@TaurusDivine
10 Years
Cancer guy keeps texting me first and then ignores my messages. Any insight?
Why Cancer Man Keeps Texting but Ignores Your Replies
A Cancer man may initiate contact out of interest but become unresponsive due to emotional uncertainty or fear of commitment. His behavior could also reflect mixed feelings or a desire for reassurance. Understanding his emotional nature can clarify his inconsistent responses and help you decide how to proceed.
Posted by TaurusDivine
Out of history. We used to have great conversations. Now Cancer guy keeps texting me first. And when I answer and ask him about his day, he checks up my txt(s) and no response. Then in a couple of days he again texts me and asks me stuff and then again is unresponsive to my questions about his life despite he's online.Ugh. I HATE guys who do that. After the second time I would have stopped talking to him completely and deleted his number.
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Before doing so, I'd like to understand the trigger that keeps him acting like that.
Posted by Arielle83
Interested, but not that interested.I hate being asked about my day. We don't really like to talk about ourselves. Talk about some world issue or something.
Why does he keep asking me about my day? He knows I don't like it either.
Besides a couple of days I asked for his opinion but he again ignored the answer. He read the message but no response.
It's going on like 2 weeks already.
Posted by Arielle83
Interested, but not that interested.I hate being asked about my day. We don't really like to talk about ourselves. Talk about some world issue or something.
Why does he keep asking me about my day? He knows I don't like it either.
Besides a couple of days I asked for his opinion but he again ignored the answer. He read the message but no response.Some people just use social media like that. Don´t overthink it.
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He didn't use to be like that. He always responded, apologised if he was busy to respond beforehand. And suddenly this!
He prob just still cares about you,but doesn't want you as a girlfriend,thats why he might act cold,it might be a sign that he is fading from you life and will disapear someday,or he might just have huge problems in his life right now,can't rly tell unless you talk to him
Block his number, and see if he cares
He just texted (at the end of the day) about 10 messages about his day, and asked how i have spent mine. I try not to read into this too much but that's not okay. What's the matter?
I didn't answer either of his questions. Said I'm disappointed with his attitude as when I choose to talk to someone I usually spend some quality time.
Let him be, move on..
I posted i'm disappointed with the situation as I wrote abov. He read and keeps silent. We're not dating. Is that a signal he wants to break up at all and not talk ever to me? I'm pretty done.
Are there any cancer guys who have done this? So what was the purpuse?
I won't beg for his attention. He was welcome either to stay or leave. If that's his tactics to leave, let it be. Just all those mixed-type sygnals aren't mature.
I know this is not easy to hear but if you're not dating then he has the right to do, or not do, whatever he wants. As do you.
I've found, through my experiences with these Immature crab boys, if you're not dating but you want to keep him around, you really can't have any expectations of them. Not any. as in, none at all. It's the only way to keep your sanity while wading through the quagmire. It's a sad way to look at it, but it's true that if you don't have any expectations, you won't be disappointed.
But don't do like I did, have a drink, and then actually tell him that you don't have any expectations of him anymore. 'Cus then he'll get all butthurt about not being perceived as a good person...Funny that they want to be thought of as good guys while they act like complete asshats.
I met an Aries guy who was just the same. It's mind games, they like to feel in control. he texts just to make sure you're still interested, when you reply he knows he still has you on a piece of string. It's an ego boost for immature and insecure guys. I think it just displays lack of personality on their part.
Move on. Don't wait for any explanation. Do it now. Do it short. If you ask and doubt - this man isn't for you. This truth just comes out of your questions.
This guy is insane!!! I do not respond and he keeps texting me asking how has been every part of my day. Ok if no respect, what is that? An alien came to his place and imprisoned him? hilarious...
Posted by Koniucha
Tell him an alien came and imprisoned you.
He went berserk! He even accused me I do not know in what... And now silent treatment. That's it.
Should I congratulate such a guy on Easter? Would you?
Posted by TaurusDivine
Should I congratulate such a guy on Easter? Would you?Congratulate for what?
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We have always congratulated each other on everything. If I don't, I feel i will never talk to him
Posted by Flo
I would had pushed him aside.. LolI'm telling you, it wouldn't work for me.
I'm not a Catholic. He is. He might congratulate me if I were.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I think if you continue to answer him, it needs to be with absolutely no expectation. He's keeping you in arm's reach, but also at arm's reach. You're a fall back. Knowing this, you can either keep him as your fall back or move on. I mean, answering back is friendly, but ultimately it's not your friendship he wants.
Yesterday I sent him a long message explaining why I had been irritated the day before and what kind of treatment (generally) I expect in my life. He read and didn't anser. Now I feel he won't answer and won't initiate any further talk. It's dead already.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I think if you continue to answer him, it needs to be with absolutely no expectation. He's keeping you in arm's reach, but also at arm's reach. You're a fall back. Knowing this, you can either keep him as your fall back or move on. I mean, answering back is friendly, but ultimately it's not your friendship he wants.Yesterday I sent him a long message explaining why I had been irritated the day before and what kind of treatment (generally) I expect in my life. He read and didn't anser. Now I feel he won't answer and won't initiate any further talk. It's dead already.
Then I wouldn't for sure.
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Thank you for your answers. I still hesitate. But I feel my comngratulating might be viewed as weakness and giving in ( and I don't wnt to lower those standards i've already communicated to him)
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I think if you continue to answer him, it needs to be with absolutely no expectation. He's keeping you in arm's reach, but also at arm's reach. You're a fall back. Knowing this, you can either keep him as your fall back or move on. I mean, answering back is friendly, but ultimately it's not your friendship he wants.Yesterday I sent him a long message explaining why I had been irritated the day before and what kind of treatment (generally) I expect in my life. He read and didn't anser. Now I feel he won't answer and won't initiate any further talk. It's dead already.
Quite possibly. But I had a Cancer guy do this to me. Hell, two years later and I'll still get a random FB message out of the blue. There was a time I was semi interested, but once I realized what he was doing, I'd just answer back out of politeness. Consider him an absent minded pen pal. If my experience is anything to go by, you probably haven't heard the last of him.
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Yes, He'll probably drop a casual line in several months. It already happened. I once told him I didn't understand all those flirty casual messages without wish to get things forward. And he answered 2 months right away asking me out.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I think if you continue to answer him, it needs to be with absolutely no expectation. He's keeping you in arm's reach, but also at arm's reach. You're a fall back. Knowing this, you can either keep him as your fall back or move on. I mean, answering back is friendly, but ultimately it's not your friendship he wants.Yesterday I sent him a long message explaining why I had been irritated the day before and what kind of treatment (generally) I expect in my life. He read and didn't anser. Now I feel he won't answer and won't initiate any further talk. It's dead already.
Then I wouldn't for sure.
Thank you for your answers. I still hesitate. But I feel my comngratulating might be viewed as weakness and giving in ( and I don't wnt to lower those standards i've already communicated to him)
The only thing I liked that scorpiofish guy would say is that it's like you are at a tennis match, or something.
You can't play if your partner does not send the ball back.
I butchered that, but you get the point. This guys is blatantly ignoring you and he needs to go far away.
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Yes, I totally agree with you and that I need to get over him. and it's already hard
Posted by Ohdear
I met an Aries guy who was just the same. It's mind games, they like to feel in control. he texts just to make sure you're still interested, when you reply he knows he still has you on a piece of string. It's an ego boost for immature and insecure guys. I think it just displays lack of personality on their part.
T.H.I.S
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I think if you continue to answer him, it needs to be with absolutely no expectation. He's keeping you in arm's reach, but also at arm's reach. You're a fall back. Knowing this, you can either keep him as your fall back or move on. I mean, answering back is friendly, but ultimately it's not your friendship he wants.Yesterday I sent him a long message explaining why I had been irritated the day before and what kind of treatment (generally) I expect in my life. He read and didn't anser. Now I feel he won't answer and won't initiate any further talk. It's dead already.
Then I wouldn't for sure.
Thank you for your answers. I still hesitate. But I feel my comngratulating might be viewed as weakness and giving in ( and I don't wnt to lower those standards i've already communicated to him)
The only thing I liked that scorpiofish guy would say is that it's like you are at a tennis match, or something.
You can't play if your partner does not send the ball back.
I butchered that, but you get the point. This guys is blatantly ignoring you and he needs to go far away.
Yes, I totally agree with you and that I need to get over him. and it's already hard
Oh trust me, I get it. Obsessive Scorp over here!
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So it's true scorps are obsessive) What are you obsessive about?
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Out of history. We used to have great conversations. Now Cancer guy keeps texting me first. And when I answer and ask him about his day, he checks up my txt(s) and no response. Then in a couple of days he again texts me and asks me stuff and then again is unresponsive to my questions about his life despite he's online.