Unfortunately I don't know any more information other than our signs (and birth days and locations). I'm quite new to horoscopes. If there's a way to find out, I can get back to you on that.

I'm guessing this is the main info we need. So here's mine:

Sun 14°13' Cancer

Moon 26°04' Libra

Mercury 23°59' Gemini

Venus 1°50' Cancer

Mars 21°35' Virgo

Jupiter 6°37' Я Sagittarius

Saturn 24°45' Я Pisces

Uranus 29°05' Я Capricorn

Neptune 24°27' Я Capricorn

Pluto 28°06' Я Scorpio

Chiron 22°12' Virgo

Ceres 4°31' Virgo

Pallas 4°15' Leo

Juno 22°55' Я Sagittarius

Vesta 9°08' Leo

Node 2°45' Scorpio

Lilith 12°45' Я Cancer

Fortune 2°54' Capricorn

AS 14°45' Aries

MC 11°14' Capricorn

And hers:

Sun 1°47' Sagittarius

Moon 29°06' Capricorn

Mercury 16°54' Я Sagittarius

Venus 8°03' Sagittarius

Mars 28°14' Virgo

Jupiter 18°22' Pisces

Saturn 27°52' Я Aries

Uranus 9°22' Aquarius

Neptune 29°55' Capricorn

Pluto 7°41' Sagittarius

Chiron 24°36' Scorpio

Ceres 7°34' Я Gemini

Pallas 13°52' Pisces

Juno 13°44' Scorpio

Vesta 20°09' Leo

Node 25°55' Я Leo

Lilith 29°09' Scorpio

Fortune 1°34' Taurus

AS 4°16' Pisces

MC 10°07' Sagittarius

Makes sense - I've read about compatibility issues between the signs. But in my case the thing that drove her away was my insecurities. So my heart keeps thinking that maybe if I had been able to control them and let her be free, things might have gone quite well. Because, I'm definitely not as controlling/boring as the cancer guy you describe. The love and fun was there - greatly. The insecurities killed everything. 😢

Oh yes, that one I've read in many places. But ahh well, only time will tell. In the meantime, I'm just going to focus on myself and my goals. Thanks for the replies 🙂

Posted by throwaway77
I'm guessing this is the main info we need. So here's mine:

Sun 14°13' Cancer

Moon 26°04' Libra

Mercury 23°59' Gemini

Venus 1°50' Cancer

Mars 21°35' Virgo

Jupiter 6°37' Я Sagittarius

Saturn 24°45' Я Pisces

Uranus 29°05' Я Capricorn

Neptune 24°27' Я Capricorn

Pluto 28°06' Я Scorpio

Chiron 22°12' Virgo

Ceres 4°31' Virgo

Pallas 4°15' Leo

Juno 22°55' Я Sagittarius

Vesta 9°08' Leo

Node 2°45' Scorpio

Lilith 12°45' Я Cancer

Fortune 2°54' Capricorn

AS 14°45' Aries

MC 11°14' Capricorn

How old are you and your gf?

You said your insecurities drove her away, but that you are not controlling.

What type of insecurities are you talking about and what do you think actually hurt her enough to break up with you?

Don't wait up for her at all.. u will just be wasting your time .. sorry

Posted by jane84
You said your insecurities drove her away, but that you are not controlling.

What type of insecurities are you talking about and what do you think actually hurt her enough to break up with you?

One where I'd become upset about her interaction with guys. So it was the jealousy type - not the controlling one. I will agree it's equally as bad, but I wasn't aware of it until she actually slipped away. It was my first relationship, and I had zero experience and limited knowledge of what's ok and what isn't. The truth is that I never wanted to hurt her. In fact all I wanted was​ to make her happy. I just didn't realise until after everything fell apart, that for her to be happy, I needed to realise she's a free spirited person and not be insecure about it. She loved being with me, and she told me openly about what it was the insecurities/jealousy that pushed her away. That's​ how I know so surely​.

Posted by Ganon
You said yourself that you pushed her too far and that you have hurt her.

Have you worked on those negativities? Did you work on yourself?

You want her back? For what? So you can crush her spirit even more?

Sag women can't deal with this negative, heavy energie. It's breaking their spirit, drains their energy.

Please leave that woman alone!

Oh I have. Respecting her decision is the least I could do now. But the truth will remain the truth - we madly loved each other. And had I known about my issue while she was still with me, I'd have worked on it. Plus, people grow up, and I'm not too enticed by the thought of me being insecure/jealous in the future. So have I changed? I won't be the judge of that. But I will say I'm learning to and starting to look at things rationally.

Posted by SofiaV87
Don't wait up for her at all.. u will just be wasting your time .. sorry

Yes, I'm trying to move forward​. It's just really hard because I loved her so much. I guess I'll just focus on me and live my life to the fullest, and be open to reconciliation down the road if things ever get there.

Posted by Orchidee


How old are you and your gf?

Ex-gf*.

And I'm 21 and she's 18.

Posted by throwaway77

Posted by jane84
You said your insecurities drove her away, but that you are not controlling.

What type of insecurities are you talking about and what do you think actually hurt her enough to break up with you?

One where I'd become upset about her interaction with guys. So it was the jealousy type - not the controlling one. I will agree it's equally as bad, but I wasn't aware of it until she actually slipped away. It was my first relationship, and I had zero experience and limited knowledge of what's ok and what isn't. The truth is that I never wanted to hurt her. In fact all I wanted was​ to make her happy. I just didn't realise until after everything fell apart, that for her to be happy, I needed to realise she's a free spirited person and not be insecure about it. She loved being with me, and she told me openly about what it was the insecurities/jealousy that pushed her away. That's​ how I know so surely​.

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I understand, I am a free spirited person as well. I was with a Taurus that was like that with me. It pushed me away too. But I lasted 15 years with him. He never changed. It is extremely difficult to be with someone who doesn't trust you. I tried to make him feel secure every day. But in turn had to lose a part of who I am. I felt beyond chained and when I just gave in and just compromised and stopped all contact with many people...again, losing a part of who I was, I was miserable. Not being okay with friends of the opposite sex is not bad if your partner is the same way. The crazy thing is, the more you love a free spirit, the more they want to be next to you, rather than run away. That trust is so calming and beautiful. I am a Libra with a Sag. (Although, I know many will say there are unstable Sags and Libras and of course there are...) but we are so stable.

Maybe you just need to let go and be true to yourself. If you had someone who thought more like you, maybe you wouldn't feel so insecure? I do feel as though my free spirit also hurt my ex. It triggered a lot of his insecurities at times. But it was either I become someone different or he did. In the end, neither of us would have been happy if we were not able to overcome that unfortunately... and we were not...it created all kinds of other problems.

My father is a Cancer... he has been like that with my Mom since they were 15. But she doesn't care for being social. She's a Scorpio.

Posted by jane84
I understand, I am a free spirited person as well. I was with a Taurus that was like that with me. It pushed me away too. But I lasted 15 years with him. He never changed. It is extremely difficult to be with someone who doesn't trust you. I tried to make him feel secure every day. But in turn had to lose a part of who I am. I felt beyond chained and when I just gave in and just compromised and stopped all contact with many people...again, losing a part of who I was, I was miserable. Not being okay with friends of the opposite sex is not bad if your partner is the same way. The crazy thing is, the more you love a free spirit, the more they want to be next to you, rather than run away. That trust is so calming and beautiful. I am a Libra with a Sag. (Although, I know many will say there are unstable Sags and Libras and of course there are...) but we are so stable.

Maybe you just need to let go and be true to yourself. If you had someone who thought more like you, maybe you wouldn't feel so insecure? I do feel as though my free spirit also hurt my ex. It triggered a lot of his insecurities at times. But it was either I become someone different or he did. In the end, neither of us would have been happy if we were not able to overcome that unfortunately... and we were not...it created all kinds of other problems.

My father is a Cancer... he has been like that with my Mom since they were 15. But she doesn't care for being social. She's a Scorpio.

Thanks for your insight. 🙂 Just gonna keep pushing forward with an open mind.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Don't wait up for her at all.. u will just be wasting your time .. sorry

Yes, I'm trying to move forward​. It's just really hard because I loved her so much. I guess I'll just focus on me and live my life to the fullest, and be open to reconciliation down the road if things ever get there.

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Yea that sounds perfect .. I know it hurts but there's another lady out here who is more compatible with u

"But in my case the thing that drove her away was my insecurities. "

no, kid, you don't look for any failure in yourself. it was the nature that spoke. she's young. she has 3-4 Sag placements. venus!!!!!!!! venus in Sag. you didn't do anything wrong. (oops, I didn't even read your thread and the other posts, hopefuly I did not miss an important note)

no, your Moons are in square. and square to your Sun. you have Cancer Venus. think of your own needs.

There could have been a chance with her Cap Moon that she follows old- style love and commitment, especially if her upbringing helped. But other than that she had still a long way to go. I don't know if Bungeejumping could have saved your relationship. Maybe... I don't know. Nobody knows.

"I don't know if Bungeejumping could have saved your relationship" - this made me giggle 😄

Yeah you should be lol

Sorry for being bitter, I've seen so much that I don't care anymore. You gonna cry a little bit until someone new comes around, don't worry 🙂

Posted by Sagisa
"One where I'd become upset about her interaction with guys. So it was the jealousy type - not the controlling one. I will agree it's equally as bad, but I wasn't aware of it until she actually slipped away."

Yeah this.. will make me find a way to wiggle out as well.

We know our boundaries when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex. Having someone getting upset about my interaction with other people feels heavy, blocking.. i dont know.. it's not a good feeling and I hate it. Because I love talking to people of all sex, ages and cultures. And I know my boundaries.

Yesss... Well, a little something I'll keep in mind if any of my future SO's turn out to be sags. 😄 Actually wth, no... Correct that to "for all future SO's" hahaha

" A year and a bit went by and to my surprise, she told me she missed me a lot and that my love made her feel safe unlike anything else. "



Yes, that's something a Cappy Moon Sag says. I've said similar things whilst burning my bridges.